i was molested when i was about 8 by a family member i once trusted. no one really knows about itexcept my mom( who did nothing except chew him out). i am 19 now. my husband knows and i talk to him but it is still scares me. it has scarred me mentally.
2006-08-13 07:24:00 · 10 answers · asked by my_first_time 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
it was an uncle
2006-08-13 07:28:50 · update #1
I think you should. Maybe going to a shrink and letting it all out and having him/her make you understand why you are so scared will help you realize that its all in the past and now you have a husband who will take care of you and not let something like that ever happen to you again. I think you being married shows a lot though, you are able to be with a man and have him show you love in various ways. But talk to a shrink and see what happens. Goodluck, I hope everything goes well for you.
2006-08-13 07:32:47 · answer #1 · answered by The1ULuv2Hate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know from speaking with people over the year how these memories nover disappear. If Im not mistaken, people generally gont ever report such things to other until they are 40. At leat in your case you told your mom and arent stuk believing that it was somehow your fault. It's amazing how so many people never tell. Talking with someone who truly understands might be helpful; not necessarilty your random shrink, You're on the right road.
2006-08-13 07:31:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to find a good psychologist to talk to this about because it is so traumatic. But if you are going to look for shrink, find someone who trusts theirs, and go with them.
Also try to find someone who has a style you like, there are ones who will just listen, who will repeat back what you tell them, or who will respond.
Do plenty of research first, before you go with a shrink.
I might advise a psychologist, just because they are trained to help people in different circumstances.
2006-08-13 07:29:09 · answer #3 · answered by blessed_11706 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to hear that
your mum should have done more
i think its good that you hubby knows and the fact that you can talk to him shows how much he cares
you could try and talk to a shrink or maybe you could try talking to you mum and finding out why she didnt do much
also, its no where near the same thing but when something bad happens to me i write it down in a note book then put it away
so why dont you try writing down every thing you can remember about it like. when it happened ,how you felt ect
then lock it away or trow it in the attic and you can sort of get it out of your head and its ike you dont need to remember it and go over it cos it book is doing it for you
2006-08-13 07:32:50 · answer #4 · answered by jimmyjanga 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should talk to someone. I suggest you see a professional who is trained in helping someone in this situation. Talking with just about anyone would help, but a professional knows the right things to say and vantage points to work.
I'm sorry you have to deal with this...and it will alwasy be in the back of your mind, but you can learn how to cope with it via a professionals help.
Do it soon, you don't want this to "mess" with the rest of your life!
2006-08-13 07:39:31 · answer #5 · answered by Deana G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would strongly recommend to see a psychologist. You have nothing to lose but your fear and that terrible memory will never leave or be forgotten but you will feel more at ease. I also think that it is great that your husband understands, kudos to him. You need to talk about it openly to a professional and perhaps you will feel much better. Good luck honey.
2006-08-13 07:29:40 · answer #6 · answered by ♥reeses*pieces♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely!
I was a skeptic when it came to suggestions of counselling and psychology but it really helps.
You may go through a few before you find one you can really connect with. I suggest you see a female practitioner too.
2006-08-13 07:34:41 · answer #7 · answered by Sparky5115 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have nothing to be scared of, you did nothing wrong and he can't harm you again, get over it- and go on with your life. Many people have to overcome much worst things in life.
2006-08-13 07:42:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i definitely think you should talk to a shrink...i don't know of anyone who was ever able to get over something like that on their own...
2006-08-13 07:29:09 · answer #9 · answered by chelley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick his ***
2006-08-13 07:27:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋