what do u do when your lost in life and every thing u do to find yourself just make it that more complicated?

Answer 1

Sometimes we focus too much. I'm sure you know exactly what I mean. Open your eyes to the bigger picture of life and know that God has a plan for all of us. If things are not working well with yourself, turn your focus to others and your problems will either vanish or lessen with time. God loves you and will always be there for you. It sounds a tad cliche, but it IS the truth. That is definitely what you don't want to hear, but just know that when it's raining, the sun is still there, you just can't see it at that moment. I hope my words have inspired you and could help you with your situation. God bless.

Answer 2

It is difficult to respond to such an open question.

You have to make sure you are thinking logically.

If you find yourself makes decisions and all of your decision are wrong, you are on the wrong track.
Analogy - If you are on a train from Virginia to New York and the first stop is in Tennessee, the second stop is in Texas -- it is obvious --you are on the wrong train because all of the stops are in the wrong direction. At this point you have to get off of that train and get on a train headed in the direction you want to travel, rather than staying on the train headed for a stop in Arizona.

Re-evaluate your situation regarding what you are seeking. You are not in sync with universal flow, thus everything you do will be unbalanced.

Maybe you are seeking something that is not for you and this is the God's way of saying NO to you but you are persistently saying yes.

Just because this one thing is not for you does not mean there is nothing for you. It means that there is something better for you, you just have to be OPEN and allow it into your Life.

When you are being guided divinely - YOU will not have to struggle. (All of your stops will be at the right station becaue you will be on the right train)

Talk to someone you trust for guidance. This person can give you feedback. Best Wishes!

Answer 3

follow the kiss principle, keep it simple stupid.
what do you want from life?
how do you achieve it?
is there any thing in your existing life stopping you from achieving this?
I find most problems in people live can be broken down into ac hive small parts , the hard part is breaking your internal rules. Such as I can get a new job because I have to look after the kids, well no that isnt what is happening, what you saying is i am in my comfort zone of misery and it is scary to move out of it so i wont look at different strategies to handle this problem, such as day care dropping the kids on unwilling ex partner, your ex in laws.
we make cages of our own rules, if you are so at your wits end break out of the cage , forget your own internal rules and make life different.
Additionally you are your own worse critic, do you know you wont get the job ( or g/f b/f , academic place) with out trying, let someone else say no , dont you do it and not try.
what is reasonable in your life? you obviously are emotionally involved with your life, take a step away and say if a friend was telling me this would i think that person's assessment views were reasonable?
Change is hard, change is scary, but it would seem you have no choice.
If you want more specific advice email me

Answer 4

Landmark education Corporation has a 3 day one eveing workshop called The Forum. It is an inquirey into the nature of being human. All you issues, coincerns, angusih, frustrations will come up and be resolved. Then, you will find your true directions and purposes as possibilites. It is sort of like having the wiring redone. Not brainswashing, it is allowing oursleves to tell oiursleves the truth as we know it as it oiccurs to us...and then we learn it is NOT the truth but mostly opinion.

They are in many big cities. Do a search on a search engine and go for a free intro The Forum

Answer 5

Considering this is listed in the marriage and divorce section, I assume you found post break-up that creating a separate identity is very difficult. (This is especially true if you were in a codependent relationship where the other person told you who you were.) The fact you can recognize the emptiness is a plus. Marriage is a literal joining of souls, so it is only natural you feel like you lost a piece of you.

I returned to the religion of my younger years. As I worked on myself spiritually, I have found who I once was before my marriage. It has been a slow process (about 1 year for every 2-3 years of marriage.), but I finally am secure and like myself again.

Answer 6

When you are lost, all you have to do is head in one direction, and keep walking in one direction until you reach civilization. In real life and metaphorically speaking. Get used to life being complicated, because a lot more complications will be made for the world to see soon. That's life...just live it...

Answer 7

I know how you feel right now. You feel like you went down the wrong path, and that you cant find your way back. I feel the same way. I can only tell you to do what I do, trust that this way you are going, no matter how difficult, is going to make you a stronger person. Believe that you ARE on the right path, and that in the end, everything will work out the way it is supposed to. Good luck sweetie, and stay strong!!

Answer 8

I take a second, close my eyes and breathe.
Then, I usually fall asleep (I think is a normal reflex if your body and soul are tired).
Then I wake up and start going again. It's like Johnny Cash used to say you know: "when you get the blues, get the rhythm".
If you start doing things, really, doing things, as little as they may seem, your body and sould will get started again little by little and everything will start flowing. But you gotta move.
Get up, dress up and go out. As simple as that. You do that so the wonderful things in life can get a chance to find you too, ok?

Goodluck!

Answer 9

sounds like you overanalyze things alot. unless it's your children, try to cut out the complicating factors in your life (dating, etc..) do things for yourself everyday.

do the necessities (job, cleaning, etc..) but then do more of the things you enjoy.

meditate

pray

find someone to talk to who'll listen and be a friend.

try not to think of all the days that are yet to come-enjoy the one that's already here. (in other words, one day only at a time)

Don't lose hope-all things are possible if you believe in yourself and if you really want it.

Answer 10

Because you are making it complex. Relax, center, and start where you need to start --- whatever that may be. If you are lost, buy a damn map. If you are being beaten by someone, get out and get help. If your husband left you for a guy, well, sh*t happens everyday and everyone lives through it; if you are involved in a relationship that is driving you crazy then you need to STOP. It ain't rocket science (unless you are married to a scientist). Just stop whining -- that just makes you go in circles.