I still think about my high school sweetheart but am married to another?

Question

I constantly think about my old boyfriend even though I haven't seen him in 13 years. I have been married for 10 years and it certainly has not been great. Anyway he is in town and I would really like to meet up with him. To either close that door finally or find out if he was the one. Am I crazy?

Answer 1

My goodness, and you haven't moved on yet?
No balls to divorce?
I feel sorry for you and the years you've wasted pining away.
Do something with your life that's meaningful.

Answer 2

One thing to remember is that you two are not the same people you were 13 years ago. When you see him, the old feelings you had for him may come back, but you really don't know him now. If you really want to see him, then go out for dinner. You'll get a chance to get reaquainted and either you will see that you don't feel the same way, or it'll be like you saw each other yesterday. Just don't act on these feelings until you are sure about what you are doing. It's not right and it's not fair to anybody involved in this.

Answer 3

My friend had the same problem. She was dating a guy in town and found her highschool boyfriend after 36 years. He has been looking her up for years. He started talking to her over the internet. She was so happy. He would call her at work and she would get a sparkle in her eye and was glad to hear from him. He lives far away from her. He said he was married.but his wife had an illness and only had two months to live( I think it was a lie). His wife found out about my friend and said she was going to go back to her ex as well. He gave my friend money so she can go back and see him where he lived. She would talk about him all the time and was excited to go see him. She said she was still in love with him. She told him so over the phone. When she went to go see him he changed a lot. She said he would not act like himself. He would do everything for her and she did not like it. She came back disappointed and not saying that she loved him anymore (which I thought was strange that she told him she loved him in the first place it was 36 years). She thought the grass was greener on the other side and it wasn't. He keeps calling her and harrassing her to come back and see him and it was only 2 weeks ago that she seen him. I feel there is a reason they are called ex's something went wrong and it did not work out.

Answer 4

im a married women and sometimes i think about an old sweetheart. I think the reason we do this is because we wonder about the path not taken. i was in your sistuation before. i couldnt get the guy out of my head. i was married thinking of an old boyfriend and he lived in town to. but there was a reason you didnt travel that path. go back and remember what that reason was. and why you choose your husband. I got married young i was 19 we are going on 4 years married. sometimes it horribel and i want out but i think that is just a part of marriage and you both have to work on things. sooner or later that guy will disappear out of you head. you went 13 years with out him dont ruin a 10 year marriage over a high school sweet heart. they say the grass is greener on the other side. well its not. trust me. take my advice. you dont know what you had until lose it. 10 years is a long time dont mess it up now. for better or for worse for richer or poorer til death do us part.

Answer 5

Well, tell your husband that you are going to meet him. If you don't and he finds out, he will probably think you're cheating on him. If you didn't have closure in your relationship, then it might be a good idea to meet him, just so that you have that closure. Then you can get on with your life and try to work things out with your HUSBAND. However, if you had closure, then I see no reason for you to see him. And as for wanting to know if he was the one, why did you marry your husband if you didn't know that HE was the one? I think that maybe you're unhappy in your marriage and are looking for happiness from somewhere else. If that's so, then you need to sit down and tell your husband how you're feeling. It's not fair to him.

Answer 6

Stop lying to yourself. You do not want to "close that door finally". You want to begin an extra-marital affair and you are secretly hoping he will accommodate you. The odds of a high school sweetheart actually being "the one" are not very good. And even if he is "the one" you took marriage vows to your current husband which automatically makes him "the one". You picked who you married, nobody else did. Suck it up and fulfill those marriage vows.

Answer 7

totaly understandable ask ur self this do u sometimes find ur self waking up in the middle of the night bc u had a dream about him?..well if that's true then do u think bou him while u mite have been doin something that u 2have done together?.. i wld seriously think about it b4 staying in the relationship bc theres a saying dont never leave the one you love for the one you like b/c the one you like will leave you 4 the one they love..think about it and all i can say is follow ur heart

Answer 8

You are not crazy- but I would recommend not seeing him. I am the same way with my college beau. I know if I saw him again, things might get complicated. My marriage isn't the greatest but I love my hubby dearly. I wouldn't want to risk my marriage- and I would if I saw him. Just really think it through if you deceide to see him.

Answer 9

Your fickled and have already slept in bed with the one your with...ugh, sounds like a Jerry Springer action to hear. If you really care about someone and move on with your life and then consider seeing this guy, your gonna sleep with him too and what does that make you???

Answer 10

The door should have been CLOSED, on the day you said your wedding vows to your husband, who supposedly was THE ONE!! Dont be foolish, leave well enough alone, geez, I think its rotten of you to betray your husband and go behind his back!!