I have this girl as an intimate friend for 2 years. By time we got closer and closer, she had boyfriends, i had a girl too. But in the last 2 months things have changed. I am started to feel jealeous about her. I was going well with her boyfriends, but i dont think that i can handle it from now on. We do everything together, we dive, we dance, we trip, we work, drink... we cant be without calling each 3-4 times a day. But i have a feeling that she sees me like a frined only. She had broke up with her long time relation 20 days ago. I always tell her that i cannot be with anyone else, or she fullfills all aspects of my life but these words seem to be friendly to her and always she answers like me too, me too. I cannot realize if she really fancies me or else. She is really beautiful and attractive, and likes to flirt with people. So maybe thats the thing shes doing with me too. What should i do. I love her very much and really think about marriage...
2006-08-13 09:17:46 · 18 answers · asked by JoSePa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
she has absolute confidence for me, i really care, help and comfort her. She knows it and tells me always. But she likes to live at edges, she fancies people with extraordinary jobs or talents. I am not a man living on the edge neither have extraordinary talents. For eg. in her last 2 long time relations, one of the guys was a really famous music producer and the other was a talented dive teacher. She is an eye surgeon and i am an emergency medicine resident at the same hospital. We are both good divers, love to camp... etc. So we share lots of thing together, even when she was in her relations we were seeing eachother more than she spends time w her bf. We had a conversation a few months ago with lots of people and the topic was "can best friends fall in love eachother". She was absolutely against it. And i think that was my answer. But what if it wasnt, i am absolutely confused
2006-08-13 09:53:49 · update #1
Tough one. In my experience women make it pretty clear if they're into you or not. If you have to ask - then the answer is probably "no". I'd play this cool and look for the signs...if she has romantic feelings for you, she will make it clear in due time. If you just spill it out there and she is'nt there with you yet - the friendship is ultimately doomed. Be patient!
2006-08-20 08:57:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you're in a hard situation. You care A LOT about this girl, and you're even thinking about marriage. First of all, tell her how you feel, and make it obvious that your feelings for her are more than those of a caring friend. Show her how much you care about her, and let her know exactly how much she fills your life. If she lets you know that she only wants to be friends, try again, but if you don't get the response you want, let it go. Nobody can be forced to feel a certain way about a person. Keep her as a friend, but don't destroy the friendship, if that's what you want. Simply act towards her like a friend. Then, try to meet other girls who have the characteristics you like or want in a girl/woman. There IS someone who is made for you and will return your feelings. Who knows, it might even be this friend you are mentioning. Good luck.
2006-08-13 09:28:57 · answer #2 · answered by Smiley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its either all or nothing whenever you fall in love with you best friend.You could end up with her in a relationship or losing the friendship completely.Do you dare to take the risk of losing her?Its obvious that you know that she have no feelings for you?Why risk the friendship for something that won't happen?You share the same intrest as best friends,that what she think,couples have to be the opposite to complete each other.You work in the same place,imagine how awkward it will be if you guys are no longer best friend and you will bump into each other occasionally.But if you think it worth it,go for it,
2006-08-20 13:18:36 · answer #3 · answered by Janet Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to have a serious talk with her. Tell her you have other feelings more than friends. Tell her how it is. Once you open up to her, give her some time to soak it all up and then ask her what she thinks or how she feels about it. And if you guys can take the next step and be a couple.
2006-08-20 14:14:06 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she id your friend right ! you say you both can talk about anything' so this subject was already approached.she had a negative answer", let it be and do some soul searching : ask yourself are you ready to be rejected by the one person who truly loves you for who you are/ and also maybe you love her the same way , you could also be looking for someone like her ;and she could be looking for someone like you ? try and think about this and weigh the pros and cons ,,, then talk to her again just don't push for the answer you want , and accept the answer you get ,, GOOD LUCK and treasure what you have''''!
2006-08-13 14:29:47 · answer #5 · answered by yvette b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok my friend..im am exacty the SAME as ur gf.. listen, TELL HER u like she a lot. and she will like that because she is the type who like to get comfort from men,and like compliments. get MORE closer day by day..she will enjoy it.. dont tell u want to marry, act slowly and come closer..every day b more romantically, she wont get enough from u, and love u MORE THEN ANYONE ELSE. yeah,u will excellent partners..because u and she knows eachother for a long time.. be STILL friend,but u can her bf also.. good luck. ur a good boy ;)
2006-08-13 09:27:33 · answer #6 · answered by she-ra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you are going through. My best friend, adam, he just moved away, and now i think i may have feelings for him. Tell your friend how you feel about her. You know each other soooo well. Just tell her and go from there. If she says no, ask her why? tell her that you are perfect for her in everyway possible. If she says yes congrats to the happy couple. I hope you suceed in this, and I am rooting for ya! If you want to tell me how it goes my email is: sqeeker05@yahoo.com
Go get her!
2006-08-21 06:37:49 · answer #7 · answered by christi t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be the best male friend is even harder than being a stranger,,,, you may need to get a shot of it and be ready to be rejected. She sees you as a friend, no doubt. But you have to tell her so you can be evevn better friends... or maybe something else...
2006-08-21 08:30:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a hard one if you sacrifice your friend trying to have a relationship and the relationship doesn't work, you most likely will lose the friendship too!! ask yourself is it worth it before you. and be confident in what you say she may secretly have had the same thoughts. good luck
2006-08-20 12:26:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been and still in the same situation but what I did very causaly ask her if you didn't have a boyfrient whould you go out or even consider going out with me, and then from there you will get your answe.
2006-08-21 08:27:43 · answer #10 · answered by Frank S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋