im going to university this year in the uk and i want to know how i can make friends easily?

Question

im not really good at socialising well with people because i never know what to talk bout can anyone help me and what i can say or ask people so i dont end up being a loner =s

Answer 1

Hey,
I go to portsmouth uni in the uk and from experience can tell you that you really shouldn't worry bout the social hun,

just remember that noone there will know anybody, and all are in the same situation - which means everybody is ultra nice in the 1st year,

plus things like freshers week are completely geared up to getting you out and about so you meet loads of people,

would definately say if you have a hobby i.e sport, that you like doing then definately give it a go when you're there - you meet SO many people through things like that!! there's also flat mates etc that you will meet - u'll spend a lot of the 1st couple of months with them and if they go out - go with!.

and as for finding things to say - you (along with everyone else) will get the university fresher torets syndrome (3 phrases everybody will automatically blurt out when they 1st meet someone) -
1)whats your name?
2)where you from?
3) what course you doing?,

Just be yourself and go out and do things you like - have fun!

Oh and might be a good idea to actually do a lil bit of work when there too! - but don't strain urself ;-) !! lol
Just remember if you don't go out you won't meet anyone!!

Answer 2

University is a great place to change this - lots of people there will be interested in meeting new people. The most interesting people in conversations are ones who are interested in the other person. After doing the obvious 'What course are you on?', 'Where are you from?', 'What grades did you get?' questions, ask more open questions - ones which don't have a simple yes or no, or merely factual answer: 'Have you been travelling?', for example, might be a good start - followed by 'Where? What was it like?' etc. On my first evening in halls, I knocked on everyone's door and asked who wanted to go to the bar - went down well. Perhaps the best way of meeting people is to join a club or society (or 2 or 3 - more than that & you're not likely to go along).

Good luck!

Answer 3

Remember that everyone will be in the same boat - away from home for the first time with no friends.

You don't have to be a good talker to be a good freind just a good listener. A few opening questions are good to have - easy things like 'Where are you from.' or 'what made you come to X university'. Try to take up any invites you get and join a couple of clubs at the 'freshers fair' so you can get to know people through a shared interest.

Answer 4

Well, university is a great place to learn because to start of with everyone has one thing in common - no one has been there before so, chances are all the other newbies are nervous and uncertain about what to say or who to talk to etc etc. Why not just be honest, tell people you're feeling nervous, ask them if they are.

At university you've got a new chance to be anyone you want. Confidence can be faked so if you want to lose your 'shy' persona just pretend to be someone really confident and outgoing you'd be amazed how well this works.

And if you don't know what to talk about ask people questions - about their life before university, their course, what they like doing, where they went on holiday etc etc. Everyone is new, everyone is nervous in their own way. I'm sure you'll be fine, deep breath, smile and go for it!

Answer 5

i'm going to offer you the suitable piece of advice and allow you already know what to no longer do - do no longer lend all of us money, nutrition, fags or the rest like that - they're going to take the p*ss out of you and you'd be taken advantage of. you are able to no longer purchase friendship and uni is crammed with ponces! basically be your self and be actual, attempt and connect any golf equipment or societies for any interests or pastimes you're transforming into e.g. chess, lacrosse, cinema (there are golf equipment for each thing conceivable). Say hi to people, ask them the place they arrive from, what they are reading, what A'stages they did, did they have a niche 3 hundred and sixty 5 days - those are the foremost questions which would be floating around over the 1st few days. do no longer shag all of us in greater energizing's week, it supply you a foul popularity as a slag for the remainder of a few time there!

Answer 6

You will have no problem making friends! You may feel scared that you will not know anybody but neither will anyone else, therefore giving you a fantastic opportunity to make friends. I am not particularly good at socialising with others and I find it hard to make friends but I have come out of my first year of university with a lovely group of friends and I feel so much more confident for it because I am more confident about meeting new people and I have never had so many friends in my whole entire life. There are allsorts of ways to make friends at uni - if you are going into a hall of residence the dining hall will be an ideal place because you are always meeting others. You are bound to make friends with others studying the same subject as you spend most of your time in lectures with the same people. Finally, another good way to make friends is to join societies, a lot of them spend most of their time going out on pub crawls, but pub crawls are another good way to meet new people and make new friends...

I hope that helps, so good luck with uni, you will make loads of new friends - trust me! - there is nobody at uni who doesn't have friends and you are bound to find people who have things in common with you!

Answer 7

dont take johnb's suggestion thats just going to cause you trouble... when you start your course you will be meeting people who want to do the same as you and no doubt you will find out that you have something in common with at least one of the people in your group if your uni offers a freshers week/night or day then i suggest you going along i did this and made many friends enjoy your time and worry not friends will be pounding down your door soon enough!!!!

Answer 8

There is a huge student population here, so you won't end up a loner. There will be others in the same situation as you too. You'll enjoy your time here.

Answer 9

congratulations! how exciting for you a new adventure! because you're heading for a new experience you must be somewhat anxious but guess what? i can guarantee everyone will be feeling the same. my advice would be to play it a bit cool and smile as in dont be over freindly i dont know where you are from so its hard to get a grasp of your culture they can be clicky in the uk but one thing is for sure they love honesty and funny people, oh yes whatever you do dont jump the queue.

Answer 10

well abi, i went through that process last year and i was exactly like you..but on my first day i found out that it was nothing to be scared of and actually u shud be loving uni life. so my advise to u is that to make friendship u should start of with talking and getting to know the people in ur tutor group first and eventually ur friendship will expand. so good luck to u in ur uni life and im sure u will love it :)