One of my co-workers is 31 and has four children, she's gone back to school to finish up her Bachelors degree and is thinking about joining a sorority. She asked my opinion and I told her that she already has her hands full with her children, work and school and a sorority would demand more of her free time than she had...I also mentioned that sororities are usually for younger students who are away from their families etc... Now she's accusing me of calling her old and not being supportive to her, was I wrong in giving this advice????
2006-08-13 08:42:05 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
No, she is too old to join a sorority. Unless she is into keg stands, fraternity mixers, running across the campus through snow- wearing only her bikini, scavenger hunts, beer pong, singing sorority songs in public and generally hanging out and partying (no kids allowed) with 18-22 year olds.
2006-08-13 08:51:59 · answer #1 · answered by cvillecmd 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, that depends on her motivation for joining. If she is doing it only to be a part of a club and to simply be recognized as a member of something then I would have to say that it is a bit immature of her to spend time becoming part of the organization. I belong to a sorority and did a great deal of research on the one that I belong to before I joined, and when I did join I had my own stable reasons for doing so. My sorority is very active in the community and has plenty of programs that allow us to work with various ranges of other organizations and social service networks to uplift the community and I, as many of my sorority sisters do, participate in several. NOW, she does not have to belong to a sorority to do some of those things if she wants to do them, although the sorority may provide her some avenues that may otherwise be closed to her...but membership does have it's privilidges and can be beneficial to her. The networking resources that could open up for her may be another worthy reason for obtaining membership. Unlike many people seem to believe, we are not all bumbling idiots with a need to belong to anything...nor are we all slutty, snobby and boy crazy. Many of us have various degrees and are valuable contributing members of society. I am not saying that some sisters are not like that, but there are people like that both inside AND outside of our membership. Do some research before being so quick to catagorize, condemn or judge all women who choose to join sororities. Many of them have rich histories and have very prestigious and dedicated humanitarian members who do a great deal of good in the world.
2006-08-13 16:18:58 · answer #2 · answered by pinkpearl0872 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is having some kind of age crisis and many people fear the truth. You gave the right advice. Usually I dont like to say that but in this case, she needs to work , take care of her children and finish up school. She will be taking time away fom more important things. When one is older, priorities change and she should realize that. If she cant handle the advice she shouldnt ask.
2006-08-13 15:50:49 · answer #3 · answered by hechicera_de_la_alma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone should avoid sorority/fraternity...it just distracts from their studies. If she wants to make contacts she should get good grades and make friends with her profs.
2006-08-13 15:48:53 · answer #4 · answered by Perry L 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think it is a bit imature of her... once you have kids you have to be more mature for them, sound like she wants to relive her glory days... and don't sorority's have age limits???
2006-08-13 15:49:05 · answer #5 · answered by Stacee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she only doing it to meet guys? Seriously though she needs to sped time with her family.
2006-08-13 15:49:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋