Are there strict Southern rules? For instance...when we first moved here a month ago everyone was so warm and friendly and acted like they wanted to get to know me better. I thought I was doing the right thing when I "accepted" and started to let them get to know more about me. I'm a conservative Christian, single Mom and have tried to not overdo it. But, they asked for more information about me and now it seems as if I have overstepped my boundaries and offended. I mean, there's not much to tell. I'm a single Mom and have a son with a medical problem-needed better medical care so we are here. It seems my northern friends who have moved here have no problem with this and we are all doing fine together. Have I done something wrong? Does "we'd like to get to know you better" not literally mean that down here? I want to make friends, not enemies. I love it here, my Dad is from here and I intend to stay. Thanks for your help, everyone.
2006-08-13 10:19:49 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
To add to what I said, there are no rednecks or hillbillies here, that would be back in Indiana where I am from :-) People in Tennessee have a lot of class. I am involved in a church here and I like it. But, I just get the feeling maybe I'm too talkative, maybe I take the invitation too literally. Just unsure.
2006-08-13 10:38:57 · update #1
When learning a new language and culture, it is best to have a few catch phrases to get you through the rough parts. Here in the South the best thing you can say in any situation is "Bless your heart," "bless his heart," "bless her heart," etc.
Other than that, just sit back, watch, and wait. Southerners are a distinct breed of people, but we are just people after all. We are sometimes guilty of leading busy lives and don't get to go out and see the neighbors as much as we would like to. Please don't take this as a personal affront.
Try getting involved in a local church group or charity to get to know people in a deeper, more meaningful way.
Good luck, keep in touch and let me know how you are doing.
2006-08-13 10:29:58 · answer #1 · answered by whirled_queen 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's hard to get to know rednecks and hillbillies and such. they'll eventually come around.
2006-08-13 17:27:57 · answer #2 · answered by Tommy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
nah.... ull be amazed manners? ettiquette or that thing ??? in the south? pshh man .... that doesnt exist here ....
2006-08-13 17:23:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
are we talking UK or US???
2006-08-13 17:23:35 · answer #4 · answered by chromosone4 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋