My wife feels that it is important for her to stay in touch with her ex's and mine. And when our past sexual behaviors come up she gets upset. But she only has her ex's email addresses and work numbers. I know she isn't cheating on me (yet) but why keep in touch if you are happy at home?
2006-08-13 11:30:32 · 14 answers · asked by Kevin P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She has some unresolved issues, Dude. it's not wise to keep up with the ex's. It's like scratching a scab....and it will never heal until she stops scratching that old itch. I'd put a stop to it and if she resists, get some counseling. There is no need to keep an ex around unless you have kids together. Now, go dust off your balls and put your foot down! That might be what she's waiting for.
2006-08-13 11:41:36 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is something I just don't understand. I am happily re-married and I have no desire to stay in touch with either my ex-husband or the ex-boyfriend after him.
I am quite content with my life and especially my husband. No need to keep in contact with the ex's
2006-08-13 11:47:34 · answer #2 · answered by I love my husband 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. I noticed that too. Maybe it provides them with some kind of "FALSE" security blanket in your relationship. I personally think there is something really wrong with someone holding onto the past. Move on and grow with the relationship you have now. If I was in similar situation... I would ask for it to change or it's over.
2006-08-13 11:37:42 · answer #3 · answered by NïghtStalkër_666 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a good question. In my opinion.. I rather kill my ex husband then to even think of being friends with him. If my husband having any contact with his ex. I would be very unpset. She did him wrong just like my ex done me wrong. I'm talking about very nasty wrong. Yeah if mine was keeping in touch with his ex I would be upset. I probably leave him.
2006-08-13 11:38:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the nature of her friendship with the ex and what she wants out of it. If it is purely platonic and she is happy with you, what's wrong with that? Sometimes the exes turn out to be good friends. My husband and I are good friends with my ex bf and his wife and when they're in town, the four of us would go out and do something together. We are very secured in our current relationships and know what we want.
If you have a problem with your wife's friendship with her ex, let her know. She in turn, has to respect your feelings about this and cut all ties with them. Had my husband told me he had a problem with me being friends with my ex, only then would I have terminated the friendship completely.
2006-08-13 12:01:08 · answer #5 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately for me keeping in touch with my ex isn't an option, he's my brother in law. Try to get around that one?
2006-08-13 12:10:43 · answer #6 · answered by ~SSIRREN~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know why they do that i mean i think they want to keep them on hand incase they arent happy but i think they should let them go and focus on a happy home with the man they choose to be with
2006-08-13 11:33:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps, for her, it's a sense of closure to be able to resolve past hurts and remain friends. you said yourself that you know she's not cheating on you - she may also just want to know what mistakes that occured in the past that can be avoided, cos she loves you so much and wants to do just that. :)
2006-08-13 11:35:17 · answer #8 · answered by Elizabeth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean Im involed sort of with a woman who is like that.
2006-08-13 12:31:54 · answer #9 · answered by ccameronbeaty78 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are right, why keep in touch with the past.
If you can't make he see that, I am not sure if any one can.
2006-08-13 11:38:23 · answer #10 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋