i want to get pregnant at 12.i need websites on how to give birth at home and how to help someone give birth without a doctor.please give me links.my freinds will be helping me they will be there for me no matter what.i have thoght about this very hard and i am positive i want this.
2006-08-13 15:49:01 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Dear God...what is the world coming to. The girl is 12 and is so sure she wants a baby. The last thing we need is more underage mommas struggling to take care of kids. Honey, the only help I can offer you is this: have a serious talk with your physician, your parents, and possibly a counselor. There are things you haven't even begun to consider that come with having a child of your own.
2006-08-13 16:04:00 · answer #1 · answered by Alecto 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ill tell you what man im 21 years old and i have got a girlfriend whos 30 with 3 kids. your relly gona mess up a whole lot, its not a baby doll or a god danmed puppy, theres a certaint amount of respobsibility that goes into a kid that you cant possibly be at. you have about half of the life experience that you need to even consider it. do you have your own health insurence, a job, a place to live, money for endless formula, dipers, a crib, strollers car seat (for when you get a drivers license) dont forget the 5000 your gonna need to spend to get a reliable vehical and all the gas at 400 a month to shuttle from day care 500 a week to doctors appointment 60-70 w/o insurence strollers and a car seat will set you back 500 to 600. a few ultra sounds to check development and predict problems a few thousand (oh wait your just gonna handle that yourself). toys, school fees and supplys, clothes, activitys to keep your child entertained, if its ever born but you know your like a doctor and your friends will help so it will certaintly be fine.
2006-08-13 16:13:01 · answer #2 · answered by swigglybop1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok hun I know you said you want this but take it from me (had my first child at 16,just a month after turning so)and having children at an early age can do BAD things to your body.By having my first so early I had gall bladder trouble,heart problems,list goes on and on.Not to mention that you are only 12,you will be giving up alot in your life and well let's face it,you LIFE HAS JUST BEGUN!Also I might add this,the father of my first child beat me and has seen his daughter for 2 hours in 6 years......Please wait until your older,if not for yourself for the child you wish you could have now.You may think it's a "GOOD IDEA" and your friends too,but IT IS NOT!!Oh,and did I mention the joy's of being a teen mom walking into a store and the "fun"looks you get from people.You know those "oh, look at that young whore" looks.And what about how your family feels?Mine supported me but WAS NOT HAPPY with me.And I know for a fact that I let my Dad down.And to this day,that alone breaks my heart,to think I let my Dad down.Like I said think REALLY THINK about this.If no other adults you can talk to about this then here is my email (dont usually do this but damn,you need to hear the horror stories first hand) bsredneckbuterfly@yahoo.com Email me I'll let you know what it's really like being a young mom. P.S Went out and looked at the questions you already answered,and humm got one question for you,and I hope you answer it truthfully....Are you already preggo and trying to hide it from family until you deliever,so your family will let you keep it? If so, how you so sure you can still keep it then? You know they have courts that take people's kids away all day long and Hun sorry to say this but NO judge would think twice about taking your kid from you. You need to talk to your parent's,and I mean REALLY talk to them!
2006-08-13 16:25:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh Gawd.
No, you are not positive, you do not want a baby! First of all, I read in Seventeen that it's actually illegal to have sex under 16. Second of all, when my older sister was in the 8th grade, she had to take home one of those mechanical babies that cry and stuff and you can't turn them off? That thing woke her up at like, 1, then later on at 5 in the morning. It was really annoying. Why would you even want a baby? My God, you would probably have to drop out of high school, because your mother isn't going to want to have to take care of it. No, just don't do it. You won't get to graduate, go to prom, and while your friends are going out on Friday and Saturday nights in middle and high school you'll be at home with the baby. You won't get a good education, so you won't be able to have a good job and you won't be able to support your baby.
Wait till you are married, and that you have a good home, and you and your husband both have good jobs.. then you can have a baby when you can freaking handle it. God.
2006-08-13 20:06:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im taking that your friends are 11 or 12 too right??? You actually think they'll help?? I doubt their parents will let you hang out with you if your pregnant.... You are CRAZY!! Please... go talk to your mother about this...
Wait until 8th grade or Home Ec. class when they make you take home a fake baby.... TRUST me... you will definately reconsider your thinkin...
You are ruining your life... and you are being just plain stupid by thinking this... you are WAY too young...
Get a fake baby that act liek a real one (one that you cant turn off... cuz that'd be too easy)... and trust me.. you wont want one at this age.
BTW(looked at your questions) -- your still wetting the bed??? YOU ARE NOT READY FOR A BABY!!
2006-08-13 15:58:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would give you some web sites on where to go for psychiatric help. Go spend some time with a single mom for a day when the child is 2 and four years old and find out how much fun she is having.
2006-08-13 15:54:03 · answer #6 · answered by Justme 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'M TELLING U NO RESPONSIBLE ADULT, PARENT, OR EVEN TEENAGER/ADOLESCENT WILL HELP U WITH THIS. I SM JUST GOING TO PRAY THAT U WILL COME TO UR SENSES B4 ITS TOO LATE.
IF THERE R 16-24 YEAR OLDS OUT THERE HAVING BABIES AND REGRETTING IT, IMAGINE U!!!
u SHOULD NOT NOT NOT NOT NOT BE THINKING ABOUT HAVING A BABY NOW. HVAE U EVEN STARTED SEEING UR PERIOD YET?
U CAN DIE IN LABOUR OR RIGHT AFTER BCUZ OF UR AGE. THINK ABOUT THAT BABY UR PLANNING TO HAV 4 A SEC AND STOP THINKING ABOUT HOW MUCH U WANT IT
I'M TELLING U U CANT EXPECT NE DECENT PERSON OUT THERE TO HELP U WITH THIS. U MIGHT NOT SEE IT NOW BUT MOST IF NOT ALL THE PPL WHO ANSWER UR QUESTIONS ABOUT THIS R NOT GOING TO HELP U.
i think u should really tell ur school guidance counsellor about this. b4 u do sumthing really stupid. i am in ur age group(about a bit older) dont do this
p.s. i answered a question 4 u already, it technically says the same things but i included some sites...about the effects
of teenage pregnancy. visit them plz, and u'll see wat a bad choice ur gonna make.
2006-08-13 16:15:59 · answer #7 · answered by cute_but_psycho876 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ha ha your a retard to think you wanna give birth a 12!! And have you even started you period yet??? You need some psychiatric help if you are serious about this!
2006-08-13 16:14:29 · answer #8 · answered by ツ Andrea*♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what the hell is wrong with you!!!??? are you trying to ruin your whole life??? have you even gotten your period yet!!??? your friends may say they will help you but youre all just a bunch of little kids...i know you dont want to hear that but seriously, whats wrong with waiting till youve at least finished high school???? its not like if you dont have this kid now, you'll never be able to have one again....have you talked to your parents about this???
god damn, a baby trying to have a baby.
you need a therapist more than you need a kid.
2006-08-13 16:07:47 · answer #9 · answered by Lola P 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, what are you thinking? You need to rethink this decision. Do you know what having a baby is? Its a lot of responsiblity, hard work, and not very much fun. Many ADULTS aren't ready to have a baby, its much harder than you think. Please talk to an adult you trust about this.
Good luck!
2006-08-13 16:31:02 · answer #10 · answered by Aimee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋