why did he dump me when i told him i loved him?

Question

he asked me to move in with him and took me on holiday, everything great untill i told him i loved him, then he dumped me, no rows, we have loads in common HE was making plans for the future, things that we were going to do together. he is still texting me ? am i just stupid for believing him. i trusted him and still love him. my life is empty without him its been a month now and its not getting any better, i dont understand why he is still texting me when it was him that finished with me. i would give anything to turn the clock back, and not told hiim how i felt about him

Answer 1

Sounds like u spooked him!!
Its fine while he was the one that thought he was in control, in a mans simple head, as long as hes calling the shots then he cant get hurt. By u saying u love him, its made him let his guard down so hes panicked...he probably thinks u want bigger commitment, like most men he's more than likely let in minute brain go in to overdrive and is scared u want marriage, house, 2.4 children the whole works!!
As he is still texting u, u could try telling him that because u said the 3 dreaded words it didnt mean u now want the fairytale wedding and all that, that things dont need to change because of it.
He obviously still wants 2 b with u, otherwise why bother txt'n u? Go 4 it, just tell him....what do u have to lose?!

Answer 2

I was in a situation where I told him I loved him after a year together and he tells me he cant love me. Then after I kick him out, he then pleads with me and tells me he loves me but then never mentions it ever again. I decided that I wanted so much more from someone, I wanted to feel loved and told that I was loved I needed the reassurance. Almost everyone does. You are not stupid, but he is putting you in a situation where your life is on hold, because you are waiting on him. I wouldnt rush into another relationship , but I sure wouldnt block anyone else from getting in either. You need to be in a healthy relationship and apparently at this time you havent found one. He may change his mind, but so could you given time and attention from someone else who shows you love and respect you deserve. Kicking you out and texting you showed you neither of these. I know it is hard and it will be even if you see him walking down the street and he has no idea you are even there, you will still miss him because your love is real. But Love isnt Love without someone loving you back, if they get all the fringe benifits of what a marriage would be like, all the emotion all the affection from you and never once respond with a real "I Love You" you are being taken advantage of , please do yourself a favor and at least think about moving on.

Answer 3

Let me tell you from personal experience that I did the same thing when my boyfriend told me he loved me and I dumped him, but in my case I just knew him a week. NO man would tell you to move in if he didn't like you or he was using you. He was properly feeling closed in, like it was getting serious too fast and he panicked; Thats sort of what I felt. He properly still really likes you, but he has other life goals that he wants to address first. When men feel closed in they like to take the easy way out and skip the talking. So I suggest you try talking to him and ask him how he feels, although you might not get an answer.

Answer 4

When you told him you loved him, panic set in, because he knew he didn't love you or was very unsure about it. As for continuing to text you, that's him keeping you on the back burner.
At least you now know that he doesn't feel the same way. That's not very comforting right now but at least it frees you to find someone else who is able to love you back. Someone who really loves you doesn't behave like this. You deserve better.
One day you will meet someone who won't run a mile when the is 'l' word is said. Good luck.

Answer 5

Sounds like this guy is full of sh*t to tell you the truth. All talk and no action. All these promises he made for you, are just to get something else out of you, obviously NOT an "I love you". Hmm, what do you think that something else could be? Sex perhaps?

Bottom line is, he's no good and obviously not feeling you all that much if it was so easy for him to dump you, especially after making all those promises. It's ALL a game for him. Move ON, please! Ignore the dude. Someone is out there for you who, when you say "I love you", will HAPPILY say it back, if not FIRST!

Answer 6

If I was you I would ask him face to face do you love me? and then wait for his answer then why are you avoiding me if he does not answer that or puts you off text him later and tell him that is stricke 1
you got two more stricks to go or I am out of here then move out to a friends or back withyour parents he might snap cra* and wisen up just an idea

Answer 7

if he cant handle a simple 'i love u', then how is he gonna handle anything else?
id tell him to stop texting, tell him u dont want to know anymore, change your number if u have to. give yourself some more time to get over it and move on, go find someone whos gonna tell u he loves u and not run when u say it back to him.
put this behind u and start over.
good luck.

Answer 8

You shouldn't think that way you loved him and you told him. He could realized he made mistake and wants you back. You should talk to him again and clear up that issue with any other issues before you decide to get back together again. Get the lines of communication open again and have a serious talk.

Answer 9

A lot of men are allergic to the 'L' word. It has a worse effect on them than a load of C.S gas sprayed in thir faces, ha ha. Seriously he probably just got stage fright but be fair to yourself. If he was full of promise one moment and has little to do with you the next, find another romeo and leave it to be his loss.

Answer 10

forget him hes affraid of responsability but at the same time having nobody at all hes just trying to keep you hanging until something better comes along either that hun or hes likes to be in control and wanted to express his feelings before you did and because you did it first he didnt no how to handle it either way hun forget him hold your head up high keep smileing and in the end you will find someone whos worth all the love you have to give