What do you think of chastity for unmarried people?

Question

Do you think it's a good idea to never have sex before marriage, What are the benefits and down sides of chastity?

Answer 1

Benifits:
*can't get pregnant
*no std's
*get to explore sex for the first time with the one you love and want to spend your life with
*Know beyond a shadow of a doubt that this person doesn't just want to have sex


Downside
*really really hard not to give into passion

Answer 2

This question is asked every day by countless people. One problem is the definition of sex. It would be absurd to get married without a little hugging and kissing, at least but in some societies with arranged marriages the couple may meet for the first time on the wedding day.

If difficult circumstances (even unjust laws) prevent marriage, then some people may just say that they are married since their friends recognize their marriage.

However, the bad thing about sex, as most define it as intercourse or something close to it, may make the couple get so crazy that they end up making a terrible marriage.

Often, though, if people do have sex before marriage, and really love each other, they go on to get married and do all right but there may be some unnecessary suspicions that one of them might cheat in the future.

From hard experiences, I will tell you that if you can't trust the person you love, it can be horrible.

Answer 3

I recall something I read in a book by a very wise man named Jim Dant. He was my Old Testament professor and gave each student a copy of his book "Background Music: Notes to my Daughter." This is exactly one of the issues he tackle in his book. First thing he does is he denounces the slogan "Just say No!" as being impotent, inadequate, and toxic. It doesn't teach adolescents to grapple with issues until a sane and reasonable answer is found, it just tells them to avoid it entirely, all the while they're going to have to face it sooner or later.
Dr. Dant tells his daughter to "be comfortable with your sexual development and exploration...Know your body. Care for your body. Appreciate your body. Know what you enjoy-what gives you pleasure-and know what makes you uncomfortable" (p. 35). He also explains the natural development of intimate relationships (holding hands, kissing, touching, then intercourse) and that these are "the right things" if exercised at the right time with the right person. The rule of thumb he gives at the end is to never let your physical relationship outpace your emotional and physical relationship. He does, however, explain that intercourse is best reserved for marriage because then you can fully-and without reservation-give yourself physically, emotionally, and spiritually to your partner.
"Before marriage? Be creative. Be safe. Forget Guilt. Enjoy the wonderful age and gifts God has given you...I was a virgin and your mother was a virgin when we were married...creativity was the key..." (p. 36)
Dr. Dant concludes this chapter with "Watch your pace..." (p. 37).

As for chastity, it's a perversion of human nature and behavior and the only true perversion.

Answer 4

I think it's a great idea for those who choose it.

I also think it was easier for people to avoid tawdry sex in the days when "everyone" expected a virgin bride, although I know that my parents slept together before they married in 1950, and so did many others.

I do not think that the guilt that went along with premarital sex was a good thing, though. I wish there was a way to teach kids to be moderate without making them feel like sluts (or boy sluts, though I don't get the feeling that many boys feel bad if they're "doing it" too much) if they aren't.

Answer 5

I think no sex before marriage is an excellant idea and a command from God. Our body is our gift to our spouse when we get married. Why give it away to someone else? If you have sex before marriage and end up marrying someone else, you are taking the chance of comparing that person to your spouse. Or taking the chance of thinking about them in bed. Benefits are not getting any STD's, being able to tell your spouse you are a virgin...how often does that really happen? And obeying God!!
Save yourself for your special night!

Answer 6

Benefit: You don't get suckered into an unwanted marriage with an unwanted baby...didn't happen to me, but I think everyone knows at least one person that happened to.

Downside: You may always wonder what its like to have sex with someone else if you never got the chance.

Answer 7

Chastity is bullshit. People should be in control of their bodies. I am in control of my body, and I believe that sex before marriage is just fine, but I'm not pregnant. What people don't seem to realize is that it's possible to be responsible AND non-Christian!

Answer 8

I do not think that it is not a good idea because it may potentially pose a threat for family security by degrading relevance of one the important factors. I do not think that there are any downsides because if a person is not special to you, there is no point in finding out how it feels to sleep with that person

Answer 9

I know I'm in the minority, but I believe in it, mostly for religious reasons, but I also think it cheapens it when you have a lot of different partners. Maybe it's old-fashioned, but I believe it's something special, only to be shared with the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.

Answer 10

TO EACH HIS OWN. THE CHOICES WE MAKE IN LIFE ARE VERY IMPORTANT. CHASTITY IS A WONDERFUL THING. IT ALLOWS YOU TO ENDOW THE PARTNER OF YOUR LIFE TO EXPERIENCE THE GIFT OF VIRGINITY. IT ALSO PROTECTS AGAINST A WORLD OF DISEASE THAT IS SPREAD BY FORNICATION.
I DO NOT JUDGE ANYONE FOR THE CHOICE TO SHARE THEIR BODY WITH ANOTHER.