2006-08-13 07:33:32 · 21 answers · asked by pokerlady 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
because of the fact given already..could it be that I'm just not in love with him anymore?..I mean..i lovehim..but i know that the two are totally different..
2006-08-13 07:59:14 · update #1
I don't think its very abnormal, in a lot of families it works fine. But also your husband should be able to turn you on with his love and you should have love and such feelings for him. I mean if you are not doing it every night it okay, but it would be a little abnormal if your husband is not getting you to do it.
2006-08-13 07:52:26 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have been having sex with your husband every single night, and now you don't want to, something in your body may have changed to make it so you now don't want to. If you are asking is it normal to have that kind of frequency, here is what I have learned from my husband of 16 years (almost). Men can get the urge about 3 times a day. If they had a willing woman available, they would probably have sex 3 times a day.
My husband is lucky if he gets it once a week, but that is more due to scheduling conflicts and timing than his urges. If I am "not in the mood", and he wants it I remember that he always makes it good for me, before it is over, and do my best to relax. Then nature takes over and I can enjoy it. That is one way I show my love for him.
2006-08-13 07:56:33 · answer #2 · answered by Pegasus90 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to have sex with your husband every night, I don't think there's anything wrong with you. But it's important that you're not giving your husband the impression you're being put out and are grudgingly giving in.
The reasons why you don't want to should be discussed with him and ask him to help you reach a compromise.
Would he still think you're a wonderful wife if you pleased him another way besides having actual intercourse?
Would he like it if you initiated things more often? Sometimes men feel like theyr'e begging if their wives don't initiate and become a little obsessed about it.
More often, they're more content if their wives take the initiative and 'jump' them once in awhile.
Hope this helps.
2006-08-13 07:54:14 · answer #3 · answered by toota956 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No there is nothing wrong with that. It's healthy to skip a night here and there. Sex every night can wear thin and then sex can be boring. (sort of like the same old same old) Make him wait for a night or two and then watch him go crazy, you will feel better too. More excited.
2006-08-13 07:41:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No there is nothing wrong with you, but don't shut him out of your life for that period of time. You can still sit around and kiss or make out without having to go all of the way. It is true that most woman are completely satisfied with just talking or touches from their significant other. Guys on the other hand has been shown need to have the act of heavy touching and intercourse to communicate and show their love. Don't make him think that you are cheating by not getting romantic. This comes from experience.
2006-08-13 07:40:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. Few people have sex every day to begin with, and once you've been in a relationship for a while, the amount of sex tends to lessen.
And ignore those people who say it's your wifely duty... if you have an honest, open relationship with your husband and he has any respect for you, he'll understand if you're not in the mood every night. If you have to force yourself to have sex, you won't enjoy it, and then you'll have to force yourself every night--it starts a vicious cycle.
Besides, if he has to wait a few days, he's going to be VERY excited when you're ready, and it'll be much more fun for both of you :)
2006-08-13 07:43:52 · answer #6 · answered by trailerparkmedic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with you married women not wanting to have sex with your husbands? You was having sex every day/night when you wasn't married to him, so you shouldn't change now. When you married him, your body belongs to him (according to the bible). A wife shouldn't withhold her body from her husband because that's not the way it's supposed to be. What I'm trying to say is "You and your body belong to him. If he wants it, he should get, no if's, and's, or but's about it!"
Hmmmm, and you wonder why most married men have affairs....
Take care of your man's needs before somebody else will!
2006-08-13 07:40:27 · answer #7 · answered by CTargrl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, never. But if ur husband need it in daily basis try to satisfy him in other manner. By doing it u will develop a verygood relationship with him and he will understand ur feeling very well.
2006-08-13 07:43:16 · answer #8 · answered by manoj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not every night but as long as u didnt lose your urge to have sex cause then somethins messed up
and fyi i really hate it that people today talk about sex like its such a dirty thing for real its one of the most beautiful gifts God gave us
2006-08-13 07:40:21 · answer #9 · answered by prophetoftruth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No- your ok- 3 or 4 times a week should do. If he insist, perhaps satisfy him in another way.
2006-08-13 07:44:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋