I divorced my ex-husband because he took my vehicle that I drive to work, and sold it. He has done many things in the past, but selling my vehicle was the last straw. My parents paid for my divorce because they would help me get another car if I divorce him. The only problem was, he told me a lie that he hasn't signed the divorce papers yet, so we made love before the divorce was finalized. When the divorce was finalized, I found out I was pregnant. My ex-husband begged for me back after finding out and took care of me while pregnant. But, when my baby was 6 months old, he left us and I was going to school and couldn't pay the bills, so I moved back with my parents. He said he left because I yelled at him. I only yelled because of the hurtful things he did in the past. Well, my baby is 18 months and I regret yelling at him, but he should never have left. Right now, we're seeing each other. Should I bother? He hasn't told me he loves me yet. He just says I'm different from other women.
2006-08-13 16:25:22 · 13 answers · asked by angelolori1976 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I ended up in the hospital in July 2005 because I was paralyzed with the way my mother was pulling me in one direction and my ex-husband was pulling me in another direction. I was tired of them fighting each other over me and my baby. When I was released from the hospital, my ex-husband finally called it quit and said we can't be together because he didn't think I was stable. After that, we fought custody over my son and guess what, I won! He refused to pay 1400 for a lawyer to get custody, so he just let me have him instead. But, for some reason, he wants to get back together again because something happened to his previous relationship he was having with another woman. I think she found out she couldn't trust him and her family didn't like him, so he is desperate to be with me since I'm easy, which is true. I'm weak. But, how do you know if he loves you or not? He calls me EVERY single day! I like the phone calls because it makes me feel needed. How do I tell him "good-bye"?
2006-08-13 16:55:03 · update #1
He lied to you and you're still wondering if you should stay with him?
He walked out on you because "you yelled at him" and you're still wondering if you should stay with him?
He sold your car without even talking to you about it first and you're wondering if you should stay with him?
Yes, you're different from other women - most women would be smart enough to dump him and move on with their lives after being hit over the head so many times.
2006-08-13 16:51:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Boy are you thick. The guy sells your car????, and he tells you you are different that other women????? oh good. He phuking you and someone else (or maybe several) too!!!! In your place I couldn't run away fast enough. And you are thinking of taking this child back????? What ARE you thinking. If I were your parents, I'd toss your sorry a$$ out and let you figure out just what a looser he is , and probably you are one as well, but there is a child involved. Now think, is this the man you want your child to copy????? What ARE you thinking. This is one of the most stupid situations I have ever read on this site. Your self esteem must be in a ditch. Get some counseling, honey. You love being a door mat waaaayyyy toooo much.
2006-08-13 16:33:13 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what can i tell you,for a girl who never take crap from anyone(which explains why i haven't being in arelationship for the past 3years)the only thing i can tell you is dont think about him think about you.do you want to be in a relationship with someone who is not mature enough to act responsible.yes i know you have a child but is he man enough to be a father and a role model,selling your car ,moving out after a child comes a long ,what if there was no mommy or daddy for you to go back to.
He hasn't told you he loves you yet !,our instincts are most often time right,u can tell you don't need him to tell you."do u think he loves u"answer honestly if its "no",move on,don't put yourself up for another heartbreak couple months or years from now because by that time ,you would have already healed and if its "yes" pray for ur man,get counselling and try to save your marriage but at the same time,there are times in life when love just aint enough.you are young i don't know you but u must be lovely to be this forgiving ,don't wish u had done differently 20 years from now.you might ask for help but at the end of the day only you really know what you are up against do some self search .one love sis
2006-08-13 16:44:51 · answer #3 · answered by sexyjamaicanbabe24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay far far away from this guy. He's is not mature enough to be in a relationship. He's with you now because you are loving him and he likes it. He's not doing anything for you except giving you some kind of VERY TEMPORARY good feelings. He will never treat you how you deserve to be treated. Make a list of all the reasons he's bad for you. (or we can) And read it over and over to yourself every time you think of seeing him.
If its hard for you to say good bye, think of how much he already hurt you. Tell him straightforwardly that if wants to be a father, you can't deprieve him of that, but that you deserve better. And follow your instincts- I think you KNOW that this is wrong and that it just feels good now. Be confident in that you can continue to take care of yourself and your child on your own and with help from family and friends, he is no good for you.
Straightforwardly: He's using you. Tell him what you need to tell him. And then don't speak with him unless its about the child.
-Why don't you make a list of all the things you'd want in your dream guy - Try - dark hair, light eyes, devoted to family, passionate, good cook - every detail of what you'd dream of; rate them on importance compared to your values, and see how he lines up. That should make it pretty clear.
2006-08-13 16:38:00 · answer #4 · answered by Kaitelia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not to be mean but i dont think it will work,you will always hurt from the things he has done. and why should you walk on egg shells?so what if you yelled at him! he should suck it up because he deserves it look at everything hes done!its time to start worrying about you and your baby,and move on cause he is draggin you down,he is not going to change and it will always be something,so let your parents help you and really use it this time to get your feet on the ground and close that chapter in your life so you can start a promising one
2006-08-13 17:08:26 · answer #5 · answered by happy-go-lucky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone loves you that means you can count on them to be there for you. They would encourage you to be the best you can be. They would not take your belongings without permission. You would always feel safe around them.
Your guy is a LOSER. Please read up on some relationship books and your standards for men will increase.
You deserve better. Good luck with the baby :)
2006-08-13 16:46:37 · answer #6 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't waste my time with a guy like that. He sounds like he needs to grow up a bit and re-prioritize. To leave because you yelled at him?! I think maybe you should sit that boy down and have a good heart to heart with him. If he doesn't tell you he is in it for the long haul, then move on. Life is too short to be wasting time with someone who doesn't love you, even if it is your child's father.
2006-08-13 16:32:14 · answer #7 · answered by Antisocial 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-06 12:03:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the little fella runs everytime you raise your voice let the liar go, he is playing you, your parents and now your innocent baby. Put your foot firmly up his *** and say not one more day will I take your ****!
2006-08-13 16:34:06 · answer #9 · answered by want2flybye 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is sooo immature.you could do better by yourself than with him..tell him to grow a pair or never see his baby again..find another man that is worth it
2006-08-13 16:29:37 · answer #10 · answered by aoinerekai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋