I can ask for Gods forgiviness for my ex- wifem for committing adultery. But, I pray that the man that she did it with never asks for forgiviness for his part. so he may suffer come the day of judgment. she said she laid there and cried until he was done. but she agreed at first.
2006-08-13 13:50:37 · 11 answers · asked by christsluv4u 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She's your ex-wife. Stopping asking God for vengeance and move on with your life. That's not being spiritual or religious it's being smart.
2006-08-13 13:55:38 · answer #1 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What?? You bible belt people are f*cked up.
IF she was crying, then was she raped?
And why would you care if the man asks for forgiveness??
You are not God and only he can judge.
I take it you divorced your wife because she had an affair?
See.. this is what happens when you don't read any doctrine and just say you're spiritual.
Open your eyes. spiritual/religious beliefs are an inidividualistic thing.
You are still angry because your woman had an affair and its kicked you in the a** about your manhood. Perhaps you should speak to a therapist, otherwise you'll be carrying around that piece of luggage into your next relationship.
Thank godness I'm Buddhist.
2006-08-13 20:59:56 · answer #2 · answered by sansjazz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how she may have felt after proceeding, she is part responsible. Adultery doesnt just happen. It takes a lot of planning and sneaking. I do agree that when she said stop he should have stopped.
As far as not wanting him to be forgiven, you have to understand your own need for forgiveness and the terms you accepted that forgiveness on.
There is a story in the bible about such a case. As far a God is concerened there is no degree of sin. One sin is the same as a thousand in that it separates us from God. (though the conseqeunces of a thousand sins would be very different).
The story shows a man who was forgiven in their day, the equivalent of $1,000,000. He could not pay the debt but the man whom he owed the debt agreed to cancel it. (in their day they were put in debtors prison for not paying their debt).
The same man that was forgiven the $1,000,000 was owed a debt of $100. by another man. The man owing the $100. pled to the man for mercy. But the 1st man refused to forgive the $100. even after he had been forgiven $1,000,000.
God has given us a commandment to forgive (even when we don't want to). The bible says that if we want to be forgiven we must forgive. The man that refused to forgive the $100. debt was handed over to the tormentors.
The bible tells us to turn over the offenses of others to God and let Him deal with them in His way. He calls us to pray for those who hurt us.
Pray for this man and ask the Lord to help you forgive him.
The price of not doing Gods will and wanting him to suffer, is so not worth all the greatness that you will have by doing God's will.
God bless.
2006-08-13 21:20:02 · answer #3 · answered by lilmissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I am spiritual but I am not any one religion because I believe that all religions may have different beliefs but are kind of the same I just believe that there is a god and all of that other stuff. I don't think that it makes you a bad person at all. I think that you are a good person, and there is nothing wrong with not being overly religious.
2006-08-13 20:56:24 · answer #4 · answered by chrissiewild79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are commanded to forgive others for their sins against us. The is no where in the Bible where it says forget. The forgiving is so hard when we have been hurt like that!
I struggled for two years with this until I was able to forgive my ex. It doesn't mean that I love him or want him any where near me. It means that I am doing the right thing. By forgiving you are turning the situation over to God so He can deal with it.
2006-08-13 20:56:36 · answer #5 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bible says All have sinned and come short of the glory of GOD. All the people who wrote the bible were sinners. God redemed them and now he redems us. He even will forgive the man that commited adultry with your wife if he confesses his sin before GOD. We do not control the judgement of the person. For if he is punished here he will not be in heaven. First step is asking for forgiveness and love your fellow man even if he is the worst person to love.
2006-08-13 20:56:55 · answer #6 · answered by thebulktiny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bull its all bull in the heat of the moment you want it and if she said yes she enjoyed it hell get his forgiveness if GOD thinks he deserves it but dont believe her a woman can get a man to do whatever she wants and can stop a man with a NO i will not cheat on my husband/boyfriend if she wanted to trust me ive been trempted even by some very wealthy famous men and ive always said NO i cant and have walked away back to my man the man i love.
2006-08-13 20:57:43 · answer #7 · answered by LilMissYady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It does not make you a bad person. You loved her and that is OK. You can't forget the love you once shared and you still want her to have a good life, if you didn't you wouldn't pray for her. That makes you a great person.
2006-08-13 20:55:50 · answer #8 · answered by gin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude, rough road ahead. You will HAVE to forgive her, deep down inside, God ain't going to help, you have to do it. It may be one of the most painful, and greatest things you ever do. It has to be honest, to yourself and her to work. If you don't you better bail now and move on.
2006-08-13 20:56:34 · answer #9 · answered by Very confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she said she laid there and cried until he was done. but she agreed at first.
So she made a mistake. You think your better than her now...you say. When do think it is time to love someone, when they are doing good and life is peachy...no way Dude. IT is when life has wipped them so and they are at their lowest and that's when you really love someone. You Goofed!!! and let her go....tse tse tse, woah...lost archives
2006-08-16 12:52:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋