my girlfriend is pregnet and she is 14 what should i do.?

Answer 1

Use protection next time. As for now, you should take responsibility and be there for her.

Why is it that some of you teenagers have unprotected sex, and then act all surprised when the girl ends up pregnant?

Answer 2

Depending on what part of the country you live, you will feel an enormous amount of pressure to keep this child or not. At 14 she is way too young to have and care for this child. I always say, "you don't know what you don't know". That said, neither of you have any idea what you're in for. Do yourself a favor, take care of a friends child for a few days, with no assistance, if possible. Be there when the child wakes up a night, gets sick, needs a doctor, needs to be fed. Don't kid yourself, a child is wonderful if you're ready. If you're not, which I presume neither of you are, this experience will be your worst nightmare. The fact that you can't even spell pregnant, leaves me to believe that she should consider abortion, or adoption. The fact that I said abortion will shock a few, but it's you're life and her life. This embryo is a cell, it is not their life. If you choose adoption, please don't wait until the baby is old enough to remember you. Older children are difficult to place in the adoption system, but babies are much easier.

Either way, be there for her as much as possible. Her hormones are throwing her emotions in every direction, and you may be surprised that you'll see a side of her that you didn't expect. Take that for granted and do the best that you can. If you don't have a good job or college diploma, I suggest you get either one as fast as possible. Don't settle for a job that pays less than $20 per hour, if you can't make that, go to a trade school or university, get student loans, and do it fast. If she decides to keep this child, you will be financially responsible for the rest of your life, and $10 an hour won't cut it. Start thinking long term, not short. Short won't last, and it will ruin you.

Last, but not least, next time, wear a condom (or two), and don't have sex with anyone under 18. You might also want to get a lawyer, you've committed statutory rape, so good luck with the law.

Answer 3

Be the best man that you can. Make sure that you support her in any way possible. Also, remember that you have to grow up now. Doesn't matter how old you are you need to be a man and if she has the child, you have to be a father. If both of you decide that adoption is an option then you will make a family very happy but you need to remember that this was caused by the two of you not being prepared or using the best forms of protection.

Answer 4

Are you certain? Take her to a doctor to make sure.

Try to support her as best you can. You both need to prepare yourselves for the reaction of your parents.

You have options like adoption, the pregnancy does not have to be terminated. However, I don't see any way that you could keep the baby when you are still so young. You aren't even in High school yet, you can't even drive.

For future reference, use a condom. Pregnancy isn't the only thing that can happen from unprotected sex.

Answer 5

I urge both you to please learn about birth control so this traumatic experience is not repeated!! There are free clinics that can help you with that like Planned Parenthood. Having said that,
make sure your girlfriend is really pregnant. (Having missed your period is not a full proof sign of pregnancy.) Then help your girlfriend tell both sets of parents together. The parents will be dissapointed and angry at the beginning, but trust me they will get over it and be thankful that you came to them for help. You will need their help in getting prenatal care, emotional support and financial help--all very needed in your situation. If you can not face your parents alone, ask a priest or clergyman or a school counselor to help you do it. This is too big to keep it a secret and too intense for you to handle alone. If after much thought and consideration you realize that you guys are not ready to parent this baby, even with your parents' help, think of what is called an "open adoption." You can meet the parents who will raise the baby, choose them yourself, and keep in contact with them throughout the years with letters, pictures, etc... In the future if you and your child choose to, you can meet each other. He/She may thank you for giving them a better chance in life. If you need more advice or if you want to find great loving adoptive parents for your child, I would even do everything possible to open my home to your baby. I have a 2 year old boy and we would love your child as our own.You can contact me. Best luck.

Answer 6

If the both of you had plans for the future then get an abortion or give it up for adoption. Get an education and make some money then have a money. It is better then because the both of you will be more stable. If you choose not to do this then work really hard because babies are really expensive!!!!!

Answer 7

Tell your parents and her parents. No matter how much yelling you're going to get, its better than them finding out the hard way. Either way, this is not something a 14 year old can handle. And be responsible and think with your head and not your peni.

Answer 8

I would first say congrats because you must have been aware that something of this nature could happen.Since you've claimed responsibility,please take her for a full medical check and then sit down with your girl and discuss what you want to do.By the way, you need to also involve her parents because she is still a minor.

Answer 9

whatever you do, do not just walk away, like most men. go with her to tell both of your parents, and be there for her to support her. It is not only her fault, but yours as well, and if you are older, then you should have known better. But the damage is done, all you can do now as a father is think of what is best for the child. Adoption? Keep it? how would you take care of it? how would you? abortion should not be an option.

Answer 10

Go to both of your parents immediately and look at all the options carefully. You do of course realize that at 14 she is a minor and it is against the law to have sex with a minor? In the future use a condom, ALWAYS!!!