i am a new college student and my new roommate is gay. i don't went to stay in the same room and i am thinking of staying at home and goe to school from there because they can't chnage it until spring next year. as a straight men it is nasty for me to have a male roommate who is gay .
2006-08-13 11:51:38 · 19 answers · asked by WEEDG 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
he told me his gay but before than i knew from his dressing
2006-08-13 12:07:41 · update #1
i don't have anything agnaist gay people but hall won;t live in the same room with them
2006-08-13 12:10:27 · update #2
i don't have anything agnaist gay people but hall won;t live in the same room with them
2006-08-13 12:10:47 · update #3
College dorm rooms are SMALL and if you and your roommate have different lifestyles or are incompatible in some way, you can be really miserable and it will take away your ability to relax in your room to focus on your studies. You should ask for a new roomie. Whoever told you they can't change it is a liar, go over that person's head in the chain of command before it gets any further in the year. Get your parents involved if you are thinking of moving back home this affect them too.
Right now there is prolly another person that hates their roommate that would be happy to trade with you.
BTW I am not going to judge you for your feelings. Doesn't mean I agree with you though on them.
2006-08-13 13:39:42 · answer #1 · answered by funschooling m 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most "straight" people are under the mistaken impression that gay people are automatically attracted to everyone they see just because they are gay. When you visit bars, go shopping, go to the library, etc., do all women within sight of you make advances? My bet would be no regardless of how attractive you may or may not be. I am a mother of two grown children so I have had an experience or two in life. Get over yourself. In the event that your new roommate does find you attractive and you are not interested, all you have to say is NO. No is understood in all languages. This is 2006. Time has long passed for this kind of backward thinking.
2006-08-13 12:04:40 · answer #2 · answered by mzVic 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You don't have anything against them but you won't live with one? I think you do have something against them. It's called prejudice. What do you think? Just because you're male, he's going to jump at you? Why would you think you're so irresistible? Why would you think your roommate is a rapist, just because he's gay? Why would you think he won't respect your choice to be straight? You're too prejudiced, and spending some time with your roommate can only help you out of your prejudice. That's probably the best thing that has happened to you, though I'm not sure if it's the best thing that has happened to your roommate.
2006-08-13 12:29:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 23:30:05 · answer #4 · answered by garbutt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it's not wise for a situation like that to arise, but if it does well...try to set "boundaries" and work it out while you have to stay together... Are you in the DORM? if you are in teh DORM, it's hard for me to believe that the school would not set something up for you to be able to switch rooms.....
If you are not in teh dorms, how did he come to paired up with staying with you?
Don't be against "gays" or anything, but it's OK if you don't want to ROOM with someone who is GAY.....it's actually so logical to NOT want to be "roomed" with someone who is gay, if you are "straight".
In this life I personally have not met anyone who has said that they were gay, to my face that is.... so in reality I'd have to say I never met a "gay person"...in this life, confessed and all, you know,
But well of more importance and probably a reason why man "got off track: and out of the GARDEN ~ cow tit sucking....so gross that it is... very gross.
I hope you can work things out
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2006-08-13 12:05:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so closed minded. Your sexuality is a very small part of who you are, he might be a really great person. Oh, and another thing, this situation could work to your advantage....chicks LOVE gay guys! He'll probably have tons of hot chick friends...be nice to him. And ALSO, girls like a guy who is secure enough with himself to accept someone despite the fact that he is gay!
2006-08-13 11:58:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I can clearly understand your feelings. If it makes you uncomfortable, it makes you uncomfortable. I would recommend maybe talking to a counselor there and expressing exactly how you feel.
Another thing I might recommend is to maybe give it a chance. It might not be as bad as you think. He may just very well recognize the fact that you are straight, respect it and leave you alone.
2006-08-13 11:57:27 · answer #7 · answered by HappyCat 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are a new student and you're already closing your mind to learning about new and different people than you've been previously exposed to? If that's the case pack up you stuff and go back home....you're already dead in the water.
2006-08-13 11:56:46 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No you don't have to stay in the same room with a queer. Use the Housing Acts and other Acts to get out. Don't forget you have constitutional rights that must be protected as well.
2006-08-13 12:02:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Tell him don't bring his dates home, tell him he can't use your personal items because of STD's and just treat him like you would any other person.
You will discover as time goes on, that you're going to meet all sorts of people, some of them you won't like, some of them you will like, and the key to life is to learn to get along with EVERYONE.
Its hard, theres some people- like my ex wife- that its VERY difficult to get along with.
Use this time to learn patience and understanding
2006-08-13 11:57:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋