Am I wrong to not be attracted to my b/f anymore for cheating on me multiple times? will i ever get that old feeling back? I have love for him, but not "in love"
2006-08-13 15:17:16 · 16 answers · asked by Nuni 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no you will allways think of it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-13 15:27:26 · answer #1 · answered by cowboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a bad situation when he cheat more than one time you really have to consider is it all worth it maybe you need to break from him and see if you really love him enough to stay with him ..my friend had found pictures, ky jelly in his pocket which they don't use!! and he leaves her all time of the night had a baby on the side and she still stood by him. He treated her right for about a year or two got married and he has went back to the same stuff you really need to look into the situation you are in and decide if you want this If he has cheated like this in the past and you keep taking him back when is it going to end!!
2006-08-13 22:28:40 · answer #2 · answered by classy chic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you know the answers to these questions. It is hard for us to tell you what type of feelings you will have for this person. You are really stressing yourself out over this guy. Are you concern about anything else in life other than this guy? Maybe you should really read and think about the responses people are giving you on this forum or on the other hand, maybe you should stop reading our responses because you are constantly asking the same questions about the same issue( your cheating boyfriend). Go back read all the responses given to you and make a decision as to what you plan to do. Good Luck.
And let's talk about something else.
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2006-08-13 22:28:52 · answer #3 · answered by Shay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you have to decide whether or not you can really forgive him and move on. Not "We'll stay together but I'll still remind you every chance I get that you cheated on me and I'll make you pay for it for as long as I possibly can you b*stard" forgiving - REALLY forgiving and moving on. If you can't HONESTLY forgive him and move on, then IMHO you may as well break up now because there's not a lot of hope for a happy, healthy relationship.
Second, has he REALLY changed, and has he REALLY stopped cheating? Not "I'm sorry baby please come back it won't ever happen again I swear oh I'm sorry I was drunk and I didn't know what I was doing she didn't mean anything for the first sixteen times I don't know how it happened please don't leave me", but REALLY stopped and REALLY changed? You say it's been "multiple times" - what has he done to assure you that it won't happen again? What has he done to earn back your trust?
If you're staying with him and trying to make it work because you're afraid of being alone, that's not a good enough reason, IMHO, and both of you deserve better.
2006-08-13 22:26:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well of course you're not feeling love for him. He broke your heart! You say you're not "in love" with him, well you don't need anyone else to tell you that your feelings are justified. Don't accept his cheating behavior ! You deserve someone who will be faithful and treat you the same as you will treat them. Somehow your self-esteem got broken along with your heart. Show some self-respect and move on.
2006-08-13 22:29:10 · answer #5 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't in love with him and he is your boyfriend I think it is time to move on. It is possible to forgive someone, but forgetting about it is something that never happens. If you can't live with remembering what he did it is time to move on.
If it happened multiple times then I'm pretty sure in your heart of hearts you feel that it is going to happen again. A woman's instinct is very rarely wrong. Follow yours.
2006-08-13 22:25:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So now you think your better than him. When do think it is time to love someone....when they are doing good and life is so peachy,,,naw, no way, it is when life has whipped him so and he is at his lowest. Have you cried for that Man lately I mean really cried for what he has done to himself and the valleys he has come through to get where he is...huh, and You say, your better....give me a meat cleaver.
Your wrong and you will be judged by ytour works. Remeber the good ole saying you reap what you sow and the best Man doesn't always come to you in Satin cloths.
2006-08-16 13:06:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't "in love" with him and you aren't married and have children together, then don't punish yourself by trying to force a square peg through a round hole.
I would just consider this relationship a learning experience and move on.
You are going to have to forgive your b/f so that his infedility doesnt interefere with your ability to be able to trust someone in a new relationship.
Good luck.
2006-08-13 22:28:31 · answer #8 · answered by lilmissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not wrong at all.. you have been emotionally traumatized and it will take some time to get past it. what you need to decide is when you will be ready to truely forgive and move on.
as far as not being "in love" anymore, it may just be temperary, so when you feel ready to open your heart again, you may find that you have found that spark again. just remember, it's all on your hearts' terms.
2006-08-13 22:26:22 · answer #9 · answered by Storm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once your trust and respect for your mate is gone completely, it's extremely hard, if not impossible, to feel the same way for them anymore. You may be able to forgive them in time, but your opinion of them would have been tainted permanently.
2006-08-13 22:46:48 · answer #10 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No offense, but men love ladies like you. You're so very tolerant and forgiving...and no matter how much tread upon, you're still there to be summoned with a few kind words. And the process repeats itself.
2006-08-13 22:26:37 · answer #11 · answered by nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋