What should I do??? Why do I feel like this???

Question

I know I asked this question like a billion times, but I want more answers.
Ok my mom died when I was 8 I am now 14, but instead of the hurt going away it comes stronger. Why does it do this??? It seems like everything I do reminds me of my mom now, what should I do???
If you are going to tell me that I need to talk to someone older like a friend, I have an 18 year old friend thats a girl and she is like a big sister to me but I don't want to bug her with my problems. But should I still try to talk to her???

Answer 1

you are hurting now because you are at the age where you need your mom and that hurts,you need her for guidance and support,now more than ever,you should try to talk to your friend if you cant go to her and tell her what bothers you then what is she there for,you wouldn't be bugging her i think she would be a great person to talk too.i wish you the best.

Answer 2

Yes, you should try to talk to her. It would at least allow you to verbalize what you are feeling and that may help.
One thing you need to know is that your feelings are completely normal. Your pain feels stronger because you are going through milestones in your life, such as grade 8 graduation, becoming a teen, entering high school, finding out your dreams and goals for the future. When we go through these milestones, no matter how small they are, we want to be able to share them with our family and friends. It is painfully obvious that your Mom is not there to share or celebrate these things with you, so you are feeling the hurt stronger. I, for one, believe firmly that she sees everything that you have become and that she is "present" for all of your important milestones.
Don't worry about asking the question again and again. That's what all of the people are here for..to answer questions.
So, go have a talk to your friend and see if that helps, but remember..YOUR feelings are 100% NORMAL.
Take care sweetie and I hope you are feeling better soon.

Answer 3

Its just gonna take time. time heals all. there are groups im sure that you can join. I myself am not into church, but maybe that's a place for you. if anything you can meet some more friends. Just try to remember that your mom loved you, and that she would want you to start living, and stop thinking about her dying. I know its hard, but you have to stay strong. I think you do need someone to talk to. the best way to get feelings out is to understand the feelings and the more you talk about them the more you will understand them.
I hope you feel better, and I know you will get through this. it just takes a little time.
your mom loves you, and is probably watching over you right now, so give her a smile. It will make you feel better I think.
good luck.

Answer 4

Hello. You are obviously searching for one answer that will let your heart feel better and take away your pain. You obviously loved your mom very much and her death has left a space in your heart that just won't heal. As you are getting older maybe you miss her more and are coming to terms with the fact that she is not there anymore. She is gone. This is the hardest thing to accept when a person dies. That they are gone forever and are not coming back. It leaves a hole in ones heart and it hurts not to be able to have them back. You need to go and speak to a professional and get some help with coming to terms with your loss. It will help to give you closure and heal your heart sooner. Don't speak to someone who can't relate to how you feel. Everyone feels different when they loose a loved one, it changes your life forever. Good luck and be strong!

Answer 5

So Sori... Grief never goes, Talk to someone you are close to. It lessens the pain, give it some time, try doing something which occupys most of your time. Something prob. some acitivty, sport etc whereby you dont have much time to think. Also trying talking 2 ur sister, she may also be going through the same. Cry, it eases the pain.

Answer 6

Of course try to talk to her
and if you still feel guilty if you feel as if you are waisting her time
ask her or your dad if they no a kid pshycoligist
ig you are from around Arlington Heights
Then At Northwest Community Hospital they have Child Pshycoligy there
DOn't Be embarressed
always talk to someone
or when your school starts
Talk to your School Counciler

Answer 7

you miss your mom... talk to someone who will listen to you in your family- like your dad. I bet they misses her too... I'm sorry for what happened! But here's another tip- when you miss her, just think about the good times you had w/ her- and most importantly: know that she's in a better place now

GOOD LUCK- Be Strong...

Answer 8

OH I'M SO SORRY I SURE YOU LOVE HER AND I KNOW IT'S NOT GONE GO AWAY BUT THE OLDER YOU GET THE BETTER IT'LL GET AND I KNOW HAVING SOMEONE OLDER TO TALK TO WILL HELP BUT THERE'S NO WAY THEY WILL UNDERSTAND THEY SAY THEY WILL BUT IT'LL NEVER GO AWAY AND YOU CAN TALK TO HER AS MUCH AS YOU WANT BUT SOME STUFF JUST WON'T COME OUT .

Answer 9

oh honey i'm sorry you have to go through this..every kid needs their mom..especially when u are a teenager...the pain will never go away...it will always be there...
talk to your dad...remember all the goodtimes with your mom..have you dad or other family members tell you stories about your mom.. it cant bring her back but it can make you feel closer to her..
and this might sound stange but talk to your mom..i know when i do this it always makes me feel better..

Answer 10

i read a book on grief. it never goes away. the hurt lessens, and you accept it, but it never really goes away. my cousin died about 8 years ago. he was the closest thing i've ever had to a real brother. i still cry about it.