If you were raped by someone you didn't even know and weeks later you found out you were pregnant, would you get an abortion, or keep it? And would you tell your parents, knowing your they'd be mad [and refuse to help you take care of the baby] at you for being pregnant even though it wasn't your fault?
2006-08-13 10:13:08 · 15 answers · asked by K 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You need to talk to your parents about what happened. If you don't feel like you can go directly to them, then talk to another adult that you trust and maybe they can go with you to talk with your parents.
You need to report the rape also. Either your parents or the trusted adult can go with you.
There are places that will help you if you decide to have the baby. Just because you have the baby, does not mean that you have to keep it. You can give it up for adoption. There are a lot of nice couples that can't have children that would love to adopt a baby.
You don't say how old you are, but I'm assuming that you are young. Since it was a rape, if I were in your situation, I believe I would go the adoption route. There are open adoptions and you could pick the family you want the baby to go to. If you wanted to stay in contact with the family, that can happen too.
Right now I'm sure your parents will be shocked. They will be upset, but not with you, it will be with what happened. They may yell, but remember it's not blaming you. Whoever did this to you is to blame, you are not at fault! After awhile, I believe your parents will calm down and will support you. It took awhile for you to get used to what happened (and you're probably not totally used to it yet), and it will take awhile for them too.
If you decided you wanted to keep the baby and raise it, there are place that will help you do that too....even if your parents won't help out.
Good luck & best wishes!
2006-08-13 10:32:13 · answer #1 · answered by 317bossyaussie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly...if i got pregnant by someone who raped me, i would get an abortion. Even though abortion is bad, being raped breaks you down emotionally and by having that baby is jsut a reminder of all the pain that you had to go through. Also i grew up without a father and there is nothing worse then when a parent leaves you or doesnt want you. And yes i would tell my parents its not your fault that you were raped and they would be very understanding.
2006-08-14 02:04:50 · answer #2 · answered by GDsoccer3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would seriously talk to my parents. rape's not something to play around with. did you go to the hospital afterwords and get a rape kit done? i hope so. but that's a hard decision to make about the baby. i personally would not get an abortion. abortion is wrong, its murder. if you really don't want the baby and you think that your parents will not help then just give the baby up for adoption. there's many of people out here that want a kid to love but they're just not able to have one. I'm sure your child would find a good home.
2006-08-13 17:20:00 · answer #3 · answered by stressed&depressed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I'd tell my parents or someone I could trust and get help dealing with the rape. It's not the baby's fault so I'd think long and hard before deciding on an abortion.
2006-08-13 17:19:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you parents going to get mad because you are pregnant of someone who raped you....don't have an abortion look for other options and tell you parents what happen.
2006-08-14 01:15:49 · answer #5 · answered by lala07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if parents were to be mad at a child for a pregnancy that is not her fault....that's not right. it's really up to the person to keep it or not. i personally don't believe in abortion, but in rape cases, i'd go either way. how about giving it up for adoption?
2006-08-13 17:29:58 · answer #6 · answered by [dANiiE♥♫]™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell ur parents and dont have an abortion the baby dont deserve to die becuz of some pervert give it up for a adoption is what i can tell u. hope u make tha right decision.
2006-08-13 18:35:56 · answer #7 · answered by leonycbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this woould be the best time to tell them so you could get help with the emotional ang physical consequences of what happened. maybe they could catch the guy and send him to jail. also think about some counseling for the emotional side effects of the rape/pregnancy
2006-08-13 17:21:46 · answer #8 · answered by bicycleracer3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd give up the baby for adoption. Keeping the baby would constantly remind me of my attacker.
2006-08-13 18:22:04 · answer #9 · answered by nobodyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell my brother (because he's the only person I trust) and get an abortion.
2006-08-13 17:21:12 · answer #10 · answered by holidayspice 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋