2006-08-13 12:36:56 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
We weren't on bad terms we just sort of stop calling each other he said I wasn't giving him enough attention I wonder will he care that i'm pregnant we don't need to be back together I just don't want him to say anything toi hurt my feeling.
2006-08-13 12:39:27 · update #1
I forgot to add we used a condom it just broke inside of me.
2006-08-13 12:47:04 · update #2
should I get an abortion and forget it happened.
2006-08-13 13:05:30 · update #3
yeah u should tell him..if he has something mean to say forget about him..but getting an abortion just beacuse he aint there aint the way to go.. the baby is apart of you too...good luck in all the choices you make
2006-08-13 13:16:25 · answer #1 · answered by Deshawn & Keshawn's mom 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he needs to know. It would be better to tell him now rather than after you have the child, or when you are in the last stages of you pregnancy. You might also need to know for future reference for the health of the child. The father's medical history is a good thing to know just in case your child ever gets sick. But, you also will need help emotionally and finacially. You might not get the emotionally part, but the finacially part you will need. And hey, he might like the idea of being a dad and will be there for you. But I don't know the guy either. Even if you decide to go with an alternative route he should be told because he might want to raise the child. In any event, he should be told. Good luck.
P.S. I don't know how long you were together, or how the relationship was, but don't get angry if he asks for a paternity test. Just a thought.
2006-08-13 12:53:59 · answer #2 · answered by Elizabeth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he needs to know. Not only for if you plan on keeping your baby (To collect child support), but if you plan on giving the baby up for adoption you have to have his consent because if you don't and he finds out later on he can get a lawyer and have the child taken away from the adpoptive parents. There have been too many stories in the news about children that are ripped from a adoptive parent's home after 3 years because the mother chose not to inform the bio-father of the child's birth.
2006-08-13 12:55:59 · answer #3 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should tell the father. Honesty is always the best policy. This is a childs life that you are dealing with and the child has every right to know who his father is. I do not know what your boyfriends response will be , negative or positive but at least you will know that you have done what is right for your baby.A child is a very big responsibility and the father needs to share in this. Good luck to you sweetie whatever you decide to do.
2006-08-13 12:54:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you need to tell him. Don't be a Montel show repeat though and tell him it's his if you aren't sure or you know for sure it isn't. If you don't know for sure, then get a paternity test. Be honest with him. Tell him you don't feel it's a necessity you both get back together. But if it is his, then he has obligations too. Even if you both broke up. Talk about it. If he gets irate then don't start fighting with him. And don't go into the conversation with your emotions on your sleeve. He might say something to hurt your feelings... no it won't be right if he does, but guys take shocks in their lives bad sometimes. Good luck.
2006-08-13 12:48:02 · answer #5 · answered by Angelrebel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you pregnant when you "stopped giving him enough attention"? You say you weren't on bad terms. Could 1st term pregnancy fatigue have gotten in the way?
I think you should definitely let him know, though you don't have to tell him yourself. You can write a letter, or have soomeone very close to the two of you tell him and mention that you weren't saying it yourself directly , because you didn't want him to feel you were trying to get him back in your life...You should let him know immediately, in case he can put up with the lack of attention in the presence of a baby. (ie before he gets another girlfriend, just in case)
2006-08-13 13:13:45 · answer #6 · answered by tyreanpurple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. But it's solely up to you it's your body... but when the babys born, he has a right to be in the childs life and you have the right to get child support!!! Anyways maybe a baby is what he needed since you weren't paying him enough attention maybe the baby will. Congrats!
2006-08-13 12:43:47 · answer #7 · answered by thought 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's his child, then absolutely!!! He deserves to know! Every child needs a father, and he can never have the chance to be a good one if he doesn't even know he has a kid. Just don't expect him to come back to you because of this. He might not want to be in a relationship with you, but maybe he will at least be there for his child. Good luck!
2006-08-13 12:42:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes~ that is his child too~ and he has every right to know~ But do not get back together with him for the sake of you being pregnant that will make the relationship between you'se worst~ take care and all the best
2006-08-13 12:41:32 · answer #9 · answered by due~March~2007 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to tell him at some point no way around that.WHEN you do tell him have PROOF like a ultrasound pic note from the doc with the due date. MANY girls make up a pregnancy to get a guy back or make him feel bad "my brother has had 2 exs LIE about being pregnant". without proof he has no reason to believe you. MY ONLY ADVICE PROVE IT to him when you tell him. He has as much right to be in the kids life as you do.
2006-08-13 12:42:59 · answer #10 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋