Something I can't stand?

Question

I'm 18.

What I can't stand is teenagers younger than me talking about sex, being sexual, etcetc...

My 15 yr old sister has had sex... it's obvious. She shaves... down there. I remember telling her to not make mistakes like that and she told me she already has regrets. I understand that she's a teen and wants to do what she wants but, it's like... thanks for blowing off my advice. All her friends are sexual, and it grosses me out. I hate her being around that type of enviroment, where sex is just another thing to do among 14, 15, 16 yr olds. She has a new boyfriend who is in college. She explains that he's not like that, but i'm sure she thought the same about her ex at one time. Why can't teens this young just enjoy being young? I also hate how she talks about her friend changing and becominh more sexual and openly sexual or whatever... but that's who she's become. Now I decided to let her do whatever she wants, i'm sick of it... What do you all think?

We don't have the same mother, she's my half sister. My father wouldn't really do anything about it.

h and to the ones that think I need to get a boyfriend... I have one. We've been together for a long time, and I wouldn't be jealous of my 15 yr old sister throwing her life away. I feel like putting in authority because NO ONE ELSE IS.

I love my boyfriend, he is the best thing that's ever happened to me. So seriously, how pathetic?

I understand that our age difference isn't ENTIRELY far apart. But it HURTS me to see this. So how am I not being a true sister? and friend? I'm angered by this crap because I am HURT. Do you have siblings? Why is it that so many people are blind? I sound like an ****** cause i'm concerened. And about jealousy. Where the hell did that come from. If I was jealous, i'd become a hooker and double her rate. Sex is nothing to me.

I was popular in school, i've had a few boyfriends, I get 'hit on' (which completely disgusts me) I get good grades, I won awards, blahblahblah... I have never been jealous of her other than her stunning blue eyes.

Answer 1

I hear you girl, Why can't all teenagers be mature like you and wait to do that in it's own time. Which is clearly not while being a teenager. She will do whatever she wants anyway, she already did. She will hit rock bottom when she ends up pregnant and then all hell breaks loose ur life will be ruined too. anyway U know I dont think teenagers understand the consequences of any of their actions and i doubt that they will. So maybe tell ur parents what she's doing maybe she'll be ashamed and maybe she'll stop spreading her legs. that's a shame.

Answer 2

It's funny how two people from the same family can be so different. Just make sure that WHILE your sister is having sex she uses protection. Nothing is more STUPID than all these kids having sex unprotected...no nothing will EVER happen to them...HAH...that is the problem with kids they think they are infallable.

Tell her she can get STD's from oral sex too, something teens don't really think about but practice anyhow and do so WITHOUT using a condom (and guys this can happen to you too if a girl has herpes or AIDS).

You are very wise to abstain and you are destined for something much greater than your sister who will ruin her life but she has to learn the hard way that guys will just use her for sex. Unfortunately if she becomes pregnant her life is pretty well over anyhow and she will have to live in the bed she made for herself. You on the other hand, can do and become anything you want. You will meet a smart and decent guy when it's time, and you are very young and there is PLENTY of time. Enjoy the friendships of young men and learn what qualities you admire along the way. You needn't have sex with them. Girls with low self esteem who need validation are usually the ones who end up "giving in" early. Trust me, that's the way it is.

And I agree too that you should have a talk with your mom or dad...I'm sure they can do something to get through and at least deal with these "college boys" too although I'm sure your sister has lied and said she was older...but at least it might send them running if they knew.

And don't listen to these morons who are just like your sister and her friends...they know zippo about life.

Answer 3

Well you're right. She's definetly hanging out with the wrong group of people, which will eventuall get her in trouble. I'm 15, but don't do anything like that. I rarely go out with my friends because my parents think I should be doing school first then boyfriends and all that. They say I have time, which I do, and they are right. In your sister's situation, she still has time to change. If she doesn't she'll regret doing this later on in life. She shouldn't be able to do whatever she wants, she's still a kid. Even if she is a teen. If I did something like that, my parents would throw me out of the house, and that's no joke either. They really would. She needs to see who's boss. Be stricter with her. Tell her that what she's doing is wrong and you don't want to hear about her sexually active friends. She really should think about what she's doing, or it's going to wreck her entire future.

Good Luck. =)

Answer 4

I'm not 18, but I'm the dad of two teens, 14&16. It breaks my heart to see my little girls compromise who I thought I raised them to be. Just 2 days ago, I found out that my 14 yr. old was seeing a 17 yr. old who is involved with gangs and drugs. That sucks to see DADDY"S LITTLE GIRL involved with anyone like that, especially when she's not even supposed to be dating. At this point I could rant, rave and make all kinds of threats but that didn't work for me when I was young so off to plan B. I've expressed strong dissapproval of what she's doing. I've explained the consequences of her behavior. Now all I can do is watch from a distance and be there to help her get back on track when she falls. I know at that age your harmones are goin crazy and you struggle with idenity issues, but hopefully the good things I taught her will outweigh the bad. By the way, you sound like you've got a pretty good head on your shoulders, keep up the good work!

Answer 5

You are 18 and she is 15....and you are her sister...you are a prude and a jerk for even thinking this way about your sister, you seem jealous. What makes you so all fired of a know it all or so high and mighty that you are dismayed that she shaves down there or talks about sex...you talk about 'teens so young' as if there is a big age difference between you and her when there is like only three years if that...
You need to straighten up and be a sister and a friend, and not such an a s s.

Answer 6

I think you just got a taste of what it is like to be a parent. And why at that age is she trying to get pregnant or worse a disease? She should stop and remain celibate until marriage. However, she will not because the Pandora Box has been open. So she should be instructed and taught to know quality from quaintly by a man not a boy. But truly abstain from it because it will sooner or later without marriage ruin her life.

Answer 7

stop trying to mother your younger sister , i know you love your sister and worry about what happens to her but people have to make their OWN mistakes otherwise how the hell are they going to learn...i think maybe you should broaden your mind a bit ,kids have been getting up to mischief since time began , they are exploring what comes naturally, it's just a lot more open these days. Maybe get yourself a new hobby, or even a bf.yes let her do what she wants.. and don't listen to them talking if it bothers you, maybe your a bit jealous cause your not getting any action??

Answer 8

I agree with you and appreciate you speaking up on the subject. I am also apalled at the babies on this website talking about sexual activity as if they were at the community center playing ping pong. It is so very very very sad. These girls have placed priority on looking and dressing sexy, attracting as many boys as possible and there is no aspirations to achieve any dreams or education. Very very sad. I would love to know where mom and dad is in their lives

Answer 9

I think all you can do is give good advice. Whether or not she takes it to heart is another story, but you keep doing your part.
Also if she thinks the new guy is any different tell her I said he's no different from any other guy with one thing on his mind this coming from a guy who's 35 and been there done that.

Answer 10

If she's under 16, where's her mother/ father in all this? This college-age boyfriend had better be aware of the laws concerning sexual relations with the underaged & "statutory rape!"