Why is it that women can never say what they mean in a personal discussion?

Question

I am tired of trying to be a code-breaker

Oh, I listen OK. But I hear verbatim and literal, not tangential and allegorical

Answer 1

I always want my husband to already know why I am uoset without me telling him. If I have to tell him why I'm upset I feel like he is being insensitive........

Answer 2

I don't want to sound chauvinistic, but the origins of this behavior may date back to our more primitive ancestors.

Before civilization and its laws, women (as the physically weaker sex) were more or less at the mercy of violent men. Without birth control, women were also were also almost always pregnant and tied down with numerous children, making them dependent on men for their survival. Suffice it to say, back in the caveman days, women couldn't afford to risk angering or offending men. If they told the full truth, they risked being beaten or deserted by their mates. It's likely that women developed a less-direct (or less honest, if you will) way of dealing with men as a simple survival instinct. And hundreds of thousands of years later, it's now just part of human nature.

Answer 3

I personally try very hard to say what I mean in a personal discussion, but often I'm afraid of sounding stupid or insincere. Also, sometimes I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, but lately I've taken to being completely honest, as I would hope people would be completely honest with me :)

Answer 4

I'm upfront myself, only because I'm not gonna waste my time on foolishness. I guess it would depend on the topic... ...some can be more sensitive than others depending the person & the conversation.

This isn't just a WOMAN thing... ...
I can think of PLENTY MEN that have told & STILL tell chicks they want to get to know us in a relationship-type of way, yet they just want some azz. We don't wanna be decoders either!

Answer 5

Here we go again! This kind of generalization drives me nuts. What you mean is you have been having a personal discussion with one specific woman, or a specific group of women, and you aren't able to decipher what they really mean. You can either listen harder, or ask them to explain.
But please don't sit around fruffing about 'women' in general, because this simply doesn't apply, just as most generalizations don't generally apply.

Answer 6

Women tell it like it is. If you happened upon a woman who cant say what she really means, then ask her DIRECT questions. If you ask her, "how are you," well what does that mean? how are you right this very minute, or how are you today, or how are you in general? I usually think of that question as how am I at that very minute, so my response is "great." Even if my day had been crappy. Women are complex.

Answer 7

Do you want her to learn your language and your code so you can understand her? If she cannot, will that relieve you of the responsiblity to communiate effectively with her? Are you asking for help or playing the devil's advocate?

Answer 8

I always say what I mean in a personal discussion. What would you like to talk about?

Answer 9

Are we starting a Polls and Surveys battle of the sexes here?

Answer 10

Try to be careful with wording, hummh, good question...Women our usually good at communicating how they feel and what they want more.Maybe these women are more complicated you deal with