Am i wrong for wanting a baby?

Question

Am i wrong for wanting a baby?
heres the thing im adopted, i was adopted into an older family, so my siblings , cousins are 15+. Ive never been close to anyone because the ages are so far apart. I always wished i have someone in my family close to my age that i can bond with.
Im 19 yrs old my boyfriend is 24 , we both want children, we both bring in together $900 a week. We're not married but do plan on it, Anyways , my sister has 3 kids , 2 girls that are 9 and 5, and she just had a baby 1 month ago. I want to have a baby sometime in the next 5 yrs so its close to age , and so my baby can have the family i never got. Is this wrong?
Im not saying im going to have a baby in the next yr but maybe 2 yrs from now

the__memory_o what do you know? you dont even know if you can eat claim chowder if your pregnant

Answer 1

I am not here to talk you out of having a baby. First of all, you are an adult and second of all, I am not your parent. But please believe me when I say that it is not easy being a young parent. I, like you, was adopted by older people and was alone and I became a parent at 18. I didn't have much family support when my daughter was born and things worked out ok, but like I said it wasn't easy. May you be blessed in whatever you decide.

Answer 2

You are not wrong for wanting a baby! These feelings are very natural expecially when your sister has children...I would want mine to be close in age too. Maybe you both should wait until you do get married and have a little time together as a married couple. And make sure you have a stable place to live and at least most of your debts paid off. Other than that....i say go for it. I really am thankful that me and my husband had 4 years together after we married before we brought kids into the picture because things are so different when you become a parent.

Answer 3

Crazy! Im 19, my boyfriend is 24, we are expecting our first child.
I know what you mean, my brother is 12 years older than me and every woman on my side of the family has had a child at the age of 19. I am also unwed but by choice. My mom has been engaged 11 times and married 5, I dont want to fall into that trap. I would love to marry my boyfriend but when I have years and years to plan it perfectly! I dont see anything wrong with you wanting a child. If you are 19, You are an adult, you are financially stable, and if you to are honest and commited, all the power to you. Have fun with everything! It did take me a year and a half to get pregnant, so hopefully it wont take that long for you. If you are mature and responsible I think you will be a great mother, good luck.

*<3natalie

Answer 4

Ok, 19 yrs old? You are just a little kid and you're talking to me that way! Saying you are studying to be an RN? You haven't even been out of highschool that long and you think you know! Even if you were studying to be an RN, you haven't even completed 2 yrs! I've been in nursing school longer than you! I'm laughing so hard at you!! I have to say sorry for going at it with a child!

Also, how is a baby gonna have another baby!? You are seriously too young! And especially now that you aborted a child already, you are thinking of having another one when you aren't sure! Don't be terminating lives like its nothing!

Answer 5

in my opinion, if you are mentally ready to handle a baby, then yes by all means. but you have to understand that this is a lifetime gig that doesn't let up. 24/7 until at least 18 you're going to have to supply all of that child's needs regardless if you lose your $900 a week job, you and your boyfriend decide that you're not gonna work out, or that child becomes a wild thing (not to say that any of those'll happen, but you have to prepare for it and even worse-case scenarios.)

i'm not saying that you're not mature enough yet now, or won't be in the next few years either, but just consider this. you were adopted and that need to make a whole family encompasses your way of thinking so much that's your sole mission it seems. you have a bit more time to make that part of your life complete. in my opinion, you should experience life in your early 20's being a little selfish, making mistakes, and having fun; all of which you cannot afford to do if you have a child. currently i'm 25 and i'm about to have my first child. i think this is the best time for me because i feel that i'm in the proper place to raise one. maybe not financially, but definitely mentally. anything i wanted to do (or not) i at least got out my system and i'm not a knucklehead anymore, so i can be a responsible enough father to guide my child through this world of other knuckleheads. but remember, to each its own...

Answer 6

You are only 19 and have a lot of time for having children. Don't you want to bring them into the world with the best possible environment? Making $900.00 a month, how do you survive on that? A baby takes a great deal of time and money. Don't plan something as important as a child around ages of your sisters children. Plan wisely, carefully and lovingly.

Answer 7

You are too young to be thinking about having kids. At 19, you think that you know everything there is to know about the world, but you don't really know much, until you are in your mid twenties and you are exposed to new experiences and know yourself a whole lot better. You will change, your life will change, and your current bf might not even be the one you'll ultimately end up with. My advice is to put it on hold until you get married, and when you are married, to wait a year or two until you're both comfortable and stable to have kids.

Answer 8

You are not wrong for wanting children. But that is not the real question here is it. What you want to know, and I am going out on a limb here, is for someone to say it is ok to have unprotected sex with your boyfriend so you can get pregnant?

Planning on getting married is not getting married. Before you make the mistake of your life consider finding your way to the altar first. Then have the children you want.

Answer 9

wanting to be a mom is not WRONG however be sure you are stable married prepared to give your child the best of life. You sound like you would make a good parent. Wait A few years to get settled with the kids dad to be.Get a home educated yourself ad the father to be about pregnancy birth and child rearing you'll be fine be prepared

Answer 10

No. There is nothing wrong with wanting a baby. You and your b/f sound like you are making good money. Try to save as much as you can in the next few years, and that way you may be able to stay home with your baby if you choose to.