My bf of almost 2 years told me today he doesnt love me the way he used to. He told me i dont arouse him, he doesnt see us together anymore. He said we shouldnt see each other anymore and he doesnt want a relationship. I love this guy very much. I dont him that, all he did was pushed me away. I dont believe that he doesnt love me anymore. Everything was was up until today's morning. I told him how i feld us not having sex often enough etc. Well, i just didnt see it coming to such a break up, he seemed like someone i dont even know. Previously, when we would fight, i would tell him we should break up etc, i know i shouldnt have said that. In the morning he acted normal, we were about to go out, up until i told him about our sex relationship, he denied it at first and told me it wasnt true. Why did he decide to break up? Is there a chance of us getting back together?
2006-08-13 11:04:33 · 17 answers · asked by sandy02 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He also told me he doesnt love me the way i love him, that he doesnt want to hurt me. I dont believe this, because before he would tell me i dont love him when we fight.
2006-08-13 11:06:58 · update #1
yes there is always a chance my gf and i have broken up twice she said the same thing and i have got her back both times if its ment to be then youl will be with him.
2006-08-13 11:17:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it's final. He doesn't want to be pressured for sex because he doesn't feel it anymore. Get yourself out there and meet someone new, even if you feel sad. The best way to get over a love affair is to get into a new love affair. You're young and there are so many cute guys out there! To have a two year relationship with someone is really an achievement, but you have to know when to let go.
2006-08-13 18:17:58 · answer #2 · answered by Chatelaine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he answered your question regarding the not enough sex . He is not aroused. From what you are stating it seems like you two have had quite a few arguments, so why not give him what he is asking for? Why would you want to keep someone with you just because that is what you want? That is not a true relationship, just a one-sided, selfish one. It is never easy when someone says they don't love us anymore, but why would someone say that to us if they don't mean it? And....why would we want them to stay with us if that is truly how they feel? Give him a clean break and what is meant to be will be.
2006-08-13 18:13:52 · answer #3 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think part of the sex issue is that he was trying to find a way to end it with you and not hurt you. I can feel for you and I truly believe that he was trying to be decent to you. Maybe a split for awhile and dating other people will make his heart grow fonder for you. However, you are the one right now that is hurting. For some reason he's gotten cold feet or actually has figured out that you and he are not right for the rest of his life.I would try to get by on a day to day basis for right now, don't chase him, give him time to think, and maybe he'll decide you were the one for him. Good Luck!
2006-08-13 18:21:51 · answer #4 · answered by HolidayGurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard to hear your boyfriend say that his feelings aren't the same for you, but please believe it. Don't be one of those women who act pathetic and grovel like you have no shame. The least you can do is walk away with your pride. If it would bring you some comfort and closure then ask him if there is any way t he two of you can work things out and if he says NO, please leave well alone and yes you will hurt and cry and then anger will step in, but you will get over, and find the person that God has for you
2006-08-13 18:16:41 · answer #5 · answered by spoiltrini 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? 12?
Learn reality girl that when a guy says he doesn't want to see you anymore, that is exactually what he means.
I don't think you reallyl know what love is. It isn't about sex or how much attention you get. As a woman you need to watch out in arguents to not threaten break ups........thats a sure way to get a guy to break up with you up. Who wants to live under threats..when he can get an other girl who will do what he wants her to do.
Watch out for guys who connect frequence of sex with how he fells about you.
2006-08-13 18:33:09 · answer #6 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Real love is when you love someone enough to want them to be happy with or with you, and he told you he just ain't feeling you anymore so let him go tell him once and for all you love him and want him happy and he's not happy with you so you wish him well. Then you realize that you love yourself enough to not want someone who don't love you as much as you love him. you may be smothering him and he needs some air if you give him some freedom if he wants you he'll come back if he don't move on
2006-08-13 19:32:40 · answer #7 · answered by spagetti7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you just don't do it for him anymore. It happens sometimes. Nothing against you or him.
By telling you that he doesn't love you "that" way anymore. What he's saying is he doesn't find you physically attractive anymore. It happens sometimes when we get to know someone a bit "too" well.
Your relationship is done though. Move on.
2006-08-13 18:11:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you guys can use some time to your self's and then meet up again in about 1 month to see if the relationship can be saved.
2006-08-13 18:11:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Ask him why he REALLY says he feels this way. If you have been together for 2 years, he must love you. Talking is all you can really do to see what is wrong.
2006-08-13 18:10:55 · answer #10 · answered by ♀♥♂☮Trippy Hippie☮♂♥♀ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋