I've been dating a guy two months.....Things are going wonderful, he is everything I've always wanted. We have spent alot of time together, and he has even told me that he has already fallen in love with me, and I with him.......we are both a couple years away from 30, and have our heads on straight. I just keep worrying that he will change his mind. I realize you can never predict the future, but if things are going so well why do I feel so scared that things will fall apart. I know my self-esteem can get weak in a relationship because of past bad ones, but I also have moved on and try to make the most of things. Any advice or input?
2006-08-13 16:34:05 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
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2006-08-13 16:38:13 · answer #1 · answered by Timf4515 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two months isn't very long, so just keep your wits about you. If you have some doubts about the guy, you could check criminal records, marriage and divorce records, outstanding traffic citations, and the like, at the county court house or even perphaps on line, depending upon your state. You neither one are kids, so if things are still doing well a year from now, you might consider the next step. One piece of advice -- share a year and all the holidays together before you make a committment.... Good luck. Love is the most lovely of feelings, isn't it?
2006-08-13 23:39:49 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have both have previous relations and have both been hurt by them. Not all of them, but some. So you suffer from anxiety that something is going to happen to break this one up. It would be easy to say don't worry about it. But, that would be only words. However, at the same time that you worry about it, you could make it a self fulfilling prophecy. Try to accept him for the warm caring person that he is. Allow him into your life, as much as you can, and try to accept him as well.
2006-08-13 23:39:01 · answer #3 · answered by rb_cubed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with the flow if you keep thinking things will go wrong they prob will pos energy goes a long long stay pos and put the bad stuff behind you and leave it there live life to the fullest laugh like there's nothing wrong and love like you've never loved b4 its all worth the little bumps in the road finding the one you truly love is worth the wait
2006-08-13 23:46:59 · answer #4 · answered by lonly_male4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you are worried about history repeating itself. Just relax and let things come naturally and everything will be okay. Good luck!
2006-08-13 23:55:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The past haunts you. Nothing will go wrong be very dertermined and be lively. Be bold and straight forward with your fiance . Fear is the devil and spoilsport drive this away from your mind and be happy.
2006-08-13 23:42:35 · answer #6 · answered by ssmindia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're in love. that's how i felt when i first met my boyfriend. things weren't gonna work out. he was too old for me and what not. we're together now and its great. its just a weak feeling. things will go great if you really love eachother. you know that. just put the bad ones away. you're in a great relationship. hope it helps. :)
2006-08-13 23:39:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
your scared because the past haunts you but you cant d that because then yur relationship will fall apart because youll be always comparing him to the past you have to let go or you wont have anybody take this oppurtunity to be happy if you belive it will work good luck
2006-08-13 23:41:27 · answer #8 · answered by shyshy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what? you shouldnt be so scared, because you cant predict the outcome of the future. just leave it how it is because you wouldnt want anything to go wrong because of what you think. let life lead where it goes. if he's meant for you, he'll be there...just dont worry about it...well, this is just my opinion but i hope i didnt offend you or anyone in anyway...
2006-08-13 23:40:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
2 months, things going great and you're worried/scared. Quite natural to worry about losing something great, cause we DIDN'T WANT TO LOSE IT! Talk to him about your feelings/worries about losing him, assured him that he really meant everything and get some assurance back (from him). You should feel better :-) Good luck, my friend.
2006-08-13 23:40:34 · answer #10 · answered by TK 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋