I used to work at a firm with several other people, one of whom was a 60 year old man. When I worked there, he was very nice and helpful. I learned a lot from him and he seemed truly sincere and caring. For real. He wasn't all lip service like some of my other fake co-workers. He was genuinely helpful and thoughtful. He has a high rank in the firm, is on the board of trustees of a major university and he also used to be a professor.
I had heard rumors about him being a pervert. Many women in the firm referred to him as "grandpa pedophile." His 34 year old secretary told me that he made a pass at her and asked her to go out to dinner with him when his wife was out of town. But I wasn't quick to label him a pervert because I truly believed in his kindness.
I left the firm last month. Last week, out of the blue, he emails me badgering me to meet up with him. Sketchy! EW! I'm 26. His sons are much older than me! Ever been disappointed by someone who was nice but ended up being a perv?
2006-08-13 15:24:58 · 18 answers · asked by Chrissy V 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
People have faults. Just because he is old and overly sexual that doesn't mean he is a fake. He may not be perfect, but it really seemed like he is a good person.
2006-08-13 15:38:05 · answer #1 · answered by alleycat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He must be lonely. here are some of your quotes "he was very nice and helpful", " I learned a lot from him ", " he seemed truly sincere and caring", "He was genuinely helpful and thoughtful". Therefore, I'm sure if he asked you out to dinner, is because he must care about you...like a father cares for her daughter. Its just a dinner date not a hot date. Take your own car so you could leave if something makes you feel uncomfortable. I'm sure nothing is going to happen, because a man such as him will never jeopardize his marriage, career and reputation for you or anyone. He is smarter than that...
2006-08-13 15:46:24 · answer #2 · answered by yumyumlulu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A pervert? That's a strong term to use. He's an old man,sexually very active and trying to impress young women and going overboard with his intentions. Of course it is not right. Just be firm and tell him you have a high regard for him and that he should maintain that.
2006-08-13 15:36:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you think about it pretty much all men are perverted in some way. Its just that some men can control it. I met several older men who I thought were really nice and helpful at my last job. But a co-worker said when I bent over my thong was showing a bit. And they were gawking. I was so disgusted. To top it off one was a bible thumper! ugh!
2006-08-13 15:30:39 · answer #4 · answered by Crazy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it had happened previously. It is a horrible thing when it does happen because you feel as if your trust has been betrayed. I previously had a best friend, he used to hang out with me all of the time, he'd help me out and defend me against others, on his birthday I was invited and came along quite gladly, everything was going well until he attempted to er...to put it in a normal way, he attempted to have his way with me, when I rejected him, he said, and I quote 'Why do you think I wasted myself with you in the first place?' needless to say I was upset, but there are always people like that sad to say.
2006-08-13 15:31:14 · answer #5 · answered by Catherine K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. My professors who are twice my age often make passes at me and other girls in my class. At first they come across as being sweet, then suddenly they turn into perverts and flirt with young students. Maybe it's a characteristic of old professors...
2006-08-13 15:29:14 · answer #6 · answered by Natasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like the old saying go " Never Judge a Book by it Cover"
2006-08-13 15:29:15 · answer #7 · answered by JO`NAE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well maybe is not a pervert dont put labels on people too soon, maybe is just a old grandpa who needs company if you dont want to go out dont go dont even answer his email but dont treat him of pervert you know rumors are rumors.
2006-08-13 15:29:34 · answer #8 · answered by dancingwiththestars 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens always to someone.Fm my experience,yes.They showed they care & went all out to help U but sad to say at the end of the road they proved themselves pervert which is disheartening when we given respect to 'em.
2006-08-13 15:31:52 · answer #9 · answered by me_imah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's more common than you think.
Good for you for at least giving him
the benefit of the doubt.
You did the right thing...
too bad he did the wrong thing.
2006-08-13 15:28:56 · answer #10 · answered by DG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋