For all of my life ii have been different people at different places. At school i am one person, at home another; with my american freinds one person, and with my fellow muslims and arabs another. it started as pretended to get friends when i was a kid...didnt have any. it developed into "being." as i grow older they increase more and more in number and complexity. and i it is getting very depresseing...i don't know who i really am. i am all of them but not with out the other... any suggestions?
2006-08-13 13:35:26 · 3 answers · asked by wa7eed_mu3tazil 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
although all these "persons" are YOU, there is no way to combine completely different characters into one personality.
instead, you will have to find out yourself who you really are:
what exactly is the difference between how you act in the given situations? are there really any comparable differences at all? (for example, people at work and people at home are not comparable, because they surely do not mean the same to you.) If there are differences, find out why. try to analyze how you act, what you do or say. sometimes people pretend to be somebody they are not just to meet certain expectations - but who sets these expectations? nobody! it is all in a man's mind! You need to gain enough confidence to be proud of who you are, no matter what, then you will be able to easily stop pretending, because you will not be afraid anymore to show your true face and thus maybe loose friends - true friends stay, no matter what, but you need to be honest to them. or would you want a friend who is pretending to be someone he's not? at work it doesn't matter that much, but you still need to be able to communicate with your co-workers and have a good working atmosphere, which doesn't come when someone thinks you're fake.
however, although you cannot combine "faked" characters, you still are one and the same of course all the time. you need to consider that every person on earth is different and you need to ADAPT to your environment - to people - wherever you go, so there should not be such a big psychological problem if you simply behave a little "different" when being with different people.
2006-08-13 17:04:49 · answer #1 · answered by baerchen80 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is what the expression "being two faced" means.
it means you are a faker a poser and a liar.
2006-08-13 13:40:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a lobotomy.
2006-08-13 13:41:05 · answer #3 · answered by Cody W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋