Okay men, be honest. Would you consider dating a divorced woman who is looking for friendship maybe with benefits, but she has 4 year old triplets. Plus, somewhere down the road may want something more commited, but not marriage. Just wondering.
2006-08-13 15:46:10 · 15 answers · asked by aliveagain 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Okay, the keywords here are MAYBE WITH BENEFITS. And yes, I would like something long term, but not right now. my kids will always come first, unless the next man I am with is willing to put them first also, then he and my kids will be tied as coming first.
2006-08-13 16:51:04 · update #1
Sorry don't live in OR.
2006-08-13 16:52:52 · update #2
To be honest it's too complicated and there are way too many qualifications. First of all you have to find a guy that is comfortable enough with the fact that you have 3 kids and you are not always going to be available. Then you have to find a guy who is comfortable in his own skin enough to know that you have considerations regarding them and are not ready for something super commited anytime soon. The right guy will know this. Talk about "benefits", "may want something more, maybe", but never marry again..... Sorry but honest answer..... would send me running. It says you have stuff to work out. Benefits are great but this will just attract the wrong kind of guy that will effect you and your kids. Here's what you do. Work hard at your job and taking care of the kids. This is the focus and means all. If guys take interest tell them straight up what the situation is. If they balk, forget them. Because what will happen is eventually the right guy will come along, understand this, benefits will happen and you might find yourself surprised that you can feel this way again. Tough to wait I know but from a guy.... wait for the good guy. They will be around if you play it right.
2006-08-13 17:37:04 · answer #1 · answered by jackson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have done close to what your example shows. But no I will not even give the girl more then the time of day and she would have to ask for it.
I am tired of being used to raise someone elses kids and put up with their dad telling the kids to hit me with baseballs and to kick me in the balls when they get the chance.
Oh I forgot the ex always wanting to fight. Always a problem. You get rid of him for a couple of years and then give me a call.
Most men are not intrested in an instant family. However some are.
Sex with no strings attached where I could just come over at 10 pm and leave before morning is a can do for most any man.
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2016-05-17 04:29:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I'm just looking for the benefits... I would move on and not waste her time. She will definitely be more serious about her next relationship because she will be needing help with those kids much sooner than later.
2006-08-13 15:55:21 · answer #4 · answered by RotcehZepol 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm divorced and all I date is other divorce women with kids or without. Dating teenagers is not my thing....they lack maturity. I've done the friends with benefits thing too....it's great if both of you have no expectations of it turing into anything more.
2006-08-13 17:48:36 · answer #5 · answered by Tony 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
what do you want friend with benefits or serious relation..1st yous ay would I consider dating a girl with triplets as a friend with benefits, buttnen say you might want a relation later, cant have both, if I get into a relation it is one or the other..
2006-08-13 16:18:58 · answer #6 · answered by vincenzo445 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'll have NO trouble finding takers for "friends with benefits" and no comittment...Just realize you are presenting a gift and be careful and choosy as to whom you allow to receive it
2006-08-13 15:51:36 · answer #7 · answered by jeninsocal 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2017-02-15 08:50:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that depends entirely on what you bring to the table it is obvious that 3 / four year old children are not your strengths but make it clear that you are devoted to them and have other assets to offer and even i would be interested .
2006-08-13 16:17:44 · answer #9 · answered by guinness breath 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a man. Mother of five. Get plenty of men. You will get plenty of guys.
2006-08-13 15:50:50 · answer #10 · answered by Medical and Business Information 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋