hey people, well ive bin seeing my girl for a year n a month,ive never felt so in love with anyone as i do her n thought she felt the same. we always told each other how much we loved each other n spoke about our future together,shes like my best friend n the love of my life n we could speak about anythin.everythins bin great in our relationship up until the other day id finished work n got a letter left on my bed sayin she doesnt know how she feels anymore,shes confused coz shes feels too young to settle down even though i make her so happy but she doesnt feel the same as earlier in our relationship but she doesnt wana lead me on coz she could be stopping me from meeting the girl im actually supposed to be with. now she wont txt bk or nothin. its hurtin so much coz i know she is the one im supposed to be with, theres no one who could ever compair.may sound like a cleche but i cant eat,sleep or stop thinkin bout her,its makin me ill,shes my all,does she jus need space to know its real?
2006-08-13 15:58:37 · 7 answers · asked by davros 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If she says she needs space, give her space. She is probably feeling overwhelmed by how serious your relationship was getting and needs to decide if she is ready to be that committed to you. About the only thing you can do is to give her her freedom and hope she comes around. I know it sucks to hear that but it's the best thing you can do right now. If you bug her too much she's going to think you have control issues and will never come back. Try backing down a bit and see if maybe you can still be friends. See if she wants to just hang out without talking about the relationship. If she says no though let it be. Don't pressure her, just back and off and let her come back to you if that's what she wants to do. I don't know what else to tell ya...good luck.
2006-08-13 16:06:26 · answer #1 · answered by Antisocial 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been the girl in this situation. I am younger than my bf (4 yrs). He is ready for marriage and kids and I don't know if I'm ready. We've been 2gether since I was 17 (about 5 yrs). I don't know how old your girl is but I have asked for space in my relationship twice. The first time was 3 yrs into the relationship right after we decided to live together. I wanted space because I really wanted to know if this was the guy for me, for the rest of my life. Sometimes you have to take a step back in order to move forward. I moved with my sister for about 9 days. I couldn't stop thinking about my bf. So we got back together and things were great. A year later I wanted space because I wanted to see other people (just me not him). I cheated I'm not proud of that. I'm not saying this to confuse you, but you have to let her go in order to keep her. If you smother her it will just push her away. Give her space but let her know that she needs to be reasonable with the time she expects her to wait. This is important to her. It's better that you find out how she really feels now than later, because you can just feel worst than you do now further down the line.
2006-08-13 23:22:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear this... But you have two options to go with... Either A, she really is confused and not ready for a relationship at all at this time... or B, she decided that she didn't want to be tied down... possiably some guys have been hitting on her... and she wants to explore...
For someone who's been in your shoues... I'd say be sad for a week... Be mad for a week... and start looking for a new girl the next... Although I'd say it be worth wating on... Girls these days dont' know what they want or what's good for them...so go find yourself an actuall woman...
2006-08-13 23:06:40 · answer #3 · answered by Rob D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u just need to give her time to relax and see what SHE really wants. give her her space if she was the the one then eventually u guys will be back together. dont rush it with her try not to pressure her into deciding if she needs to be with u or not. if u guys fell in love so fast and ur heart just started beating fast and slow at the same time then she will eventually come knocking on ur door explaining why she felt the way she did at the moment she wrote the letter and left. hope all goes well
2006-08-13 23:05:35 · answer #4 · answered by cotton_candy8448 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had a great relationship with her, and your next will be even better. I know it hurts but trust that God will give you the right person someday.
2006-08-13 23:03:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds confused give her time but not to much. You need to eat and sleep and take care of your self. If you don't shower her with attention it will give her time to realise she misses you....
2006-08-13 23:03:40 · answer #6 · answered by vtlovie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't know what she wants. Forget about her.
Go out and find yourself a Real girl.
2006-08-13 23:03:22 · answer #7 · answered by Latino_Lifestyle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋