Has anybody out there been in a relationship with a good guy who just needed some space?

Question

First of all, the guy I am referring to is an amazing guy - an ideal boyfriend, really. We started off two years ago by moving REALLY fast and since then, we spent every day together and talked multiple times a day. We are now, as of last Sunday, on a "break" - we are single and want to give eachother some space to do our own thing but we BOTH agree we could get back together if things went right eventually.

I NEVER spent time to myself (working out at the gym, meditating, etc.), and I really RARELY hung out with friends. THIS IS NOT HEALTHY and I realize this now! It was as if we were suffocating ourselves to the point where we didn't know WHO we were individually at all.

My problem, however, is that this is obviously really hard - I care and love him so much and I really DO want to be with him again. How do I do my own thing and then eventually (how long is eventually?) try to get him back! PLEASE HELP - it's hard to sleep at night and eat and get on with my life... :-(

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I understand where you are coming from, and can really relate. I would tell you that this is going to be and amazingly wonderful opportunity to find out things about yourself that you never knew before. Yes, you will miss him sometimes, and will feel lonely...but realize this........you are NEVER alone. God is with you, and for me, I had to lose everything before I realized that there is a God in Heaven, and he has a plan for me, if I just TRUST him with all of my heart. During those times where you are crying yourself to sleep, I challenge you to lay there, and look up, and say "Lord, I really want to know you. I am opening my heart to you, and I will let you in. Give me peace in my heart and mind about my situation, and help me to know that you are God, and you have my best interests at heart." Ask all of this in Jesus name.
See, I have been in relationships ever since I was 16...I am now in my late twenties, and after a series of long term relationships where I made each boyfriend my entire life, I recently learned that my happiness could not come from a man. Yes, a great boyfriend add happiness to your life, but there is just no guarantee that it will last, and when your not with them, then you feel empty. I wanted something that would last, a peace and security that didn't leave me constantly worrying about what my boyfriend thought, or if I was good enough. I am in a new relationship now, just for a couple months, and I notice that I still do sometimes worry, and want to spend all my time with my boyfriend, but this time I'm aware that I will be constanly disappointed if that's what I rely on. Like tonight, my boyfriend is hanging with his guy friends, and yes I'm kinda sad, but then I remember that God is there for me, and I just need to trust him, and ask the Lord to fill my heart with joy, love, and peace, and by believing in Him, I am able to receive such grace.
This difficult time can be used by God to bring you closer to him. And when you pray, be sure your heart is open, because the Lord will show you his love if you ask and are ready to receive it.

Feel free to contact me if you ever want to chat about anything at all. And hey.............You're going to be okay. This is going to be a good thing, you'll see.

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