my parents might get a divorce?

Question

im 12 and my parents are fighting and my mom keeps saying that if he drinks again they are getting a divorce and id ont want them to because i dont know who ill live with and i love them both so please help me

Answer 1

my step-mom and dad just got a divorce because my dad drinks..he lost his mom and hasnt stopped drinking after that...maybe sometimes its for the best...

Answer 2

It's hard to do, but try not to worry.

Sometimes people just can't get along; sometimes a mom or a dad has a drinking or drug problem and something just has to be done for EVERYBODY'S sake.

My wife and I were divorced after years of "fighting" a few years ago. My kids (all around your age) live with their mother. But I see them every weekend and sometimes in the middle of the week, too. And I've never spent better time with them, even when I lived there.

And my Ex wife and I get along better than we ever did when living together; I think that's helped the kids feel better, too.

Hang in there and know that life takes many unexpected turns. And sometimes the turns we think are going to be bad turn out to be for the better.

Answer 3

I know that when parents divorce it can be hard. It is important to remember that both of your parents love you. Do you like living with all of the fighting? Sometimes parents have problems that keeps the relationship from working out that's all. Sometimes a divorce is the best option for parents. Some people just can't be in a relationship together. It isn't your fault. As for you wanting to know who you'll live with, they will probably work out a joint custody agreement and you spend time in both places.

Answer 4

it pained me too because i was 5 going on 6.... it hurt very badly and it stil hurts because they use me as a messanger back and forth and talk about the other to me and my brother, but more than likely you'll end up with your mom and she may keep the house too, but you should try talking to your dad and help him find a substitute to drinking break his habit because if you do that you'll see a new improved dad and the family will be stronger and better. alcohol and drugs do create conflicts and other things like similar to that. or if he can't stop drinking help him find a point where he needs to know when to have enough alcohol. he needs to drink in moderation ask him if he loves your mom and if he does tell him that he needs to either quit drinking or create a balance where he can still be sober. try it!

Answer 5

I am sorry hon that you are in the middle of this.
I would suggest you see if there are any Ala Teen meetings around where you live. It is for kids who have a parent that drinks.
I don't think you will have to choose who to live with. Don;t worry about things that haven't happened yet.

Answer 6

My parents aren't divorced but I know about it. It's not that bad. You usually trade off from Mom to Dad, so you still see both of them. I think they go to someplace to see who you live with

Answer 7

Wouldn't you rather see your Mother very happy in loving relationship than what she is going through now....of course you would. You want her to be happy. Sometimes divorce is the only way for them to be happy,. but it doesn't mean that they don't love you.
You will come to understand that sometimes their lioves can be much more better when they are not around each other so much.
Your very young and this is going to be tough, but you hang in there because your Mother loves I know this. trust me!! Good Luck

Answer 8

maybe your mom says that to scare him, but if they do get a divorce its probably for the best. you should talk to your dad and mom and tell them how you feel.. best of luck.

Answer 9

sit down with both of them and tell them how you feel
be open and honest with them