How do I get my homebody husband to go out more (without me)?

Question

My husband works and comes home. That's it. He has friends. He ducks them to hang out at home with me and our daughter. Or we'll go out as a family. It might sound like a dream to some women, but I think he needs to be more well rounded. We are both in our early 30's, and I think that's too young for him to not go out. I am not saying every night. Maybe twice a month. I think he needs to have fun with the guys sometimes and I don't understand why he doesn't. The second part of that, is that he'll try to guilt trip me if I want to meet up with the girls. My girl excursions are always pretty tame. We might go on a shopping trip and out to dinner. I just sometimes like to do the things I used to do before I became a mommy and wife. We've been married for 4 years, together for 8 years, and are very happy. I just don't think secluding himself from 'the boys' is healthy. Any suggestions?

Answer 1

Tell him he needs a life outside of the house in order to keep things interesting at home.. At some point you won't have anything to talk about anymore if you guys never have any outside stimulation.

Answer 2

That's a tough one. You have to know exactly what to say without hurting his feelings or giving him the wrong idea about your intentions. If I were you, I would invite his friends over and put out a few snacks and stock the fridge with cold beer. As soon as they seem to start enjoying themselves watching sports or just shooting the breeze, I would go in a kiss him on the cheek and tell him I'm gonna step out for a minute. That way he's pre-occupied with sports or whatever.
Or you can ask his friends to invite him out more. You can also plan a day when you both are out with your own friends. You can do that a few times a month. I actually purchased season tickets for my husband and since he knows I'm not too crazy about sports, he always invites his brother or other friends.

Answer 3

well its not healthy, he shoould be out with friends at least one night a week and spend some quailty time with you alone and with the child too.
he has to get out because being secluded to the home, will down the road bring resentment and the eventual demise of the relationship, in other words kick his A$$ off the couch and get his friends to come get him, and let him tell his friends he doesn't want to go after you called them over to take him

Answer 4

Bribe him, give him the BJ of his life and say he wants more he gotta go hang with the boys twice a month, when he comes back from his boys night out sex him up better then you ever have.

Answer 5

I agree with you completely. My husband is the same way. If I knew the answer to this I would be implementing it my own household. My company sponsored a picnic recently and I went and he didn't (because he was working) and he called/texted me the entire time. Let me know what you come up with!!!!

Good Luck!

Answer 6

When I first started reading it seemed you cared about him but you want him to go out for selfish reasons. Leave him alone. If he doesn't want to go he doesn't want to go. You keep doing what your doing and just deal with it when he gives you a hard time. You married him knowing how he was and honestly you should be thanking your lucky stars. Stop pushing him out, it might backfire.

Answer 7

get him tickets for a sporting event in your area, or suggest he get a partial season ticket plan, where some nights you go as a family and others with the guys.

I have coffee on Saturday mornings with two of my buddies, play poker once or twice a month, and attend some sporting events.

Answer 8

I think you should leave him alone and consider yourself lucky. At least you know where he is at all times. He is not tempting himself or putting himself in a situation where things could lead to other things. I say sex him up more at home and appreciate him before someone else does.

Answer 9

o come on. the man loves u.

Answer 10

Can't always get what you want