why to married people cheat? dont those vows mean anything?

Answer 1

most people don't cheat just because they are selfish or mean, and it;s not always about sex either. after the wedding couples stop meeting each others needs. men need admiration, sex, a playmate....women need affection, conversation and financial security. All the things we did to attract our partners go out the window after the wedding, so the unmet needs are open to being met by someone else. It only takes a little effort and learning to make a marriage great.

Answer 2

At the time of taking vows, those two people really do believe in commitments, but with time people grow and change, not necessarily the ideal way, but, what is the ideal way? I believe it is only because there is something lacking within the marriage, only very few of us can stay faithfull in that case, we must be willing to recognise this as a sign and possibly work with the actual spouse before any further damage is done. In some cases it may even be that those two people were not suited to each other in the first place, only after marriage do they realise after getting to know one another, at this stage we must really recognise this as well and stop holding on and move on, cause I do believe that love does conquer all, if not right the first time then try again. Most people do get it right by the second time! True love does exist, you just need to be strong and look for it, eventually it does come.

Answer 3

People who cheat got married for the wrong reasons in the first place. Such as they are too afraid to be alone and lonely, they want someone because otherwise they feel they are not complete or successful, they want someone to help them pay the bills or clean the house, they want to have someone at home in case they strike out elsewhere. They think when they get married it's not going to be work, but you have to work at a relationship, you can't just expect it to work all by itself. If it was genuine love instead of need or want, or the fear of not having a partner they would not cheat. Cheating or not cheating is a choice - I don't care how bad the marriage is, that's no excuse to cheat, either work on it or get out of it, then find someone else.. A vow is something that should not be broken, it's stronger than a promise. People have no clue how serious the committment is, or what genuine love is,they just want to play house and run away when things aren't perfect.

Answer 4

That all depends on why people get married to start with.
Some people marry because that's what society expect (perfect picture). Some get married because they really and truly love their spouse and believe in the vows. Others marry purely for material reasons. I could give a number of reasons.

At the end of the day unless you truly love one another and you've married for the right reason then you will work through any cracks in the marriage.

If on the other hand you get married for any reason other than that then there is nothing to lose in cheating in actual fact it would be much easier for these people to cheat.

This is just an opinion!

Answer 5

Times are changing rapidly. Our grandfathers did not have Internet to access the information. New ideas keep on pouring in from all directions. If we are not smart, some one else will take the opportunity. Every one wishes to have experiences of all kinds, including the ones the spouse is unable to provide. Some wives, ( being a husband, I can speak of men's perspective), do not like certain things in the bed, which may be the men's fantasy, so he wishes to have that experience.

The marriage vows are still in tack. Only the meaning has changed a little with the advent of Internet.

The husband wishes to continue the marriage. this can happen vice versa as well. It is thatlittle thing which the person in marriage craves for that makes him / her cheat.

Answer 6

Obviously now adays vows aren't taken as seriously as they were meant to be. People cheat for all types of reasons, usually the man/ woman thinks it has to do with the way they look. In most cases it's not about looks at all. It's that person trying to get something they need emotionally or sometimes physically from someone else that his/her spouse is not providing. No matter - it sucks all the way around.

Answer 7

It could be for many reasons. Married individuals may look toward another person to fulfill emptiness they may feel in their lives. Another possibility maybe that they are bored or they do not love their spouse anymore. Unfortunately, to some people, vows do not mean anything.

Answer 8

Some Men just happen to have certain problems in their life such a womanizers, perverts and depression.
Even though, they may say they love their spouse, if he cannot control his emotions when a woman makes herself present and available, then your going to have problems.
When a man has determined that he wnats one woman in his life and really truly believes that, he can prove it by his actions, but very few often fail when approached by the one that seeks their love and romance.
One must be stronger than you can imagine to honor a vow with his bride to not allow any one woman to seduce or even think she has a chance at him and his non repsonse will cause them to try harder, but not one man that has not sinned can thrwo a stone and neither can a woman.

Answer 9

because life is not a dressed rehearsal and sometimes the temptation to be with someone different despite the risks is overwhelming and Ive been married for 20 years which by today's standards is a life time. why is it women always presume that it is men that cheat just as many women cheat today as men

Answer 10

It is not the 'vows' ..it is the person! Either the person has the right morals and commitment to be faithful..or they don't. A piece of paper, and vows in a church will not make someone..something they aren't.