How do I get my husband's attention sexually?

Question

I am 43 yrs old,my husband and I have been married 25 years. I seem to have a hard time getting him to notice and want me sexually. I will admit that I am not the same size that I was when we married, but I don't think I am a real loser now either. I am 5'9, 150lbs, and fill out a 36D nicely. I realize that is not a model figure, but I don't think that it should be considered a major turn off either. I have been open to any sexually suggestions, but when I ask he just tells me that it likes things just the way they are. I may not be that young any more, but I am sure not ready for my sex life to be over. I love my husband, and we get along great in other areas, just not sexually. Please help me out with some suggestions.

Answer 1

Wear a skirt without any underwear the next time you go out, and then "accidentally" drop your keys/purse/whatever in front of your husband and bend over in front of him to pick it up. If this doesn't arouse him, you'll have to slip some viagra in his beer or something...

Answer 2

Give your Husband MORE ORAL SEX:
Good oral sex is excessively joyful for both sex. The deepthroat is a erotic pleasure that only an oral dedicated person can give for the actual sex partner. When properly performed, deepthroat is the most powerful sex technique.
There are lots of sites on the Web which offer various oral sex guide including deep throat, written by professional sexologist.

Buy a SEXY LINGERIE:
Here are some reasons why men love lingerie. Some of these may surprise you:
1. Men like the idea that their woman is taking the time out to do something special for them. It makes them feel that they are worthy to their partner. It is like you have a private titty bar right in your very own house. A man watches porn all day, he likes to see his wife look like the women in the movies.
2. Men don't want an old hag that looks like a grandma. Most men want a woman that is beautiful and willing to take care of herself. The idea of her wearing sexy clothes goes along with this. If she spends a few minutes caring what she looks like, then chances are she cares what you think of her. That makes you feel special. Also, it makes your penis hard when she bends over.
3. Lingerie can help people get out of the ho hum life they live. A woman who takes care of the kids all day can't wear sexy clothes. Why pay a hundred dollars for something when the baby is going to spit up all over it?
4. I think this is the same reason why girls enter beauty pageants. They want to know that someone thinks they are good looking. When she sees how aroused you get when she wears that special bra and panties, it makes her feel good. It gives her a chance to escape from the world that she lives in.

Also it spices up life a little bit. It makes people feel good that they have the ability to change things for once in their life. They can change the go no where sex to hot steamy sex just by wearing something a little different.

Answer 3

Sometimes you have to flirt like when you were dating for the first time..You know keep the fires going..Why don't you suggest going away for the weekend..look online for a nice romantic hotel with maybe a hottub..just being in a different setting helps..Bring something sexy that you have never worn before..be a little trampy like..ya know...maybe a body stocking..look online and see what all is there that might suit you. Be daring and provocative.

Answer 4

Hmm, have you tried checking into, say, a spa package? There is something about feeling pampered and clean that can charge a couple sexually. He may be feeling not very sexy, either, and something like that could start some sparks. ... I would say the usual suggestions, such as costumes and adult videos, but he may not be entirely into that. But hey, maybe try this - surprise him one night while he's out.. you know, candles burning, his favorite chill out music playing, and you in the sexiest lingerie you can find... maybe play some songs that remind both of you of your early courtship! That may spark something, too! Best of luck to you, I really hope any of my suggestions help.

Answer 5

Take your relationship out of the bedroom or stop in for a drink with him at a strip club and buy him a dance don't get jealous but do it for him after all he will be going home with you. I f that is to risky try some porn or maybe even try new positions on him. Best of all go a head and ask him about the best sex in he has ever had and then you provide it. Let him explore your body and you his (wink wink).

Answer 6

well, you should never ask to have sex. i do think that when it happens just out of the blue, like some random place when neither of you really know it is going to happen, that it is soo much better. i am not sure how often you have sex now, or if you do at all, but when he wants it, don't let him have..let it build up, it will make him want you more if he goes a while without it. but you have to be sexy. buy you some sexy victoria secret lngerie. be sexy for him. do something spontaneous that you don't usually do. plus, keep the passionate kissing into the picture..

Answer 7

My wife and I were married for 20 years when she was killed in an auto accident. Even though I never lost interest in sex, (she always said I was horny 24-7) she would spark some interesting long sexy night by meeting me at the door in a towel or totally nude. After dinner she would sit beside me on the couch and ask me to massage her feet, she would come up behind me and touch my back then touch my front................then well, i think you know the rest.

Answer 8

after work one day just arrange a quiet evening together and watch a movie @ home (alone), (try to find a movie that might have a few topless scenes in it) get him to lay in the floor and offer to give him a back rub w/lotion, gat him to strip to some jogging shorts, this might take awhile but go all over his backside and when you are rubbing his legs and are close to an (erogenous zone) get as close as poss. to "the spot" but never touch it, this creates anxiety, pretty soon he will want you to touch it, turn him over and do the same, if you touch all his body EXCEPT that place he should want you to, just be sure not to over do it as i do tend to fall asleep when massaged all over and am totally relaxed. just remember the secret is to act like you dont want it-this arouses "the chase" in a man again. i know its wierd but if a guy feels like he can anytime he wants its almost no fun anymore!? (after a certain age) nd this individually different. accidentally give him sneak shots around the house, like you dont want him to see you naked, just a little here and there. buy a push up bra, i go nuts if they are standing straight up. oral is a big turn on if thats an option. its really hard to say no to a girl with her face in your waist! wake him up in the middle of fri night like this, a man CAN get aroused while asleep, just be careful not to wake him untill its too late! if you want to make it where hell want an encore if you "practice" during the day flex like when you have to pee and are trying to hold it in, flex and release flex and release. this strengthens this muscle and during intercourse if you flex and dont release (for awhile) its a very good feeling for him! hope that helps. now i need to go have a cold shower.

Answer 9

It sounds like you have been trying and he's not getting too excited. Poor you. I don't know acout your hubby, but lots of guys like it when the lady acts out with role playing in the bedroom. e.g. The innocent school girl (in uniform of course).

If that doesn't help, give me a shout.

Answer 10

about 30 minutes to an hour before his alarm goes off in the morning u should wake him up by going down on him. if he doesn't notice u then. your sex life is definitely over with. at least with him.