A month ago my brother came home in the middle of the night and slammed the door. I asked my mum to let him know. I then asked him. He ran downstairs and slammed it again. I said 'I am your feeling better now you bastard'. He said 'What did you say' as if I was in the wrong then ran downstairs to tell my mum. I am indian and 30 unmarried and get treated unequally by my mum who thinks everything my brother does is brilliant. I am still at home as in Indain tradition I have to go throughthe arranged marriage...blah blah blah..I ;m sure you have heard all this before.
My brother did not talk to me for two weeks. My mum said nothing. I tried to talk on one night to him but was ignored. My mum 'told us both' off. But my brother retorted by saying I'm a liar, a manipulator a materialsit..basically describing me as a ***** but not saying it. My mum did not defend him. I said nothing. He is referiing to the fact that yes I have lied in the past, taken drughs, had overdoese, been with an
2006-08-13 11:21:03 · 7 answers · asked by C S 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
older white man. He again brought up that I am pathetic and can't talk to people and run away from my problems.
It all really hurt as over the last two years I have tried to change my life around.
After two weeks of not talking, I tried to talk but was ignored. I was so upset I was shouting at my mum saying that as a family we needed to talk. In the ned she made us say sorry...and this time it felt more genuine.
A few days ago my sis caught me writing one of my mad rants about all this and how I do genuinely think peopel will not like me. She doesn't live here normally and is quite distant. A few yrs back she also said I was pathetic .
She demanded I tell her..and as I had had nonone to talk to ..I just cried. She kep saying that 'TRUST' was a big issue and you couldn't expect people to like you. The thing is my sis never has time to talk and has onky visited us less then 5-6 times in two years. She hasn't seen I have changed. Instead she heres a lot of my mum venting
2006-08-13 11:26:12 · update #1
Do they care about you?
Sure! Or else wouldn't they just want you out of their lives entirely instead keeping you at home?
But you don't have to stick to any traditions. Do what you want. That isn't right.
And heck, drugs and stuff are bad. Maybe you should cut them some slack.. what can you expect from them if you did a lot of bad things in the past. It takes time to heal wounds...
2006-08-13 11:28:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are denied your own identity and they only care about their traditions, appearance and standing within their said community and family.
To be honest, how can they care by displaying these attitudes and self absorbed behaviour.
Any human being who genuinely cares for another human being does not care less for any ones elses opinion, their main interest is the desire to make the other person feel good and understood and supported.
Whatever the religion or way of life there is no justification in talking and treating someones so selfishly, so ignorantly and so disrespectfully as these people treat you.
You have to find who you are, and live with your gut instincts, be brave and be YOU! FIND YOU!
I sincerely wish you the very best and hope you can rise above the ccrap.
2006-08-13 18:33:04 · answer #2 · answered by Paula 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor baby, it sounds like you are so lonely with your family. Your traditions keep you at home. You aren't pathetic, you just need to get yourself free. Arranged marriage doesn't sound like anything I would enjoy, at all. Of course I am American and have never been raised the way you have. Do you have to wait for your brother to marry before you do? If not get that party started. Pick your battles. The door slams, so what? If it wakes your mum, then she is the one to deal with it. Where is your father? Is not he the one leading the family? Get some pen pals, and some friends and try to get yourself out of the situation you are in as much as possible. I wish you the best of luck, honey, with your home life and your future. Nana
2006-08-13 18:36:33 · answer #3 · answered by nanawnuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so the problem is your 30, single and live with your mom. you speak perfect english educated and can use a computer. and your problem is?.
you marry who the hell you want, its your life. bollox to indian tradition. im irish do you think i go by my tradition hell i dont. get out of your moms house and find a job in the service/management industry
2006-08-13 18:39:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really think it is that bad then leave, You are 30 years old. You are old enough to look after yourself.
2006-08-13 18:37:11 · answer #5 · answered by monkeyface 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
blablabblab
I dont care
2006-08-13 18:30:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOVE OUT UR FRIKIN HOUSE!!!!
2006-08-13 18:28:12 · answer #7 · answered by Brittany R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋