He's driving me crazy.Sometimes its unreal the things he thinks up,like the other day a man i've never set eyes on in my life was walking up the street behind,us on the oppisite side,i might add, he accused me of looking at this man who i didnt even see untill my b/f pointed him out.He said he though the man was an x b/f of mine and he didnt like him watching me. That started another row which im sick of having,due 2 his jealously.I know he loves me but why he dont trust me i have no idea, i have never been interested in anyone else so he has no need 2 be like this.Also he told me if i ever went with another man he would kill me..What can i do?
2006-08-13 12:14:13 · 26 answers · asked by l.lo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
okay girl... you need to have a civil chat with your guy, telling him how much you mean to him etc...
to be honest, one of the most important things you should have in a relationship is trust... and if you havent got it, is there much point? i mean sure you can work on it but will it be how you want it? then he'll complain about your being picky... and it turns into a bit of a mess
As hard as its probably gunna be, because you love him and he loves you, i think your best bet is to leave the guy and find someone who can trust you.
No point being in a relationship where your struggling to keep him happy.
Think this through abit more sweetie
2006-08-13 14:53:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want the truth right?!
Get out of it NOW! This man is not going to get any better, he will however get alot worse.
If he hasn't started already, soon you will probably be facing the odd slap in his pathetic jealous fits, that doesn't take long before it turns in to a punch, and the more frequently it happens the harder the punches will become.
Its not just the physical abuse but mental abuse too, soon you wont want to leave the house in case he starts when a man goes past! I know this pattern only to well, my ex husband started out like your boyfriend, before i got the odd slap, punch, operation on the broken thumb and arm that he gave me even to the stage of him with a knife against my throat trying to push me off the balcony of our flat-if his friend hadn't shown up when he did, god knows what would have happened?
One time, he tried putting me through a huge glass window, but two well known lads stopped him, and put me in a taxi and sent me to my sisters house, and they beat him stupid! Yeah, it stopped him for a few weeks then i had the accusations about sleeping with the guys that laid into him....
Honestly, you need out of the relationship cos it doesn't get better.
Go to the police station and they will support you and explain what hes like and the threat that he would kill you...if you love someone you don't make them live under any threat?!
2006-08-14 19:50:01 · answer #2 · answered by splight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out what is behind his jealousy. It doesn't have to have anything to do with you at all. He may have been cheated on by someone he once dated or he may have watched his parents cheat on one another. There could many different reasons as to why he is jealous.
You just need to show him that he is the only one for you and no one else. But if it continues with the same amount of intensity then you may need to think about finding another bf. Only for your own saftey.
Sometimes jealousy of a higher magnitude turns into stalking if you ever leave the jealous one. So you need to be careful and take care of yourself. Good luck.
2006-08-13 12:31:24 · answer #3 · answered by katie b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first thing people generally judge people by there own ways meaning he's been looking so thinks you must be second you cannot control people looking in your general direction and third and most importantly if anyone threatens to kill you no matter what you think of them get as far away as possible your life is not worth risking for a violent relationship if you think you cant do better then look at it this way can you do any worse
2006-08-19 03:06:08 · answer #4 · answered by saint 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even in my case its like that, if someone moves close to me i to face the same kind of situation. They feel that the other person may chance your mind by pretending innocently and they may tell you that they does not have any bad habits and so on..But they are right.
Please dont see other people when your boyfriend is with you and talk to him as only two of you are there in that place.
But one thing i would like to say you that your boyfriend LOVES YOU TOO MUCH.Never get disappointed.
2006-08-18 22:44:31 · answer #5 · answered by NANI 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him,things will only get worse.Many violent relationships start out with petty jealousy;however if you put up with this behaviour now it will only get worse.
If he has said these things to you then get out of there,do not pass go and do not collect £200,however life is not a game,you deserve better,onward and upward.
Good luck !
2006-08-15 12:02:47 · answer #6 · answered by any 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him ! I spent 9 years in a similar relationship, at first it was nice to think that he cared so much, for him to be jealous but it got worse as time went on, in the end the only places i was allowed to go was work and do the shopping not allowed to talk to any men as he said all they wanted to do was s---g me not even allowed to go out with my daughter when she came to visit it ended up he tried to strangle me. at this point i left.so walk now before it gets worse. you will never change him you are what you are
2006-08-13 12:42:11 · answer #7 · answered by demmi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG!! Please don't stay with him he sounds soooooo controlling and needs to get help before he hurts you or himself! I'm serious really!
I'm not being flippant it sounds like he has some issues with trust or dealing with emotions and or people.
You are not his nurse or his crutch to lean on you are not responsible for him be tough and walk you owe it to yourself
when you find someone who really cares about you and treats you like a princess you'll realise you did the right thing
2006-08-17 12:59:06 · answer #8 · answered by teazyweazy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get rid. The only person in control of your life is you, you don't need his permission to do anything. Does he never look at another woman? I bet he does, maybe you should start having a go at him.
2006-08-19 04:56:31 · answer #9 · answered by Gavin T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THIS FELLA HAS SOME SERIOUS MENTAL ISSUES. TURN YOIUR BACK AND NEVER LOOK BACK, YOU DON'T EVEN NEED THIS PERSON AS A FRIEND, LET ALONE A LOVER. IF YOU LOVE YOURSELF AND YOU MUST, STAY AWAY FROM ALL MEN WHO ARE JEALOUS, POSSESSIVE, ABUSIVE, ETC. YOU CANNOT HELP THEM, THEY NEED TO SEEK HELP BY THEMSELVES. YOU WILL NEVER BE HAPPY WITH A MAN LIKE THIS, TRUST ME, AVOID YOURSELF ALL THE ANGUISH AND FIND A NICE MAN WHO WILL TREAT YOU LIKE A LADY AND BE HAPPY
2006-08-18 21:51:31 · answer #10 · answered by Cheryl B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋