Why does everyone hates me?

Question

I dont know why does everyone hate me. I'm 25 female, alone, single, not even in the dating scene and feel that everyone is so against me .
Friends
I dont know why they love to gossip about me. keeps saying that i like to keep my relationship to myself. i mean come on if i dont have anyone special why should i make up some stories. and they dont introduce me to their bf's like there are 6 people in our circle and all other 5 get to knoe each other bf and its like i'm always gets news last. i used to do part time jobs and live on small amt of money for almost 4 years , i had to borrow some of their money to support myself(i was the poor one in the group) while they all had good jobs .. but now when i have a better job with much better pay, allows me to travel, then them all of them suddenly ignores me and gives me dat ,"oh so u think yr better then me treatment" . yes i paid all my debts to them already. knw them for like 7 years and i really donoe whats is wrong

Family
I have 6 siblings and i and the eldest. yes i still live with my parents. every mth i have them almost one-third of my income and still they its not enuff.. my younder sister is working. my mother is working too ..
my father .. i just hate him and i think he hates me too.. he keeps saying i'm a pig. yes i know i am fat but i hate it when he says that.

my dad is not working and all he does is sit at home watch tv and don't even do the chores. i just hate my dad, he keeps saying that i will never find a man that will love me because i am fat and ugly. he used to hit my mom and me when i was younger. even though now he does not . i hate the words that come out from him. i know my mom is pretty but i just donoe why he keeps asking my mom to lose weight . they have this thinking that if yr not pretty men will just leave you. probably that is partly the reason why i cannot commit to a relationship. sometime i wonder if i'm their real child or not coz all my other siblngs where treated better. no used talking to my mom coz all she says is are you ok or just walk away from me . i tried to just ignore and do my stuff quietly and they sayim trying to sever my ties with them because i have $$$.. i really donoe what to do

Hey peeps..i really appreciate yr advice.... thanks!

Answer 1

I suggest you get a counselor or therapist, talk to your doctor about depression meds, you have some issues with yourself that need to be fixed, no one can love you if you don't love you. The only way a person hating you can affect you is if you let it, and that's where you should choose to LET GO of the person which you clearly cannot or just will not. You choose to be unhappy, which says you need a little emotional help. People are attracted to people who are self confident and reliant, if you are not people will walk all over you- because you allow it!

Answer 2

Honey, I am sure you are not fat and ugly. If you are overweight, that is something for you to deal with if and when you want to. Your dad is wrong. If you have a better job now, please try to move out. Get a small apartment on your own. Anything will be better than hearing horrible things about yourself. Your self esteem is the most important thing.

I know from experience that it is way too hard to lose weight when someone is tearing you down every chance he or she gets.

Get your own place. Start going out with other people. You will meet people who will love you for yourself.

It may take time but each day you can improve your life.

Good luck and God bless you.

Answer 3

You said you travel. OK, next time you go somewhere and return home make up a story about your dream date and tell everyone how hot he is. Make it sound like a hot passionate Latin lover that can't get enough of your time. He wants you to come back to him all the time and he calls you incessantly. You have to tell him not to call you all the time at work. And he drives this really hot Porche 911 that he rebuilt by himself and installed turbo. He wants to come and visit you but you're afraid he would get in the way of work by convincing you that you didn't need to go to work that day.
You just don't know what you're going to do about him, but he is so hot you can't stop thinking about him. and you want to be with him because he brings out the real woman in you.

That's good for starters. Even though it's make-believe it's still fun. Your friends will never know the truth especially if you write this all down in a personal journal and one day leave it open (accidentally) for them to see a real fiery entry.

And it will begin to develop in you the type of man that you really want to be with. Who knows you may have to break off the relationship with this guy because he was too intense and start one up with a junior executive of a large corporation in another city.

Have some fun with it. At least until the real thing happens.

But most of all...STOP BEING A VICTIM OF YOUR OWN IMAGINATION. Take control and make it great.

You may become an accomplished author of love romances.

Answer 4

You are probably imagening that everybody hates you, because you are a little insecure. Hate is a big thing and I am sure your Dad doesn't hate you either, he is probably concernd about you, becaue you might be overweight and he wants his "girl" to find that someone special and get married. Try to join the gym and you can make new friends and at the same time loose weight and feel great. The weight watchers program works really well too. Believe it, once you get in shape you feel so much better about yourself and you like yourself and others. Put your head up.

Answer 5

Ok first of all, you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself. You say you are alone, single, etc etc. So do something about it! I think your friends treat you that way, because they are probably tired of hearing your pessimistic remarks. Im sorry this sounds mean, but the only way you deal with this problem is by helping yourself. Try to be more optimistic about life, and be friendly to others. Remember, there are always other people who are far worse off than you are. You should be thankful you at least have a good job.

From a friend

Answer 6

Because the parts of a group are like the characters in any soap opera and when you change up the finite and infinite dynamics of groups and how the parts interact with one another, they get uncomfortable. Uncomfortable to the ignorant = tension and bad feelings.

Find new, smarter friends.

Either that... or you have just outgrown them and need to move on and you're creating scenario for yourself to justify wanting to leave?

Be honest with yourself and you'll figure it out.

Answer 7

I guess I might be able to give you a little advice....When we change our lives we have to make new friends...I recently "lifted myself up" into a new income bracket and I had to give up a lot of my old friends, and I didn't really fit in with my new friends either. It was tough for a while, but I am older than you so it didn't get to me the way it is to you. I remember that left out not included feeling from my younger days. It hurts. Really, I know. What I did was I stopped trying to be with those people who used to leave me out. I made myself not phone them, or drop over.

Answer 8

Time to move on! No wonder your depressed! Get away from the emotional abuse at home. Usually people who cut others are really unhappy with themselves. Sounds like you need to get some new friends too. Take up a hobby,join a club or church group,your bound to meet new friends. Good luck!

Answer 9

Move out and find you a better circle of friends. Do you don't let anyone get you down go out and enjoy life you have no kids no real family and friend support it seems like so relocate travel and just say F**K em'!

Answer 10

First of all...realize that you're better than this treatment that they are giving you.

They are probably just jealous.

Second, if you want to meet someone for YOURSELF and not just b/c it would satisfy your friends, check out this site:

http://www.eharmony.com

Find some more friends that you can hang out with, so that you have other people you can talk to without feeling let down and ignored.

Good luck.