My best friend is way too jealous of me. She says, " These are the things I am jealous of you: you play flute and piano, you have a great dog ( can't argue with that!), you can knit, you can crochet, you can do anything!" She also said the whole reason she started band was to be exactly like me. I can't dump her, yet this is driving me crazy! I almost feel like I can't learn anything new and can't do anything without having it be a big jealousy fight with her!!! Please Help!
2006-08-13 12:30:19 · 15 answers · asked by Maggie L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Oh and by the way: I've tried telling her to stop...and it dosn't work. Trust me.
2006-08-13 12:35:14 · update #1
And no. My mates name is not Joe.
2006-08-13 13:22:25 · update #2
jealousy is something not to play with. you can ask her if she would like to learn the things that you do or is there anthing in particular that she thinks she can do. being yourself is better than trying to be someone else. she is envy of you and you whould watch out that she doesn't try to hurt you. you probably should invet in different friends. friends like her you dont need enemies,
2006-08-13 12:40:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest hun, she's no friend. She bitches at you everything you do because she's too stupid and thick to do things for herself, and so she latches onto you. Find some more friends, you dont need all the hassle you are getting. Whats wrong with you being clever and talented, and having lots of interests??? NOTHING. If she was a true friend, she would join in your interests and be really delighted when you succeed in new things. You dont need her, and should stop seeing her before she drags you down to her miserable, jealous, nasty level, and you deserve better.
2006-08-13 12:42:29 · answer #2 · answered by k0005kat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would annoy me too, she sounds like she has problems and the tough put is u have to bare the brute of it. She really needs to talk with a professional. Because if she's this jealous over little things like not knowing how to knit then she has deeper problems that needs tending too.
You might want to tell her she needs to talk to someone and that she needs to stop trying to be like others. If she gets upset then tell her you know longer want to be friends with her until she get herself together.
2006-08-13 12:57:55 · answer #3 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why can't you end the friendship when it's causing both of you so much pain? jealousy is an irrational fear so nothing you do will make her feel better. she's been very honest about her feelings. why do you need someone to put you down? the world is full of people and you don't need friends like that surely. let her go so she can be happy too.
2006-08-13 18:56:34 · answer #4 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her those petty jealousy's are annoying and you are afraid they may lead to big jealousy's tell her you love her and a real friend is happy when a friend is doing something good and all those things she is jealous of you for are things you can teach her if she wants to learn and if she work at it she can be good at it too tell her the things you like about her and that you are not jealous of her because of those things because you are glad to have a friend who has those things or can do those things if it doesn't stop then she is not your friend.
2006-08-13 12:52:29 · answer #5 · answered by spagetti7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like your friend is in serious competition with you, I feel bad for you for that, I know how you feel, Your friend needs to find her own talents, and she will in time. I can't really advise you about what you should do, as I didn't know what to do myself, it just stopped eventually! XX
2006-08-13 12:41:03 · answer #6 · answered by Emma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is jealous of things that you can do that she cant...offer to teach her. then she cant complain that you can do things that she cant. shes obviously very insecure. this may help her find a little independance and confidence, and she may feel that the time is right to get a life outside your friendship!
2006-08-14 06:16:51 · answer #7 · answered by fifs_c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk it out with her. explain how you feel. OR you could change you number and just avoid her, then start hanging out with different people...she'll soon get the message!! good luck!! x
2006-08-13 12:36:28 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her what you are feeling and why you are feeling like that just get it off your chest it will make you feel so much better honestkly it will.
nicky
2006-08-13 23:39:21 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is'nt a friend!!! she's a leach!!! get rid no good can come of this friendship hunni.jealousy is a dangerous emotion xx
2006-08-13 23:01:55 · answer #10 · answered by whatanutta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋