Ever since my mom died when I was 8 , I haven't done anything that her and I used to do together such as shopping, going to dances, or even doing my hair in something other then a ponytail. And when people have asked me to do things like that I have turned them down. On the outside everyone thinks I'm a tomboy, but on the inside I am completly different. Nobody knows the real me. I went to a dance a couple nights ago and I didn't have any fun because it reminded to much of what I used to do with my mom. SO should I hold back and not do that stuff or do you think it's time for me to move on?? Have I been grieving to much???
2006-08-13 13:16:25 · 12 answers · asked by Truthordarelover 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I'm REALLY sorry about your mother. It's time for you to move on with your life.
You have 2. I know it's hard but you have 2. You can't waste your life like that. I don't think that your mom would like to see you wasting your time on memories. She'll want to see you happy.YOU HAVE TO MOVE ON. Don't be a tomboy, be a girl.
Let people see REAL YOU. You can't hide urself all your life. Go ot there and have fun. I know how you feel. Go shopping with ur friends and get a new clothe and make up. Do ur hair in something other then a ponytail.
http://www.ultimate-cosmetics.com/
http://www.makeup411.com/
http://www.cosmeticscop.com/learn/article.asp?PAGETYPE=MAKEUP
http://www.matrix.com/find_your_hair_style/
http://www.thehairstyler.com/
http://www.hairstylesdesign.com/
Please cheer urself up and move on!!!!! YOU CAN DO IT.
Please.
2006-08-13 13:57:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I lost a fiancee in a car accident several years back... I used to be in this type of situation. I cried everytime I heard our song. I slipped into a state of depression and things just got worse for me. I did not have any time to grieve for anyone before another death of a family or friend. I lost so much (average of 30+ people in the past 5 years)... but I am still here. It took me some time... but I can finally listen to that old song of ours... and everytime I do... I smile. I remember the good things that we have been through... not what had become of him. I knew that he would have wanted me to move on... but never forget the wonderful times. Your mom would probably want you to move on as well. Just remember the good times that you had with her... don't let the memories slow you down. Give yourself some time... you will start to do the things that you love again. Your heart will let you know when you are ready to let go. Take it easy for now and good luck!!
2006-08-13 20:40:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think Jackie has a GREAT idea! Get a Big Sister - all of the women who are in that program want nothing more than to do mom sort fo stuff with their little sisters.
I wish I were closer (am I close? I don't know) I'd be a big sister to you - we'd get your hair and nails done, go shopping and do all the things you miss!!! You story makes me so sad, but I know you'll be fine - you're a smart girl!
2006-08-13 20:24:58 · answer #3 · answered by Answers to Nurse 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hun, your mom would want you to enjoy life. She will not be any less dead just because you sit and stare at the walls all day. I know that if anything ever happened to me, I would want to look down on my daughters from heaven and see their happy days. Their first dance, their finding the perfect dress for some event, their pride the first time they find the perfect hairdo for them. If you want to pay tribute to her, then live. If not, the you should have crawled into the hole with her, and you didn't so just step up and love life!!!
2006-08-13 20:39:02 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on its hard i know what u have been going trough but you need to move on...I know if you do something you and your mom used to do it might help you move on think of how much fun you had when you did those things with your mom that help me when i last my dad 2 years ago I'm still healing but it has help me doing thing that we use to do together to move on...have fun thats what she would have wanted for you.
2006-08-14 00:04:54 · answer #5 · answered by lala07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really sorry to hear about your lose and wish you the best..
I know it is really hard to do but doing some of the things that you and your mother used to do might help you to deal with it all better. Don't do it all at once but doing it a little at a time might help.
2006-08-13 20:21:41 · answer #6 · answered by cenaldora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could not imagine the pain you are going through..It is hard, but you have to move on. Your Mom would have wanted you to do the things you like to do. She may be gone, but you are not. As you know already, life is short..Live it to the fullest!! Take care.
2006-08-13 20:21:05 · answer #7 · answered by Boricua Chic 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My mother has cancer and she can hardly do anything. I know how you feel. But you have to rememer that your mother would WANT you to go have fun. Try getting a big sister from big sister, little sister. I have one and they do things with me that my mom can't. Email me!
2006-08-13 20:21:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah just go out and have some fun you cant live inside yourself for ever...... im sure yuor mom would love u to have fun.
2006-08-13 20:20:49 · answer #9 · answered by amelia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your mom would want you to have fun and to do what you all to do and when you do the things that you and your mom did togethere just think she watching you
2006-08-13 20:24:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋