2 of my friends were born on the exact same day and they know each other through me( they just know each other, nothing more).
Their birthday is on the 17th. The problem is, I'm not good friends with either one of them anymore. They're both OUT OF MY HEART now. Before things went worng, I was thinking to take them both out to dinner( because they thought it was funny how i had 2 ["at the time"] good firends and both born on one day) but now I just want to forget about both of them and leave them out of my life. It would've been easier if their birthday wasn't comin up.
I don't know if i should just call and say happy birthday or buy a tiny thing and meet up , or do whatever i wanted to do before , like dinner and stuff??? Help me out.
2006-08-13 14:37:48 · 13 answers · asked by heylomaylo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
at least call them & tell them happy birthday even if you don't give them anything. you'll regret it.
2006-08-13 15:53:41 · answer #1 · answered by marie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rather than going out to dinner, send them each a nice card or take them out for a coffee or something small. That way, if you change your mind about the friendships by next years birthday(s), you haven't totally destroyed any chance you might have had.
At least give them the chance to make things right again; if you were that good of friends once, they deserve it.
2006-08-13 14:44:41 · answer #2 · answered by sara_pk1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the thing that troubles you is the incident that made you all grew astranged with one other, i dont need to know that, but has forgiveness knocked on your heart now? have you opened the door? wounds really hurt but wounds heal. you are friends in the first place even if not that deep, if i were to be you, i would first call them ask them how they're doin and have some light conversation, be sensitive, detect what they feel through their words and their tone, if you feel it is ok to proceed then go, ask them if its ok to meet up.
you know life is short, too short to be spending time about how you want others out of your life or dwelling in memories of the sad past, come out and breathe the fresh air, feel life as it happens friends are the relatives we chose to have, even if you are not willing enough atleast not now to be coonected with them, try to repair what's broken and pray that God would make things better....you should never let yourself be burdened with things, see everything with enthusiam, be positive, be a fountain of life, of joy and goodness and love, you know if only you would feel life surely this kind of problems should not bother you....life is beautiful especially if you're not holding back anything and life definitely beautiful if spent with the ones you care about and who are special in your heart...good day :)
2006-08-13 14:56:42 · answer #3 · answered by moonunderamask 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had that happen to me this year. generally I actually have a dinner occasion, with my pals and kin there. My "maximum suitable buddy" and that i've got been getting distant, and that i knew that if I invited him, he'd say he replaced into coming and then no longer seem, so I positioned the ball in my courtroom and cancelled my occasion. next year, i circulate to an entertainment park and that i circulate to holiday on issues until eventually I puke! :-)
2016-09-29 05:54:43 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have an obligation to take them out. Do they take you out on your birthday? You don't even have to buy them anything if you don't want to. Don't worry about it. If either of them says anything just tell them you can't. If they ask why tell them it is personal. If they have asked the two above questions they are rude and ungrateful and you don't need them.
2006-08-13 14:48:11 · answer #5 · answered by BUPPY'S MEME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its really hard to say because i dont know the reason why you guys arent friends anymore .it does sound like you still care about them and friendship is something that is very important .if you think what they did to you is something you can get passed and if your friendship with these guys was something important to you then i think you should call them and see if they want to meet up .good luck with whatever you do
2006-08-13 14:52:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u want 2let them know that they r nomore close 2u, call up or bring a small gift 4 both of them. if u don't want them 2feel any difference, then just do the dinner invitation. make up ur mind abt it. and good luck.
2006-08-13 14:49:43 · answer #7 · answered by strawberry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call them up and say happy birthday..in the end it'll make you feel better....or take them out seperately....
2006-08-13 14:45:15 · answer #8 · answered by sexyhair 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just call them up and say happy birthday..plain and simple
2006-08-13 14:46:51 · answer #9 · answered by princess ysa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutly nothing.If you see them just wish them a happyBD.
2006-08-13 14:43:45 · answer #10 · answered by pretzgolf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋