Hi - met up yesterday with a friend who is dying of cancer - didn't know what to say and ended up crying (still crying about it today) ... want to help but feel all wobbly when I think about her not being around. Any advice would be welcome.
2006-08-13 10:23:03 · 22 answers · asked by mummsie 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Listening is good.
My wife died extremley young from cancer. Once we had accepted that it was terminal we behaved quite normally. Yes there were tears, but usually somewhere secluded, where she couldn't see.
So so difficult. Each has to deal with this silent killer in their own way!
Good luck to you
2006-08-13 10:35:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to know what to say. I have lost several good friends to cancer (I'm just in my early 40's). I also lost my Mom to cancer. Maybe just knowing that you are there for her if she needs help with anything. Just sitting with her when she doesn't feel good, when she needs somebody to cry with. If you aren't in the same city, send her bright cards and call her. Don't wait until it is too late to help. If she's losing her hair, and feels up to it, go shopping for hats or wigs. Get some of her lady friends together and have a hat party. Give out prizes for the most bizarre hat, the prettiest, etc. Most of all, know that it is okay to cry. It is okay to feel sad. She is probably having some pretty emotional times too.
2006-08-13 10:37:30 · answer #2 · answered by ifeedkids3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cancer is a horrible thing, i have had many friends and family survive cancer and a few die. the best thing to do is be there help them forget for a while about being sick like go to a movie or bring movies over.. laugh with them. the worst thing you could do is pity them or cry- cry later when you get home. there is nothing you can say to make it go away but just be positive and tell them not to give up- alot depends on his attitude and pray for him
2006-08-13 10:44:06 · answer #3 · answered by maryoke 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear this, and it is perfectly normal to cry. Your friend will understand this and if given the time you can still make some happy memories together. Tell her how you feel, it may all come out wrong, but at least you have said what is in your heart. Be yourself and your friend will love you for it, and nothing can take your memories away.
2006-08-13 10:34:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very devastating when you get news like this. There is not much you can say, only that you are sorry. You must treat this person just like you have always treated him or her. Most people that has a problem of this nature does not want to be felt sorry for. You have to be strong and supportive for this friend. Just love her or him and be there for them. Don't forget about the
life after death in a mansion with the one that loves us all.
2006-08-13 10:35:57 · answer #5 · answered by tootles 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your friend needs you to be strong for her. A friend of mine died from cancer recently and i know it is very hard for you. My friend had been suffering terribly so when she passed away it was upsetting, but i got a lot of comfort from knowing that she wouldnt be in pain anymore and that she was at peace. I will always miss her, but i feel that she is still here in my heart and i remember all the things that i loved about her. My heart goes out to you. It is not easy but you will get through this. xxx
2006-08-13 10:45:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
send her a card telling her no matter what this doesnt change your friendship, ask her if there is anything you can do for her, check up on her once a week, maybe out of the blue send her flowers and most of all light a candle and pray for her. im sorry to hear this about your friend i will say a prayer for the both of you
2006-08-13 10:30:50 · answer #7 · answered by oceanlady580 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I`ve prayed for you both.Be there for her and support her.Let her know how you feel.If she needs a shoulder to cry ,on then cry with her,if she doesn`t act like she wants sympathy then don`t show it.Just be a friend,we all need a good friend.
2006-08-13 15:01:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to stay strong its hard but at this time she needs you i remember when my gran was dieing my mum and auntie kept smiling through the bad times when the time came my gran didn't know what was happening as she was so full of drugs the Dr's can give her medication to help with the pain please be there for her she will be more scared and sad than any of us out together remember she is fighting this if she can put on a brave face you can
2006-08-14 03:41:15 · answer #9 · answered by munchie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you need to say anything inparticular. Just let your friend know that you are there for them and care about them. Enjoy the time that you still have together.
2006-08-13 10:32:42 · answer #10 · answered by JoeBones 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋