I have a friend that I love dearly and I don't want to lose their friendship or hurt them. How can I let them know that I love them but I am not IN love with them without losing the friendship or making things hard?
2006-08-13 14:17:52 · 15 answers · asked by friendly_freak_81 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
your problem is about a dear friend who you feel has a feeling of more than friendship towards you, it is quite complicated, you see at times, we win some, we lose some, if we want something there would and there will be something that we need to give up, yet in this case you do not want to win anything right? you just want things to remain as they are, yet how about the other people? who want more than what you desire? friendship is one of the most beautiful things life can offer us, if you're really sure that you feel nothing any more than friendship tell him straightly, talk to him and try to clear things out anyways you're both friends right? a good talk always have something resolved even if not as resolved as you want it to be, atleast the masking veil that envelopes you all with secrecy is lifted away, open the communication between you both and allow one to understand one another for it is such as friends should do, and after when you have talked heart to heart, surely everything will go well and your friendship should remain intact, unless they are not true friends and that they befriended you to make you fall in love with them, they would stay and they would respect your decisions, no matter what it is...: )
2006-08-13 14:40:29 · answer #1 · answered by moonunderamask 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let them know how you feel about them as a friend and tell them that their friendship means alot to you and you don't want to ruin it by complicating it with a relationship. If things did not work out then the friendship would be ruined. Remaining friends is the best thing.
2006-08-13 21:24:34 · answer #2 · answered by Lil Tree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one...if they've made it clear that they want more and you can't go there then the reality is the relationship is going to shift... Give the person time and space remind them that you do love them as a friend and will be there for them as a friend but that's all you can offer. sometimes you just have to let go and even the dearest of Friends, sometimes have to go their own way.
2006-08-13 21:25:21 · answer #3 · answered by Brains & Beauty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind them of all the good things you have shared and can share without the burden of a more involved relationship. Let them know how precious they are to you and how much you value their friendship and because of that other feelings are not possible.
2006-08-13 21:22:38 · answer #4 · answered by mr conservative 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a boyfriend/girlfriend, whatever, and then that person will know that you aren't in love with them, just that you like the relationship the way that it is. Or you could talk to them, but talking things out is hard, so just give them clues. Its simple. <3
2006-08-13 21:22:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk about it with them because if you just try to ignore it then it will only make things weird between the two of you and that could result in losing thier friendship anyways, not to mention drag all the rest of your friends in the middle of it.
2006-08-13 21:23:43 · answer #6 · answered by pinkfloydfan_3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would require alot of maturity. especially on your friends part. because they would have to accept your answer and move on but still see you and talk to you and everything and that is hard you know? but i think its possible. it would take some time though. i think you just have to be very patient and also supportive. it would be like you were supporting your friend after he/she was just rejected by the love of their life. but the love of their life just happens to be you. so its kind of weird, but possible.
good luck
peace
2006-08-13 21:23:32 · answer #7 · answered by Lovely L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how they handle just being friends you may not be able to salvage the friendship.
2006-08-13 21:20:56 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't. Make the world a better place and get a new friend.
2006-08-13 21:21:46 · answer #9 · answered by Mama R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont know but i fell in love with a female friend of mine and she hurt me pretty bad when she said no to me. she is still my friend but it has always been hard for me.
2006-08-13 21:22:28 · answer #10 · answered by pevehead 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋