I was spying on my daughter's phonecall, and although I couldn't completely understand the teen-speak, with all the slangs and whatnot, I got the general impression from listening in that she was kiss-and-telling about an act that went far and beyond kissing.
To add insult to injury, as I was doing laundry to cool down and consider what I should do, I found a dirty shirt belonging to my daughter that had stains. Stains with a certain musky smell that could only be one thing.
How should I handle this? With my daughter? Or her Asian boyfriend?
I want to wring his ****** neck.
2006-08-13 11:35:59 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My daughter is 13.
2006-08-13 12:45:49 · update #1
Adulterated is a word? Yes, you...must...destroy..her...boyfriend, Zontar!
Are you insane? OK, your daughter is sexually active, Sit her down and ask her if she's practising safe sex. That's it. Sex is not evil. It's how your daughter came into this world.
By stating her boyfriend is "Asian" it seems you are being a bit racist. Does his ethnicity have anything to do with anything? He's either a nice guy or not period.
Remember, it takes two to tango. You may want to wrtng his neck but your daughter is 50% part of that sexual eqaution. Get over your morals and deal with it like a parent not a loon. You show anger and total disapproval and I guarantee you'll have an even worse situation than you imagine.
It's just sex! It's not like they are playing with drugs and guns. Just make sure they are being responsible and using condoms and I bet you a million dollars your daughter wil turn out a well-adjusted adult in no time.
2006-08-13 11:53:24 · answer #1 · answered by fugutastic 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Important question: How old is your daughter?
My response and responsibility to a 13 yr old would be much different than my response to a 17 or 18 yr old.
Take a deep breath, cool off a little and collect your emotions.
Sit down and think about everything that you want to say then outline a plan for saying it.
The goal is to have a mature discussion (not argument) about your daughter's activities and possibily set down some rules and guidelines.
I have an 18 yr old., legally she is an adult, if your daughter is this old than there is not that much you can do about it,
MAIN OBJECTIVE (and it is difficult)
Talk /discuss do not argue,accuse, or name call
Tell her how you feel with out alienating her
Allow her to tell her side or point of view
If your daughter is real young talk to her about physical consequences, moral responsibility ect,
Good Luck,,,,,,,,,,, If you can keep communication open, honest, and with respect for one another, this is good
2006-08-13 11:54:23 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara M 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Um, i pass to be a huge dork and in simple terms warning that possibly you shouldn't save the bowl interior the bathing room. warmth from the bathe breaking down the latex and such. If I ever do have a daughter, i think of the main severe factor to coach her is know for herself, and that she would not ought to have intercourse if she would not desire to. with a bit of luck, i desire to impart that intercourse ought to be saved for a loving committed relationship. Now, announcing that, and understanding what i know, we are able to coach her approximately safer intercourse and the cost of taking duty for beginning administration (by using fact you may't anticipate every person else to). I do want her to have the certainty, I in simple terms intend to make confident that she has the help and self belief to not be forced into doing some thing she would not desire to do. desire that made experience, i'm slightly drained this morning!
2016-10-02 01:05:54 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she will not like that fact that you are spying on her. it is going to make her really angry at you.
how old is your daughter?
at this point, and i know it's so hard to hear, the best thing for you to do is make sure she knows the consequences of sex....make sure she is aware of protection. does she use it now? etc.
she's allready apparently done it...there's nothing you can do to change that.
and, if talking some sense into her doesn't work...then get her on that pill! or phone calls & stains are not the ONLY thing you will have to worry about in 9 months!
2006-08-13 11:41:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wringing his neck may be nice but I d advise against it. If you can prove any sexual activity beyond what you said above and hopefully the bf is 18 or older, then file charges against him for contributing delinquancy to a minor, possible prostitution charges, etc. Even if he is a minor,there may be something in your state besides statuatory rape charges and since she is a minor you as her guardian can file in her behalf. And you dont get into trouble. Good luck
2006-08-13 11:49:35 · answer #5 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get more proof then show the proof 2 your daughter and tell her that she has 2 break up with her boyfriend she is going 2 be mad at first but later she will understand u r a mother u have 2 do the right thing your a great mother
2006-08-13 11:43:01 · answer #6 · answered by nina buena 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why break his neck? Why are you blaming him and not looking at your daughter. We as parents always want to believe that it's always the other person and not our child. It took two. If I were you I would talk with both of them together. Although you can't stop them but you can suggest protection.
2006-08-13 11:41:56 · answer #7 · answered by Lipstick 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wring his ****ing neck and then call the vice squad. Doin' a 13 yr old is rape, period. The cops can have what is left of him.
You are right to keep an eye on your daughter. She needs you to protect her. I have an 18 yr old girl and an 11 yr old. My oldest busted into my liquor cabinet when she was 14 and some dude from school came over. She says she doesn't remember what happened ... but she knows I'll kill the guy. It did her good to know that I stood up for her. Most girls complain about things happening to them and then no one believes them.
Go kick that dudes a$$.
2006-08-13 18:54:08 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
if you can't have an open an honest conversation about what is going on then no wonder she is doing what she is doing? And to listen to her conversations on the phone??????
Why is it parents can't seem to talk to their kids, they try to be friends and not parents. And how old is she? When I decided to be mature and protect myself from unwanted pregnancy my mother didn't talk to me for a month. she never gave me the "talk" and I never spoke to her about anything because of the way she handled my trying to be mature.
Sit her down and talk to her openly before she comes home crying saying she is pregnant. Too many kids are having kids
2006-08-13 11:53:52 · answer #9 · answered by June 28/10, its a boy! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont spy on your daughter thats one thing that made me mad at my parents but its ok to be angry id calmy ask her what she's done because i just turned 20 and let me tell you kids from 16- 20 around here have engaged in alot more than the parent image, it takes two not one , just i'd catch it before it leads up to teen parenthood, not saying teen parents are bad i was one i have a 2 and a half yr old but seriously parents need to have the talk with their children very early just because it can happen. i'd suggest talking to both of them in the same room and ask if they are ready to be parents
2006-08-13 11:46:27 · answer #10 · answered by army fiance 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋