My boyfriend and I called it quites the end of July. I wasn't that upset with it but I did end up crying for awhile. I went over to my cousions house for the last 2 weeks and there been this guy there. His name is Andy and he is 23 years old. I am scared to getting close to anyone but he is really sweet and I think I would be happy with him. The thing is I don't know if it's right for a 17 year old to date a 23 year old . Also, my mother doesn't know about him yet. I am scared of getting hurt and he knows that but he promises not to hurt me. Do you think it would be wrong to start a relationship with him? He doesn't presure me in having sex or anything. We haven't done anything together except hug and layed together on the couch.
2006-08-13 14:45:25 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
This is probably not what you want to hear, but:
You're saying you are not ready for a relationship when you say you are scared of getting close to anyone and are scared of getting hurt.
If you are meant to be with him, he will wait for you. Don't push yourself into a relationship for fear of losing him or because you don't want to be alone. To be really good at being in a relationship you have to know yourself well first, it sounds like you know you're not ready yet, so develop a friendship. That's how the best relationships start anyway. Plus, if you are worried about people judging your relationship because of an age difference, if they see you as friends first and later (maybe) progress into something else, they will probably be more accepting. Good Luck!
2006-08-13 14:52:25 · answer #1 · answered by Kaitelia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relationships start and finish we all get a bit hurt now and then but all people are not the same you can not judge this new guy by the actions of your last. As for the age gap I am 7 years older than my wife and we have been married 25 years. My Mum and Dad had a 10 year gap and they were married 40 years. It may look like a large gap now but 33 and 27 are the same distance apart but do not seem to be. Age is not important happiness is.
2006-08-13 21:56:02 · answer #2 · answered by stephen c 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are already laying together with a 23 year old you just met. That right there should tell you this is going nowhere good.
you are supposed to be dating people in order to learn about them and see if they would be a good partner. just sounds like you want someone to love you and distract you from developing your own interests and talents to prepare for your life.
yes, a 23 year old is way too old for you. you have good instincts. now go live your life.
2006-08-13 21:49:39 · answer #3 · answered by cassandra 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that any 23 year old MAN that would be interested in a 17 year old CHILD is crazy.Just remember that it is not called statutory rape for nothing.This man could go to jail depending on where you live.And of coarse he is going slow with you he doesn't want to scare you off!He will tell you anything to get into your pants.Be safe and stay away from him.Older guys know how to manipulate you and get you into situations that you don't want to be in.
BE CAREFUL!!!!
2006-08-14 01:52:15 · answer #4 · answered by L.T. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! I actually have a similiar situation!I'm 15 he's 22.He is sweet and tall...like a gentle giant.His name is Lorenzo.I'm 5'9 so it's kinda hard to find a guy.But what I would do is stay friends.get too know each other well...flirt.wait till your 20.I know it's a long time but that's what I would do.my parents are twenty years apart but my dad met my mom when she was 25.
2006-08-13 22:18:35 · answer #5 · answered by checkit137m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya its fine. your life is not your mothers life. the age difference is fine but he might presure you into sex.
2006-08-17 11:34:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
idk...sex is deff a bad idea....maybe u should wait until ur 18 so thers no leagal probs wit ur parents
2006-08-13 22:16:39 · answer #7 · answered by ♣BrownEyedBeauty♣ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋