My Man is all the way in Jamaica! I love him so much. I have major trust issues.
2006-08-13 13:42:29 · 11 answers · asked by nikki g 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My last relationship was long distance and I listen to a lot of Dr. Joy Brown. :) That's my criteria!
If you have only met him a few times face to face, the relationship is largely in your head. The way you picture him and the way he really is are very different things. Also, relationships are about spending time together. Sometimes you can learn a lot more about a person by just being physically close to them than you can learn from a long conversation where you can't even make eye contact.
If I were you, I'd really take a moment and consider what this relationship means to you, and what the both of you are willing to do to make it actually work.
It took me some time to realize that the man I loved was not the same person I daydreamed about so many times; try picturing yourselves in a day-to-day relationship. Would you still be as happy to see him?
Good Luck! I hope it works out better than mine! :)
2006-08-13 14:11:25 · answer #1 · answered by Kaitelia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because there is so much distance between you. It is hard to maintain a close relationship with someone you only see occasionally. Being so far apart you are thinking if he cheats he could easily get away with it. All you can do is make the best of your relationship, if it is good partners don't usually cheat, unless they are not serious about the relationship. If you both put the effort in, it will work out.
2006-08-13 13:49:20 · answer #2 · answered by n 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Psychologists call it the "proximity effect" and there's even a whole subsection in psychology just to study it. Basically, it's really hard to stay attracted or attached to someone the farther away they are. It's a lot easier to be influenced by your immediate environment rather than something that has become just a memory. The more exposure you have to someone, the easier it is to think about them, and since you have NO exposure in a LDR, well...
2006-08-13 14:07:09 · answer #3 · answered by JudasHero 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you cant touch, you cant hug, you cant kiss, you cant just watch them sleep, etc.
Because you're far and you cant keep an eye on him and wont be able to do anything if some girl tries to flirt with him.
Long distance without trust is pretty much impossible :P
2006-08-13 14:25:06 · answer #4 · answered by Bart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all need physical closeness. You may chat with your man cam to cam on Yahoo to feel his presence. You may phone him up or vice verse.Ask him to come down once a year if he is in another country. That would keep you happy.
2006-08-13 13:57:59 · answer #5 · answered by Bachelor boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is difficult because you miss the physical closeness. You may need to express this in some intimate terms on phone calls so he remembers why you are the one he married.
2006-08-13 13:47:27 · answer #6 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is difficult to feel that special closeness when the person is some hundred odd miles away. plus part of being in a relationship involves intamacy, either by kissing, holding hands, or whatever you feel is right.
2006-08-13 13:54:26 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because they never work out you are waisting your time and you are going to end up with a broken heart
2006-08-13 14:44:26 · answer #8 · answered by little ace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because u r worried he'll cheat on u and also u want to look at other guys like most of us trust me i know wat ur goin thru
2006-08-13 13:52:04 · answer #9 · answered by popular_babe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you can't feel physical softness of each other that you both yearn for
2006-08-13 13:50:13 · answer #10 · answered by DEAR T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋