He smokes weed, drinks everyday, snorts cocaine and he is never at home. I pay all of the bills and buy the groceries. He cooks and cleans occasionally. I work 40+ hours a week and he works 0. I am pregnant with his son, due in September and my lease is up in August. He has made no effort to help me. He sometimes gives his friends hundreds of dollars and he gives me a few dollars rarely and then expects me to pay him back immediately and them whenever they can. He has 4 other kids from 4 other women he does not take care of.
2006-08-13 12:15:00 · 14 answers · asked by Vanessa S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
hes a looser
2006-08-13 12:19:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has 4 kids with 4 other women, what made you think that you were any different(in his eyes)? He doesn't take care of them, and won't take care of yours. He doesn't work, because he is getting a free ride from you. Being a parent is hard enough, but made harder when the other half doesn't help. At least if you tell him to take a hike, you will KNOW you are doing the best for your child. Do you really want your child, a precious gift, to grow up in an environment where the father does drugs, and is lazy? What kind of role model is that? We are all products of our environment. And if he sees that growing up.....make your own inference.
2006-08-13 19:33:12 · answer #2 · answered by devlish_blu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? Why in the world are you still with him. Being in a relationship is a give and take and respect thing. He shows you neither. What is he going to do to your newborn? Do you feel safe having him around your baby with him on drugs? He certainly is not husband or father material! If you are smart, at the end of August, you'll just move out and leave the lousy looser to fend for himself. I'm certain you could make a better life for you and your newborn. He certainly won't help you with the bills or the baby. MOVE ON!
2006-08-13 20:18:21 · answer #3 · answered by HolidayGurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You bet your a** he is a loser. Leave him now and don't leave a forwarding address with your landlord. He has it good with you now so he may try to find you or talk you out of leaving him.Don't tell him what you are doing just do it. Then when he cant find you and after you have your baby then you need to sue him for child support and if he doesn't pay then he will go to jail. But at least this way you know that your baby won't be surrounded by something he cant get away from and something that could be harmful to his health.
2006-08-13 19:25:18 · answer #4 · answered by katie b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey do you really not know the answer?? You need to let him go!!! Tell him to get his stuff together or leave... I am pretty sure you and your child will be better off with him out of the picture. It sounds like you are already taking care of yourself by yourself. I can only imagine what you are going through you are better than me. When I am preg I am a total b$t*ch!!! He would have been kicked to the curb!! It's hard though if you are in love with him. Damn love!!! Just think about what is best for you and your child.
2006-08-13 19:25:10 · answer #5 · answered by letmebe_23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a loser! Call the cops on him for the illegal drugs part, and then dicth! Stay w/ your parents! You won't believe how much they will give you; love, sympathy, a home... they are the ppl who raised you since you were a baby up till you moved out. Don't trust this jerk you call your boyfriend. I wouldn't trust him w/ my life. Good luck w/ YOUR baby boy! He sure will be raised well, w/ such a caring mother.
You deserve more than what you have. Please consider following my advice.
2006-08-13 19:24:11 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Just Another Broken Heart♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you answered your own question....he needs to get fixed....throw all his stuff out, change the locks & then file for child support when the baby is born....but I doubt you will listen to any of this, most people dont...so who is going to pay the bills once you have the baby ?? Welfare ? Tell your boyfriend to act like a REAL MAN and get a real job and support his kids & to keep it in his pants!
2006-08-13 19:23:17 · answer #7 · answered by Tiffany D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By all means, why don't you just break up with him? If you are staying with him because you're pregnant with his child, that won't work either. obviously he won't support you or your son because he has 4 other kids that he doesnt take care of... what makes you think he'll take care of you? do what's right for you.
2006-08-13 19:21:22 · answer #8 · answered by ilikesnow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah id say hes a loser, even though it would be hard b/c ur having his baby, maybe you should leave him, do you really want to raise your son in that kind of enviornment, maybe you should stay with a friend or a relative when you have the baby and tell him he needs to get his act together
2006-08-13 19:23:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course he is a loser and you are gonna be a loser if you keep putting up with it. I would have his *** hit the sidewalk so hard that it would take him a week to get it loose.
2006-08-13 19:47:14 · answer #10 · answered by nidan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him out, get a child support order once your son is born.
2006-08-13 19:20:21 · answer #11 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋