Can anyone please give me more info on gas lighting or mind manipulation?

Answer 1

http://www.youarenotcrazy.com/

Hope this helps & take care....

Answer 2

I read your other question, and when the answerer says your boyfriend is trying to "Gaslight" you, that's a reference to a motion picture called "Gaslight." In it, a husband (Charles Boyer) tries to convince his wife (Ingrid Bergman) she's insane so he can search through her home for jewels hidden there years before.

In the movie, Charles Boyer does almost EXACTLY what you describe your boyfriend as doing -- he hides things and then claims that she lost them, he tells her she said and did things that she didn't, and eventually she believes she is losing her mind. Only when a police investigator (Joseph Cotten) gets involved do things start to turn around for her and she eventually realizes that her husband was trying to make her believe she's insane.

First let's look at the possibilities for what's REALLY going on, then at some options for you.

1. Is it just barely possible that you ARE having memory lapses for some reason -- stress, disease, fatigue? Would it ease your mind to be examined by a professional to make sure you AREN'T? Explain the whole thing to whoever you go to, but pick the doctor yourself, do NOT let your boyrfriend know you're doing this, and explain that you want to make sure you really ARE well before continuing. Once you know for sure you're not going insane, then it will have to be one of the other two options.

2. Is it possible that your boyfriend is having memory lapses? Again, there may be a very innocent -- but no less damaging -- reason for the way he is treating you. Extreme stress can induce the kind of behavioral changes you describe; so can drug use. And even long periods of insufficient sleep can cause people to lose track of the difference between reality and imagination.

3. He COULD be trying to make you think you're losing your mind. If so, what's the motive? In the movie "Gaslight," the wife inherited a house that used to belong to her aunt, who was murdered for a set of extremely valuable jewels that were never found, and the husband was searching for these jewels. What would your boyfriend's motive be for trying to make you crazy? (And "because he's a creep" may in fact be all the motive he needs.) What would he gain by driving you insane?

My recommendation:

Get a neutral third-party to act as your advocate, preferably someone with the professional background (either medical or legal) to help you out -- there are public counseling organizations available if you don't have insurance to cover visits to a legal or medical professional. Document everything your boyfriend says you've done, forgotten, lost, or whatever -- keep a private journal with dates, names, places and times. Don't confront your boyfriend, in case he's the one going insane, but DO document your "alibi" -- again, with names, places, dates and times. Perhaps your best bet today would be to email the professional who's acting as your advocate; that way your boyfriend can't find your journal, and it will be in a "safe place" -- the computers of your counselor.

And... if it was me, I'd have to know first and foremost whether I really WAS losing my mind. And if I knew I wasn't... then I'd set up a way to trap the person who was trying to do this to me, in such a way that they would suffer the legal consequences of what they were trying to do to me. Which is why I suggest that you get a legal as well as a medical counselor as step one.

Answer 3

why would you want info on mind manipulation when it is wrong to try to do that to someone.

Answer 4

I think if your so worried about being brain washed, maybe it would just be best to go your seperate ways, thats no way to live your life if you cant trust the person your with.