What is happening to "us"?

Question

Me and my bf have had a bad week. His aunt passed away, were supposed to move in together in 3 weeks (nothing has been bought yet), we had an argument because one of his friend whom is a girl keeps calling him @ 4am... Honestly, when I asked him about the phone calls @ 4am, he right away got mad and defensive. I then told him if it was nothing then why was he getting so aggravated. I trust him 100% but I dunno why I had some doubts about him. He last called me on Friday night (after our argument) and told me he was going to be with his cousin for the weekend. I txt messaged him and called him, and never got a reply back. It's Sunday 7pm right now, and I'm worried. No contact what so ever... Does he only want some space, did I scare him away... I need some insight on this situation. We've been together for over 2 years and this is killing me inside. :(

When I asked him about the calls, he said it was a good friend that he hadn't spoken to in a long time. But I told him : "Why at 4 am?" And that's when he got even more aggravated. I think I brought up the matter in a wrong way but still...

His aunt lived in Trinidad. She came down here for 2 months. We saw her a few times but thats all. He hadnt seen her for over 9-10 yrs.

Answer 1

stuff like this has happened to me before, where youre SUPPOSED to hear from your guy, but you dont...i know, it kills, but the best thing you can do right now it to keep your calm and dont get too upset about it, because when you do finally hear from him, you dont want to be on the defensive. it'd just make things even more stressful.
all you can do right now is just patiently wait for the guy you love to call you, and when he does, be cheerful! tell him how much you missed him, but dont sound mopey about it!
make him realize how important it is to have you around!

and about his friend calling, dont let it get to you, because two years is monumental, and some girl calling at 4am wont do a thing to him, except make him realize how annoying she is hahah

good luck!

Answer 2

You said you trusted him 100%. Sounds like your not sure. The 4am calls, peculiar. Should be an eye opener. Maybe the move together might be much for him. He's probably acting out on that situation. Not really wanting to make that major transition but, at the same time not wanting to hurt your feelings. Also you mention that nothing has been bought to go in your place ............ another eyeopener. The both of you might be headed for dist ruction in the relationship. Sometimes a relationship can get sour when you move together too soon. If he's already needing space now and your not living together, imagine what it will be like then. The excuse. " SPACE". Look before you leap. Plus, there's no excuse for not contacting you by now. You can love this man without living together just yet. I don't think he's ready yet. Alot of times the answers to our question are right there in our face, right there on the surface, but we rather not peep them out. Was he very close to his aunt? Could be that too. Good Luck.

Answer 3

Hmm.. well you know with his aunt passing away he's probably having a hard time dealing.. but you've been together 2 years.. YOU should be the shoulder he cries on first.. He should want to be close by you for the support you can provide to him.. No phone call or text back? That's not a good sign when you know he received a phone call at 4 am from some girl.. Sounds like something could be up.. YOU deserved a phone call at the least.. Other things could be on his mind besides you at the moment. Question him about this phone call without accusing.. that just promotes drama. If he's defensive over the issue.. then I would come to terms he's hiding something.. You don't deserve to be mistreated.. or pushed aside..

Answer 4

In your heart you know that something is not right.But, you are blocking it because you don't want to see it.Ask yourself why would a friend call @ 4am if it's not an emergency.Second he's getting angry is because he is hiding something.I think you all should not move in together because it may increase the problems.Regardless if he needs space or not he should have text or called you back.Follow your heart it will lead you

Answer 5

I don't know sweetheart, it sounds like you have a bit of a problem on your hands. I would be going out of my mind if my man didn't call me for a couple of days.You have a right to get upset if a girl is calling him @ 4 am . You don't know what to think. I guess the only thing you can do is wait for him to call you and then figure out what is going on with your realationship then. Unless you maybe have a realationship with his mom, call her and get the heads up. I dono Good Luck!