This is my 3rd question in the 'Girls' category. My wife of over 30 years will tell anyone she does not need sex. That's fine for her, but not for me. I accept her feelings and for the most part leave her alone. Her feelings are not my fault, it is purely her. I go somewhere else to satisfy a natural human need. Am I wrong?
2006-08-13 07:34:05 · 33 answers · asked by ADRIAN H 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't think you are wrong. I do think that you should tell your wife what you are doing. She has a choice of accepting it or stepping up to the plate and taking care of your needs. And yes, this is coming from a woman.
2006-08-13 07:38:18 · answer #1 · answered by Alaska 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
In a word YES!!!!!!
Why don't you sit and speak to your wife about why she doesn't want sex and see if you can resolve the issue together instead of going off and selfishly finding it elsewhere.
Also
"Her feelings are not my fault, it is purely her"
wtf!!! That in itself sounds horrible and i feel even more sorry for your wife for being married to a sod like you. Marriage is for better for worse and if she is feeling bad it's up to you too to help her feel better. I wouldn't be surprised if your wife knows about your selfish attitude and feels completely let down and hurt by you, Her so called husband, and this in turn is making the sex issue worse. Women are not stupid and i bet she even knows or suspects you are getting your kicks elsewhere. What your wife needs is a loving supportive husband who is willing to support and help her get her sex drive back, not an insensitive pig.
Shame on you!!
Either do what a good husband should, talk to your wife and try and resolve this set back or put the poor woman out of her misery and leave so she can find a man to give her the love she deserves.
2006-08-13 07:51:52 · answer #2 · answered by kirsty1416 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes you are in the wrong. Instead of going out and fulfilling your pleasures find out what is bothering your wife and what you can do to help fix the problem. Ever one needs sex in their life. Something has to be wrong for her not to want it. help her and fix the problem. then you wont have to go out and have an affair to get pleasure. its wrong. how would you like it if your wife went out and got pleasure from someone else. And she would rather go some where else then find out what the problem is. Look at it both ways. Maybe counseling will help. Dont give up. Remember your vow for better or for worse richer or poorer til death do us part. deep down in your heart you know its wrong so dont do it. help you wife.
2006-08-13 08:42:46 · answer #3 · answered by girlfriend 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. But maybe you can fix things. Talk to your wife. Maybe she would be ok with it. I know their was a time when I would have stayed with my bf and let him sleep with someone else so he would leave me alone for sex. I think some counseling may be needed. Good luck!
2006-08-13 07:44:28 · answer #4 · answered by 30somethin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES. Get a divorce if your not sexually satisfied. Women and men go through that period at one point in their life. What if you suffered from impotence would you like her going somewhere else to satisfy her need. She needs to see her doctor, maybe she should get on the anti-depressant Welbutrin XL it helps to increase the sex drive in women.0
2006-08-13 07:39:33 · answer #5 · answered by rockwithelmo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been to couples counseling with my wife. It works. You might suggest having her see a physician about hormone therapy or some other form of medicinal intervention. Try communicating more and see what she likes or expects from sex. Maybe role playing? We really love it. As far as your going elsewhere, it's your call but for me, marriage was my choice of one women for the rest of my life. You've got some work ahead of you, if you still love her, it's worth it. Good Luck.
2006-08-13 07:42:11 · answer #6 · answered by Ben 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are definatly wrong. When you married her you made a committment to her, that you would be with only her. By going else where you are breaking your committment, your loyalty, and your faithfulness. You either need to stop straying and get counseling, or get separated. You can not continue to do this to your wife!
2006-08-13 08:10:01 · answer #7 · answered by Alycia B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't really go anywhere else to satisfy your needs. Maybe, explaining to her how you feel may help things, ask her why she isn't in the mood, perhaps seeing a doctor to get some help is also a possibility.
2006-08-13 07:42:59 · answer #8 · answered by lonely as a cloud 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
totally dude u r wrong. having sex with someone else is cheating and cheating is nvr justified.. work it out for ur wife. or ask her can u go out to satisfy ur need. if she says yes then fine.
2006-08-13 07:38:07 · answer #9 · answered by cranberries 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes your wrong but shes wrong to!! She should know that you're a guy a sex is part of ya'll everyday life style, and on your case you should tell her how u feel and if she doesnt meet your standards than maybe yall should break it off!
2006-08-13 07:40:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋