2006-08-13 12:39:15 · 26 answers · asked by veryhott168 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
we have bit of the same problem i just gave birth to a beautiful baby boy and i was in the same shoes u are now girl let him go he dosenn't appreciate u now and your baby is not going to change that u can do better and deserve better
2006-08-13 12:49:57 · answer #1 · answered by jada 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can sympathise with you... I have a 10 month old daughter, married and my husband is chatting up chicks left right and center on the net, on sms and who knows... maybe in person.. It is hard to be in this predicament. It is easy for others to say "just leave"! But its not that easy, I have had to wait til I had enuf money for bond, rent, car and all the household items I won't get. I needed to know that when I leave I can support my baby. Thats something you need to think about now.. Sure, you may get child support, but don't rely on it... As much as it is a legal thing these days, YOU need to cover all your bases. Whatever you do, if you get an abortion, think long and hard about it... If you decide to keep your baby, there is a lot of support out there!! I know.. I've had to use it! Don't just leave when you are angry.. You will probably end up making a mistake. Think about everything long and hard, ring lifeline or one of those counselling services and talk things through as to what paths you can take. You are a woman which means you can handle anything cause a woman will ask for help!! Good Luck!!
2006-08-13 19:56:27 · answer #2 · answered by larney_0000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As they say, once a cheater always a cheater. Can you live with him cheating into the foreseeable endless future, or do you want someone to be committed in every sense of the word to you? No matter how much you think you love him, you will grow to hate him if you continue to stay with him. Relationships are hard enough without that being an issue.
As far as your pregnancy, how old are you? If you are not yet 20, I would give the child up for adoption, or give the baby to him to raise while you go on to college and career.
2006-08-13 19:46:48 · answer #3 · answered by D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might think you are in love but it's an illusion because true love is only real if the other person loves you back. If he cheats on you he must not really love you. I know it sucks but once you learn to accept it, you will be ready to move on with your child and see that he didn't really love you and you'll be able to create a better life for you and your child without him. If he cheats on you now, imagine what he's going to do when you have your kid and are spending all your time with your kid. He'll have more time to do worse stuff. And if he treats you bad, then imagine how he'll treat your kid. It's better if you move on now and tell your kid when he's older that he cheated on you and you could no longer be with him. If your kid sees him cheat, he'll take it harder or if he experiences it firsthand he might even get mad at you. But regardless of my opinion you should always follow your heart and do what you feel is right, not only for you but also for your kid.
With Love,
Ana
2006-08-13 19:54:51 · answer #4 · answered by in.love<3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he actually loved you he would have respect for you and wouldn't be cheating on you. Don't fool yourself into thinking that you will change his behavior, it WON"T happen. The longer you don't respect yourself and stay in this relationship, the longer he will take advantage of you. Stand up and realize that you can stand on your own, that you deserve someone who will treat you with repect and love you for who you are. You DO NOT need to be dependent on a guy for emotional, physical, and monetary support, regardless of if you are pregnant and going to have a baby. It might be tough, but you'll be better off to leave him and go at it on your own. But really, are you alone? No you can always turn to your family or other womens support system. There are lots of ways that you can do it on your own and you shouldn't feel guilty about it. If you feel you can't do it for your self, do it for your child. Do you honestly want someone who is disrespectful to you, to be around your child. You will find someone who loves and respects you, but only if you love and respect yourself first. You don't deserve to be treated like this and neither does your baby. Make the change, start living for yourself and your baby, not for someone who clearly doesn't love you.
2006-08-13 20:44:00 · answer #5 · answered by crayvn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pregnant with a cheating boy friend quite a bind you have got yourself into. Dump the boyfriend. But make sure he takes the paternity test so he can pay child support. Take care of yourself, make sure you see the Dr. like you are supposed to. Can you talk to your parents? If you can that is the best thing. They can help you make good decisions in this stressful time.
2006-08-13 20:30:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all don't stay just because your pregnant you can raise a child as a single mom and he can have visitation it isn't easy but you can do it trust me I did. If you know he is cheating confront him talk about it maybe try counseling but usually it has been my experince if they cheat once they will do it again and again. so I think you need to ask yourself if that is what you really want. sometimes leaving is the hardest thing to do but then looking back you will see it was what was best. good luck and best wishes with the baby
2006-08-13 19:47:42 · answer #7 · answered by shedevilang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly i do not belive in abotions so im not going to tell you to dump his sorry a** & get an abotion. I think you should talk to him! You should see if he is really cheating on you. If he is i think you guys should split. Because its never going to work out if the baby comes along and he is still cheating on you. I think you should give the baby up for adotion unless you can take care of the baby by yourself. If you can then you should keep the baby and leave him. Find a guy who will treat you right and respet that you have a child and treat him/her right. If you are able to take care of the baby, your a strong woman. If you cant i strongly think you should give it up for adotion. Dont get an abotion because your not letting the baby live its life. It could still live its life even if you cant take care of it the way you hoped, someone will take care of it.
--thank you and good luck ---
2006-08-13 19:51:47 · answer #8 · answered by 7-7-07♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to be with a guy that cheats on you, or have a baby with him? I say, leave him are you close with your mom or an aunt or someone, because if you are going to have the baby then i bet that they'd be someone you could turn to other then your boyfriend, you dont want to raise a kid with someone that cheats on you Trust me
2006-08-13 21:23:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you've gotten yourself into a pretty fix. This dude is evidently a loser, but if he's the father of your child don't let him get off the hook here. The child is his responsibility too. I wonder how many other women he's impregnating with his cheating ways. Are you sure you really love him?
2006-08-13 19:44:04 · answer #10 · answered by Richard B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋